Talking about sexual discoloration is the norm for most Chinese parents! Even if the child asks relevant questions, most parents are either ashamed to speak out, or as a shopkeeper, with one sentence [you will know when you grow up].
In fact, sex education is not a "scourge", nor is it [seeing no one]. If parents always avoid answering, they will not only increase the child's curiosity, but also search for answers from other channels. Rather than let the child fumble blindly, it is better to answer generously and positively, which will help the child's safe growth.
As children grow older, their curiosity gradually increases, and the questions they ask often stump many parents. Faced with some tricky and embarrassing questions, how should parents answer? Dad Wenwen sorted out a few embarrassing topics that were frequently asked. Parents who are worried about answering may wish to learn.
01, "Mom, where did I come from?"
believes that many people have asked their parents this question when they were young, but the answer they got was not [pop out of a crack in the stone], or picked it up from [garbage dump] .
was born in a family that favors girls over boys. For a long time, Wenwen’s father really believed that he was [picked up from the garbage dump]. It wasn't until after I went to junior high school that I knew how perfunctory and ridiculous my mother's answer was.
Faced with this question of children, how should parents answer it correctly?
For children under 3 years of age with limited comprehension ability, parents can answer like this: You came from the belly of your mother! There is a place in mother's belly called the uterus, it is like a house, you lived in it for about 10 months. Later, you grew up slowly, and you couldn't live in this house anymore, so you were born and live with your parents in the current house!
For children over 4 years of age with certain cognitive abilities, parents can answer: There is something called [sperm] in the father's body, and something called [egg] in the mother's body. When the sperm is combined with the egg, it becomes a fertilized egg. The
fertilized egg is the first you. As you grow up in your mother's womb, about 10 months later, your mother's womb can no longer hold you, so you are born from your mother's belly.
02, "Why am I born to my mother and not to my father?"
After knowing where he came from, the curious baby asked his soul torture: "Why am I not born to my father?" , Was asked this question. When
was first asked by his daughter, Wenwen's father was also confused and didn't know how to answer. After a moment of contemplation, Wenwen’s father hugged his daughter and said, “Because mothers are women, and fathers are men; only women can give birth to babies, but men can’t give birth!” Suspicious Wenwen questioned: “So it is!” .
In fact, for children above the middle class of kindergarten, parents can also guide them through body organs, such as: mothers have uterus in their bodies, but fathers do not! So dad can't give birth to you. Although Dad cannot give birth to you, Dad loves you as much as Mom!
03, "Mom, why can't I take a bath with Dad"
Some time ago, Wenwen's brother came to play at home, and when he took a bath at night, his father would wash him. After taking turns, he also clamored for his father to wash. Said: "My elder brother is washed by Dad, why can't I let Dad do it"?
coaxed for a while. After entering the bathroom, his mother explained to Wenwen: “Because his brother is a boy, his father is also a boy, so it is his father who washes with him; but Wenwen is a girl and his mother is also a girl, so it is his mother who gave Wenwen. Wash; just like we go to the toilet, boys can only go to [men's toilet]; girls can only go to [women's toilet]".
In the process of bathing Wenwen, his mother also told Wenwen: "Bathing is a very private act, and the opposite sex should not be present; in daily life, privacy should also be protected. Do not give it to the place hidden by the small vest and panties. People can't touch them when they see them."
In fact, not only girls and fathers, but boys and mothers are the same. As children grow up, relatives also need to maintain a sense of boundaries.
04, "Mom, what are uncles and aunts doing?" After
saw the kissing scenes in the TV series, many parents would think of distracting their children or immediately changing channels to avoid them. The star Sha Yi once shared such an interesting fact on Weibo: Seeing the intimate scene in the play, let Xiao Yuer help to pour the water; several timesAfter the water, Xiao Yuer asked her father [Do you want to drink water when you see someone kissing]? Sha Yi was embarrassed to speak frankly.
In fact, when they see the kissing scene in the play with their children, what parents have to do is to answer the children positively, such as: baby, uncle and aunt are kissing! Kissing is a way for uncles and aunts to express their likes; only two people like each other! If the aunt does not like the uncle, the uncle cannot kiss the aunt.
sex education is a gradual process. As parents, it is necessary to give their children correct sex education. But for the reserved Chinese parents, sex education is still unspeakable! In order to alleviate this embarrassment, parents can use relevant picture books to let them speak for their parents.
0-3 years old children, picture books are based on understanding the body
For children under 3 years old, parents can buy some related picture books that recognize body parts, so that children can learn about body parts from the picture books, and understand the physiological differences between boys and girls.
Children aged 4-6, picture books focus on exploring life. Children at this stage of
are mostly curious and often ask their parents some embarrassing and difficult questions. When parents cannot answer, they can choose some picture books that focus on exploring life, such as [Where do I come from]. Picture books like
can also help children build up the correct sense of physical boundaries and let them know how to protect themselves.
Children from 6-15 years old, the picture book focuses on physical development and love.
For children over 6 years old and adolescents, while their bodies develop rapidly, their knowledge is gradually expanded and their knowledge of sex will gradually deepen.
At this time, parents can buy some story-type books and picture books about gender equality and adolescence that are relevant to the children, so that the children know how to protect themselves from the books.
In short, parents should face up to sex education. When children ask embarrassing questions that are difficult to express, instead of making up stories and perfunctory handling, it is better to answer children's questions positively and naturally, which will be more beneficial to children's growth.
Interactive topic: How do you answer these embarrassing questions from your children?
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