"Is it better to wear black pants? Gray pants?"
"Do you want fried chicken or hamburger?"
"Who are you like, stubborn like a donkey!"
"No, I want it Wear this and go out!"
"You will catch a cold when you wear this. If you don't wear a new coat, why do you wear autumn clothes?"
"No students wear coats..."
"You want to freeze Show it to others and make them think that my mother is not taking good care of me?"
"This is what I want to wear. What does it have to do with my mother?"
"Just keep hurting my mother like this! Or you don't go to school , I don’t know what the little one knows, my temper is so stubborn!" Although the result ended with the mother's victory, the mother, who had broken her mouth, was in a terrible mood, and the child went to school while crying. Mom thinks Xi Jing's temper is too stubborn, a little unreasonable, but readers, please think about it, is Xi Jing's stubbornness really serious?
In fact, Xijing's mother should also think about it, is it true that it is true to let the child dress warmly? From the child's point of view, isn't it because you are afraid that others will see your child's dress and secretly laugh at how you make your child wear this way? Is it to satisfy mom's own vanity? It should be fine for children to put on autumn clothes and go to school in winter. As long as the child wears it once, he will know that the single clothes will not play a big role in keeping out the cold, so he will give up the original dress and know that he should listen to his mother's opinion.
Buying clothes for children is the same. Don’t let your children buy clothes just because they like them. In this way, the "war" triggered by the dress early in the morning can be avoided.
When a child gets angry, mothers may wish to think about it before trying to teach the child. Is this really a problem for the child? Did you interfere excessively with the child? In fact, it is not necessarily a big problem for children, but it is wrong for mothers to teach children to satisfy their own ideas. From a certain point of view, the firm behavior that children insist on is also a manifestation of independence, so they should be happy.
Child psychologist Dr. Konescart Ryle suggested that parents should avoid strenuous dealings and contests with their children.
-Now teach children what is the worst situation that can be caused if they can't help them correct their behavior? How will this affect my child's future?
——Does what the child does now threaten his own safety?
——If it was not my child, but other children who did this behavior, would I react in the same way?
Even if you think the clothes chosen by your child are not in your taste or even a little weird, please open one eye and close one eye. This will not have any impact on your child's future, will it?
Of course, there are some willful behaviors that can't stand idly by, and must be eliminated in the bud. For example, on a road that is not a pedestrian crossing, a child insists on asking to cross the road; or, when riding a car, he feels uncomfortable and does not wear seat belts. The most direct method must be used to force the child to obey. opportunity. Because things that can threaten the safety of children's lives cannot be left alone.
Furthermore, mothers should distinguish between pure willfulness and clear subjective and determined behavior. Those who have succeeded in the world have stubborn and willful sides. Once stubbornness plays a positive role, it will become obsessiveness. Mothers should not unconditionally change the child's willfulness, but should use the positive part of it.
If you want to get rid of your child’s stubborn character, you should narrow down the scope of your questions when asking questions. For example, don’t ask your child "what do you want to eat" when preparing dinner, but ask your child: "Do you want fried chicken or burger?" If you want your child to wear pants, but the child wants to wear a skirt, don't ask The child "wants to wear" and asks "Do you want to wear black pants or gray pants". Narrow the scope of questions and give children more choices, so as to avoidPrevent children from playing their temper unnecessarily.
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