had an immature knowledge of money when the child was young. Sometimes, children’s choices will inevitably be more material, such as "If you don't give money, I won't do housework" and "What's the use of learning this, and I can't make money".
Many parents worry that their children will follow the money and develop the bad habit of eating lazy and loving comparisons, so they often talk about "our family is poor". We all know that parents say these things, hoping their children know the value of these items, but they inadvertently conveyed a wrong message to the children-"You don't deserve these things."
"I like this toy, can you buy it for me?"
"We have no money and can't afford it!"
"Mom, I want to buy a pair of sneakers."
"Our family is poor and can't afford it!"
" Mom, can you take me on a trip?"
"Mom has no money and no time."
Don't think that parents are just stingy with their children, in fact, they can do something with themselves. On a forum, some netizens cited the frugal behavior of their parents, which made them blush.
Someone said: My family clearly has a washing machine, but my mother insists on hand washing.
Someone said: My parents have always used vegetables and rice at home. Only when their children go home will they be a little bit embarrassed.
Someone said that every time Dad went to the restaurant to eat, he would take the remaining tissues home.
also said: The air conditioner in my home is just a decoration, and it won’t be turned on no matter how hot it is. Just after taking a shower, I sweat again.
Parents love to cry poor and live frugal. The starting point is to make their children live a better life, but excessive frugality is not only a virtue, but instead develops children into psychologically poor. Once a child contracts the "mentally poor" disease, no amount of money can be cured.
Parents' excessive frugality, what are the harms to their children's growth?
1. Limiting the child’s vision
Every child’s request is rejected by parents as “poor” and “too expensive”. The child will mistakenly believe that he is not worthy of these beautiful things.
Excessive frugal behaviors such as parents' habit of crying for the poor and greedy for petty gains can make their children very stressed. Once he encounters new things, he will hesitate, resulting in a limited pattern.
2. Let the children have no self-confidence.
As the saying goes: "Pretend yourself, and when you stand up, you will win half of your aura." This is a famous saying in "Kung Fu Panda". Where there are people, there is a comparison. This is true for adults and the same for children. Whenever a child sees other people dress well and eat well, but they and their parents are not shy, it is inevitable that they will develop an inferiority complex and their self-confidence will gradually disappear.
3, become inexhaustible
Some parents work hard, give everything to their children, but forget to teach their children a correct view of money, this is the most stupid educational behavior. When a child is a child, the parents will be satisfied with what the child wants. Once the child is used to it, he will naturally not understand the hardships of his parents and become a selfish hedonist. How does
help children establish a correct outlook on money?
1. Let the child know how the money comes from
When a child wants to buy something, instead of crying poor and crying to the child, "There is no money to buy", it is better to tell him "this thing is suitable for him", and then encourage the child to get it through hard work What you want. From an early age, let children know that in addition to sunlight and air, everything else in the world needs to be obtained through labor.
In daily life, we should let children experience the difficulty of making money, only then will they know the hardship of their parents and the hardship of money. In this way, without parents crying poor, children can learn to be frugal and grateful to their parents.
2. Let the child learn how to spend money
When the child receives the pocket money and the new year's money, parents should not confiscate them all. We can use this money to teach children how to allocate it reasonably, that is, how to spend it correctly.
For example, we can plan a year's expenditure plan with our children. Then tell the child which expenses of his should be borne by his parents; which expenses must be used in his small treasury. In this way, the child will make a year-round wealth based on his own moneyBusiness plan.
3. Tell your child the importance of saving money
Instead of crying poor to your child, let him know the importance of money. Parents work hard, and the wages they earn can buy food for the family, buy furniture, and help the elderly see a doctor, so money is very important and cannot be wasted.
has taught children from an early age: Although money is important, it is only a tool for our family’s happiness, not our goal.
4. To let children know how to cherish
and establish a child's correct view of money, we must let him know a truth: money is not everything, and it is not the whole of our lives. Compared with money, family affection, friendship, love, and career are the goals worth pursuing and fighting for all our lives.
It is a long process to cultivate children's correct values and outlook on money, starting from children's ignorance and continuing until they grow up. In this process, children will inevitably make mistakes and regress. This is a normal phenomenon. As long as the parents have enough patience, the child will surely become a sound, responsible and responsible pillar.
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