The Zen Master Emei Wuxiang felt thirsty while traveling around. He looked around and found a young man stepping on a water wheel, so he went forward to ask the young man for a glass of water.
The young man talked with the Zen master and said enviously: "Zen Master, if one day I see through the world, I will definitely become a monk and study the Dharma. But I will find a temple to live in seclusion, meditate and meditate, completely get out of the world, and will not travel around like you, and live in the world."
Zen Master Wuxiang asked with a smile: "Then when will you see through the world?"
youth said: "If there is someone who can take over me to take care of the water wheel, my task will be completed, and I can become a monk at that time. But now there are still worldly ties."
Zen Master looked at the turning water wheel and asked again: "Then please, please Tell me, what will happen if the water wheel is all immersed in water or completely left the water surface?"
youth replied: "After all immersed in water, it cannot be turned, and it may be washed away by water; if it completely leaves the water surface, the car cannot come into the water."
Zen Master Wuxiang smiled and said: "This is the relationship between the individual and the world. If a person lives completely in the world and is immersed in the world, it is easy to be overwhelmed by desire; but if he is completely born and completely left the world, it is like a water wheel leaving the water surface, losing its source and foundation. "
On the surface, Zen Master Wuxiang responds to the young man's desire to live in seclusion after becoming a monk.
We can also give another understanding of the Zen master's words, that is, since no one can completely escape the influence of the world, as long as we reflect on and reflect inwardly at all times and anywhere, no matter where we are, we can comprehend the Dharma;
As long as we release the inner constraints and remove the dust from the mind, we can clear our minds and cultivate our minds wherever we are.
tells another story in the Buddhist scriptures.
Zen Fifth Ancestor Hongren years old, and I want to find one of my disciples with wisdom and pass it on to him.
So he ordered his disciples to write a verse to test their cultivation.
The great disciple Shen Xiusong said: "The body is Bodhi tree , and the heart is a mirror platform. Wipe it frequently and do not cause dust." After hearing this, Hongren nodded, but did not speak.
Future Sixth Patriarch Huineng was in the kitchen at this time. After learning this news, he also recited a verse and asked someone to write it on the wall, saying: "There is no tree in Bodhi, and the mirror is not a platform. There is nothing in it, so where can dust be caused?" After seeing this, Hongren praised it and passed it on to Huineng.
Knowing oneself is a huge project
In this process, people are easily affected by the surrounding environment and are disturbed by noise in the environment, resulting in the inability to form an objective understanding of themselves. To this end, you must release your mind in order to clear away the fog and interpret your true self.
There are two dogs with similar figures, and they walked to the two mirrors.
The dog standing in front of convex lens saw that the self in the mirror was enlarged, and he was arrogant and arrogant; the dog standing in front of concave lens saw that the self in the mirror was too small, immediately dejected and pessimistic and disappointed.
In life, you will always encounter different mirrors, restricted by different images, and your heart will be bound. Only by clearing the illusion on the surface can we relieve the inner constraints and touch our true self.
Nicethet said: "A smart person will lose nothing as long as he knows himself."
"Joe Harry's Window" theory advocates being open to others.
In fact, it is particularly important to be open to yourself, and no one can fool yourself.
Self-observation is not to deliberately suppress emotions, but to test whether your emotions are in line with the situation at that time.
psychologist Clarkson said: "There is no failure in life. Everything is successful. They are all learning experiences."
learns lessons from mistakes and does not fail. The premise for learning lessons is routine self-reflection.
Confucius advocates self-reflection
His quotations are recorded in "The Analects of Confucius·Li Ren", which says, " Think of the virtuous and the virtuous , and reflect on yourself when you see the virtuous."
means that when you see a virtuous person, you must think of catching up with him; when you see an unvirtuous person, you must reflect on yourself and keep yourself clean.
His disciple Zeng Shen further developed his thoughts on this basis, saying: "I examine myself three times a day: Are you unfaithful in your plan? Do you not believe in your friends? Do you not practice it?"
Zeng Shen believes that you should reflect on yourself many times every day: whether you are loyal enough, whether you are trustworthy when interacting with friends, and whether you have learned knowledge frequently.
After continuous reflection, people can constantly correct themselves and make progress.
0 The famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty Zeng Guofan received mixed reviews in history, but this did not prevent him from becoming a model for future generations to cultivate themselves and reflect on himself. He is accustomed to recording his own mental journey into his diary and listing twelve rules for himself in the diary, with the following content:
1. Lord respect: neat and serious, fearful at all times. When there is nothing to do, your mind is in your heart, and when it comes to things, you are dedicated and not complicated. Qingming is in my bow, like the rising sun. It means: keep your clothes neatly, have a serious and serious expression, and be vigilant at all times. Check whether you have idle thoughts in your heart, concentrate on your work and focus without distractions. This will ensure a vigorous spirit, like the rising sun in the morning.
