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Recently I saw a video where 3 or 4-year-old children don’t want to use children’s special items when taking a bath, but just want to use adult shampoo to wash their hair. Her parents rejected her, but the two sides were in a stalemate.
Comment area has many different opinions, and I immediately discovered the blind spot: this is the child's [Sensitivity Period of Order] .
But some netizens disagree.
Order sensitive period? Don't know what? I only know that following the child, it will be a rebellious period soon.
pair, this is the sensitive period of . Following the habit, two years will be the childish period; following the habit, two years will be the adolescence; following the habit, two years will be the rebellious period; following the habit, and following the habit, and after two years will be the rebellious period; following the habit, after two years, what should I do if I go out of society?
is going to take care of it, do you think it is still too late?
has some support.
This life is so hard, it’s okay to choose according to your child’s preferences, right?
So why can’t she even make a shampoo decide by herself?
Adults always like to use authority to pretend to be rules to tame children. To adapt to the sensitive period of children, this is not called spoiling, it is called scientific parenting.
I don’t understand the sensitive period of order, but as long as she likes it, why don’t she use it for her?
1. The gap in the sensitive period, if you miss it, what will your child lose in the growth?
Italian early childhood educator Montessori pointed out that there are two main driving forces that encourage children's development: One is sensitivity and the other is absorbing mind.
Sensitivity, as the name suggests, is a motivation that appears in the sensitive period of children. It has captured that a certain aspect of the child's growth is like a rocket.
This motivation will drive the child to try or learn about specific things that he is interested in, and will not disappear until the inner needs are met or the sensitivity is weakened.
For example, in the case mentioned above, children's stubbornness in choosing shampoos is a sensitive period.
However, the sensitive period is very short. If you grasp the sensitive period well, your education for your children will definitely achieve twice the result with half the effort.
When I was a kid: Why is this child so disobedient!
When I grew up: Why is this child so unintentional?
Of course, don’t be too obsessed with the cultivation of various sensitive periods. Catching and missing the "sensitive period" is not just a matter of thought, and missing children are not helpless, and becoming successful does not depend only on the past few years. All kinds of statements are alarmist.
You must believe that the human brain is plastic throughout its life.
2. What sensitive periods can we capture?
All sensitive periods for children aged 0-6 years proposed by Montessori:
Order sensitive period, language sensitive period, motor exploration sensitive period, social sensitive period, small object sensitive period, and sensory learning sensitive period.
For example, when we understand that children will experience a sensitive period of order in their development, we will know why at a certain period of time they are particularly paranoid to ensure that everything is placed in a specific pattern, and if it is not going well, they will lose control of their emotions and cry.
Children are eager to take the initiative to engage in some activities. If parents allow them to do some activities and encourage them, children will gain confidence and a sense of responsibility.
Excessive interference from parents will cause children to develop a lack of attempt and initiative, and form guilt and inferiority.
We know how to respect the characteristics of children at this stage, without forcing or controlling them, and enhance children's awareness of the controllability and predictability of the external world, thereby increasing their sense of security.
Sometimes we want children to do something, won’t they stay indifferent? For example, if he asks him to pack up his toys by himself, he always fails to hear and procrastinate.
At this time, two multiple-choice questions can be raised, "Baby, do you want to clean up the toy A or clean up the toy B first?"
let the child choose by himself, and let him do many things by himself, so he can feel the pleasure of completing the task. Most of these children will be more independent and confident.
So don’t be fooled by the title party articles anymore? Children have their growth rate, and you must believe in yourself and your children!
—— Today’s author——
Kaforniay
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