It seems that most "Chinese parents" are the same.
For children, education and college entrance examinations, they have always been stubborn and stubborn.
It seems that as long as the child is born, he cannot get rid of such a fateful educational process:
From prenatal education to early childhood education, from elementary school to middle school, from middle school entrance examination to college entrance examination.
It seems that no matter what step the child takes or how much he learns, parents and teachers can attribute all the credit and responsibility to themselves.
And the child, from beginning to end, is just an executor who is not valued and cared about.
Just like this, how many children do still live in the shadow of their parents even when they grow up?
First of all, it is nagging.
Of course, we have to say that parents’ nagging is, to a certain extent, a specific manifestation of their “feeling of love” towards their children.
However, the harm caused by this communication method, can only experience and feel the taste of it.
In fact, most children, even if they have a random attitude towards learning and going to school, will also want to work hard and be refreshed and refreshed in the process of preparing for the exam and pre-examination.
However, at the "junior moment" when the child wants to work hard but has not yet started to work hard, the parents' words and deeds and look will largely determine their children's interest and desire to memorize and do questions.
For example, if the child has clearly decided to study, and the parents have to urge and urge the child to study again and again, then the child is likely to turn down the book and hold his mobile phone to play games because of his rebellious mentality.
For example, the child originally planned to play this game and was ready to do his homework. If the parents kept complaining and nagging in the child's ears repeatedly, the child may need more indulgence and entertainment in order to calm and soothe his frustration.
Therefore, the matter of educating children also emphasizes "hastness will lead to failure".
As parents, in the process of getting along, accompanying and guiding our children, we need to always have a kind of cautious words and actions and a warm and tolerant attitude. No matter what situation we encounter, we must learn to speak well with our children and reason slowly.
Don’t always raise some trivial things and accidental things on your child to the height of life and future, and then use this to force and threaten the child to agree with your own ideas. Educational methods like
are destined to not achieve satisfactory results.
Secondly, it is expectation.
It is of course a good thing for parents to have expectations and yearn for their children, and then use this as their goal to educate their children.
But the problem is that under the current increasing educational anxiety, too many parents set their children's academic and life goals at 985 prestigious schools or even Tsinghua and Peking University.
But we should also think calmly:
The real ability and potential of our own children, and whether they have the strength to successfully get into key high schools and prestigious universities.
Otherwise, excessive expectations and excessive " Chicken and Baby " will not urge and motivate for children, but will force and hurt.
It is precisely because of the high expectations of many "chicken parents" that many children who have been studying hard for a day but need to endure and bear the heavy emotional pressure from their parents feel increasingly exhausted and depressed.
To be honest, most children are willing to be a "good baby". In their studies and life, they can win the recognition and approval of every family, friends and strangers around them.
But the result is that in order to make children not proud, keep pace and slack, many parents always put a "stinky face" in front of their children from beginning to end. often pays no comments or sneer at the honors they have earned through their efforts and painstaking efforts.
makes many children feel depressed and unable to feel true and complete satisfaction and happiness when they grow up, even throughout their lives.
However, what is even more sad is that this is obviously too cold family affection, but more and more parents regard it as an educational method that can effectively motivate children to be positive and motivated.
Isn’t this the biggest regret we have in the process of educating our children?
In fact, parents can try to communicate with their children carefully about their confusion and troubles in their youthful growth with a more open-minded and open-minded state of mind. Only when we understand and understand the specific ideas and understanding of children in their academic life and become spiritual confidants and partners with them can we judge the situation and give children the most pertinent and practical suggestions, so that children can make timely adjustments and responses in intense study and preparation for exams, and live up to their enthusiasm when they were young.
In short, the words and deeds of parents who educate their children should be the support and help of their children on the road to growth, rather than the obstacles and bonds of their children when they are young and ignorant.
And as children, who had never been heartbroken for the nagging and excessive expectations of our parents?
So parents, Please treat your children well and let them be happier in addition to learning!
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