2. Meditation: Every day, sit quietly for four moments, experience the kindness of the coming and going, and condense your life in the right position, like a tripod. It means: Sitting in meditation to cultivate one's nature. No matter when you are every day, sit in meditation for more than an hour, experience the kindness of the saint's teachings, so that your thoughts will not be offside, and you will be as calm and unshakable as a treasure tripod.
3. Get up early: Get up at dawn, don’t fall in love after waking up. It means getting up at dawn, and don’t be nostalgic for comfort after waking up.
4. Reading is the only one: If you have not finished a book, you will not read other books, read them all, and behave in other people's ways. Every day, you will take ten leaves (it should be "pages"). This article emphasizes that you should be dedicated to reading. You should not read other books before you finish reading a book. It is not good for you to look around, so you can circle at least ten pages every day.
5. Reading history: In the year of Bingshen, the adults said: "You borrow money to buy books. I will try my best to make trouble for you. If you can circle it, you will not let me down." Then, circle the ten leaves every day (it should be "pages") and stop being unfilial. This article tells the story of "Twenty-Three Histories" purchased by borrowing money. Zeng Guofan's father paid back the debt for him and warned him that if he could write it around, he would live up to his wishes. To this end, Zeng Guofan decided to circle ten pages every day. If there is any interruption, it would be an unfilial act.
6. Careful words: Be careful and the first skill is. It means being cautious in speaking and always paying attention. This is the first level of skill in dealing with people.
7. No matter how nourishing Qi is stored in the Dantian, there is nothing that cannot be said to others. It means to cultivate one's true energy, be upright and open, and nothing can be told to others.
8. Protect your body: In December, I received an order from the adults: "Sales for labor, desires, and diet." It is always regarded as a care for illness. This article emphasizes keeping good health. In December, I received a letter from my father, asking me to restrain my hard work, my desires, and my diet. Treat your body as you are in recuperating.
9. Know what you have died every day: Daily reading records of your experiences, and the meaning of asking for deep meaning is to favor others. It means to understand unknown content every day. When reading, you should record your experiences and thoughts, and do not deliberately dig deep meanings from the book, otherwise you will be surrendering to others.
10. The month has no way to die: write a few poems every month to verify the amount of reason and whether the energy is nourished. Do not be attached blindly, as it is most likely to lose one's heart and ambition. In other words, you must review the knowledge you have learned every month, write a few poems or articles, to test whether the knowledge you have learned in
is enough and whether the true energy you have cultivated is sufficient. You cannot just delay, otherwise you will easily wipe out your ambitions.
11. Write words: Half time after breakfast. All socializing ink is regarded as your own course. Everything is not waiting for tomorrow, and the accumulation becomes more and more difficult to clear. It is emphasized that you practice calligraphy for one hour after breakfast every day, and regard social engagements in writing as an opportunity to practice calligraphy by yourself.Today's matters must be handled today, and don't wait until tomorrow, otherwise the more you accumulate, the harder it will be to clean up.
12. Don’t go out at night: be tired from doing things, be careful and be careful. That is, if you don’t leave the house at night and refuse to engage in excessive social activities, otherwise it will easily cause you to be tired, exhaust your spirit, and affect your mental state the next day.
These twelve rules involve reading, self-cultivation, maintenance, homework and other aspects. He asked himself to do the content listed in the table item by item and keep it in his diary to urge himself, while also strengthening his perseverance. Zeng Guofan wrote a diary for 33 years and has now become the object of learning and imitation for future generations.
Writing a diary is an effective means to understand and reflect on yourself
record your actions, thoughts and thoughts every day. If you have time to read them, it will help you understand your personality strengths and weaknesses, so as to work in a targeted manner and improve your personality.
However, the pace of modern life is getting faster and faster, and fewer people can persist in writing diaries.
Nowadays, a kind of nine-grid diary is popular on social networks. Unlike traditional diary, the nine-grid diary template is divided into nine squares. The square in the center records the date and weather. The contents of the other eight grids can be set by the person who writes the diary themselves, such as happy things, things done for others, plans and memos, emotional insights, diet and weight, etc.
9 grid diary is very convenient to write. You can quickly summarize your day with just one sentence or even a few words.
9 grid diary emphasizes attention to yourself.
Although each of us knows what we should pay attention to, we may not necessarily take the initiative to execute it in real life. Writing a diary will make people constantly reflect and adjust their behavior.
For example, recording your daily diet and physical condition can force yourself to pay attention to your health, adjust your diet reasonably, and arrange physical exercise.
If you think this nine-cluster is not enough to let you see yourself clearly, then we can make a nine-cluster diary focusing on self-cognition. The square in the middle of
records the overall mood of the day, and the other eight grids can be set to the following content: the strongest emotions you feel in a day, the occasion when you feel this emotion, this emotion controls the reaction you make, whether this reaction is appropriate, the reaction of others, how self-control is, whether you feel your own value, and which side of your personality still needs to be improved.
Of course, you can also adjust the content according to your own situation so that it can serve yourself better. The biggest advantage of a nine-grid diary is that it classifies experiences in life, helps you see your heart clearly through the diary, reflect on your behavior, and urges you to complete your plans and achieve your goals.
If you can sit by the computer every night and write your own nine-grid diary, recall your happiness and depression, help and help, weight and health during the day, as the end of the day, over time, you will definitely know yourself more comprehensively.
If you are willing to share your diary with your friends, find out your strengths and shortcomings from their comments, so as to develop your strengths and correct your weaknesses, then you will be able to achieve your goal better.
The famous story of "Snow White" in Grimm's fairy tale records the dialogue between the queen and the magic mirror.
Queen asked Magic Mirror: "Who is the most beautiful woman in the world?" Magic Mirror replied: "Dear Queen, you are extremely beautiful, but Snow White is ten times more beautiful than you." This answer inspired the queen's jealousy.
She wants to get rid of Snow White at all costs, with the purpose of making Magic Mirror admit that she is the most beautiful woman in the world.
Magic Mirror never lies, although the queen kept trying to assassinate Snow White and believed that Snow White was dead.
Magic Mirror still told the Queen again and again that Snow White is still alive, ten times more beautiful than her.
Although this has caused a new round of disaster for Snow White, it also shows that others' eyes are sharp.
If you want to know a complete self, in addition to self-reflection, you should also pay attention to other people's evaluations
1793, when 23-year-old Hegel graduated from Tubingen Theological Seminary, he received a comment like this: "Hegel, poor health, medium-sized figure, poor rhetoric, taciturn; high talent, sound judgment, strong memory; smooth writing, upright style, and sometimes not very hardworking; he has achievements in theology. Although he is not without enthusiasm in his attempt to preach, he seems not an excellent preacher; he has rich language knowledge and very hard-working in philosophy."
This comment is only about a hundred words, but it clearly points out Hegel's advantages and shortcomings, and predicts his future development direction.
After this, Hegel did not choose to be a preacher, but continued to work hard in philosophy and became a world-renowned philosopher.
We say that in order to know ourselves objectively, we need to try to be an inner bystander.
However, it is indeed difficult to do so.
If you listen sincerely to other people's suggestions and know yourself from other people's evaluations, the self-awareness you gain will be more effective and comprehensive.
Of course, we need to carefully analyze other people's evaluations, otherwise we will lose ourselves.
" Warring States Policy " records such a story.
Qi Minister Zou Ji Wake up in the morning and looked in the mirror, feeling that he was beautiful.
Thinking of the famous handsome man in the country, Xu Gong , he was a little unconfident.
So, he asked his wife, concubine and guests who were more beautiful than Mr. Xu.
Everyone says he is the most beautiful, and Mr. Xu is not as good as him.
Zou Ji was a little fluttering.
When I met Mr. Xu the next day, Zou Ji looked at it carefully and felt that Mr. Xu's appearance was far better than him.
He thought about this from beginning to end and understood that the reason why his wife said he was more beautiful was because she preferred him; the concubine said he was more beautiful because she feared him; the guest said he was more beautiful because she wanted him.
Zou Ji is really rare to be able to reflect on himself objectively.
What is even more rare is that he was able to use this matter to remind him of national affairs and thus advise him to King Wei of Qi .
He first talked about the whole story of this matter, and then said: "Now our Qi country is a thousand miles away, with 120 cities. The palace maids around you do not favor you, the ministers in the court are not afraid of you, and the small countries around you do not ask for you. In this way, you will be seriously deceived."
King Wei of Qi is also a rare enlightened monarch.
He thought what Zou Ji said was very reasonable, so he ordered the ministers and the people to give advice, and set the level of reward. After the order of
, everyone expressed their opinions on national events, and there were crowds of people.
As time goes by, fewer and fewer people give advice. A year later, the political landscape of Qi State changed greatly. The small countries around surrendered one after another, and Qi has since jumped into the ranks of powerful countries.
"Look at the best and reflect on yourself when you see bad things." is a method of self-moral cultivation proposed by Confucius, and it is also an effective means of self-emotion control.
The so-called self-reflection means guiding one's thoughts, words and deeds through self-evaluation, self-reflection, self-criticism, self-regulation and self-education, and controlling one's negative emotions, so as to achieve the purpose of seeing oneself clearly and improving one's cultivation.
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