01 Introduction "If I put down the knife, I can't protect you; if I pick up the knife, I can't hug you." For today's parents, there must be many people who are as embarrassed as Edward, the scissor hand in the movie. As the pressure of social competition increases, most parents c

01 Introduction

"If I put down the knife, I can't protect you; if I pick up the knife, I can't hug you." For today's parents, there must be many people who are as embarrassed as Edward, the scissor hand in the movie, when it comes to parenting. As the pressure of social competition increases, most parents can only choose to make money to support their families and leave their children to their grandparents to take care of them. As a result, the disadvantages of this generational education have caused many families not only to have family conflicts, but also to have many negative impacts on the growth of children, which has led to the increasing distantness of children from their parents, and even affects their personality development and physical and mental health. So is the education between generations good? How much do parents know about this?

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Advantages of intergenerational education

In today's society, with the rise of "small families", compared with the "big family" life model of "three generations living together" and "four generations living together" in the past, the feelings between many children and grandparents are often much less indifferent than those in the past. For example, some children live in the city with their parents all year round, and they can't meet their rural grandparents a few times a year, so they will naturally feel very unfamiliar. At this time, many parents will envy the deep love between grandparents and grandchildren and the happy family atmosphere. And intergenerational education often has such benefits, and the benefits are more than this.

1. The elderly have enough time to take care of their children

Many elderly people have plenty of time after retirement. At this time, if they are asked to take care of their children, they will often be more meticulous and thoughtful than parents who are busy with work. The patience for children is also more than that of young parents, and can listen to their inner thoughts well and meet their various needs. Moreover, parents should also find that even some parents who are not very good at their temper often become very patient when they meet their grandchildren, which will make them feel safe for their children.

1. Parents with elderly children are at ease

In life, we often see some news about nanny abuse children on the Internet. For elders who are thicker than water, they will be very dedicated to their grandchildren and even love them more than their parents. Therefore, for parents, they will feel at ease to hand over their children to the elderly. This will also make them feel free to worry at work. Similarly, for children, they will grow healthier and happier.

1. The elderly have rich experience in raising children

For parents, it is their first time to be a parent, but grandparents are not. Therefore, when it comes to parenting, the elderly are usually more experienced than young people. When encountering various problems with their children, the elderly will deal with them more timely and calmly. This will also be very beneficial for the growth of children.

1. The elderly have good character with their children

For many elderly people, their growth experience is often destined. Compared with the young people today, they have more traditional virtues, such as the elderly are usually more thrifty. Also relatively simple. Therefore, for children, under the subtle influence of grandparents, they will help them form good qualities and establish good living habits. This will be very beneficial for children's future life and study.

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Disadvantages of intergenerational education

Every thing is one and two sides, and the same is true for intergenerational education. If there are benefits, there will be benefits. If parents do not pay attention to the following, it will be very harmful to their children.

• spoils children too much

As the saying goes, the relatives are in the heart. For the elderly, grandchildren and grandchildren often make them like and spoil more than their own children. Therefore, in the process of raising children, the elderly will spoil their children very much. They will not only meet the needs of children, even if they are unreasonable, but also help the children take everything in all kinds of fear that the children will fall and touch them.In this way, it will not only make the child lose his ability to take care of himself, but also make the child's personality more and more selfish, become arrogant and domineering, and be self-centered. Such children will inevitably suffer losses after going to school and work in the future, and may even be eliminated.

• The thoughts are outdated and superstitious

Some elderly people, especially in some rural areas, who are not educated, are usually outdated and even very feudal superstitious. Whether it is dealing with people or taking care of children, their methods are relatively backward, which is very unfavorable to the physical and mental development of children. For example, some elderly people who are sick will not take their children to the hospital for treatment, but use "earth recipes" to treat their children, or ask God for questions. As a result, the child's condition will be delayed, and in serious cases it will also threaten the child's life and health.

• lacks scientific mind

In today's society, with the development of science, people are increasingly paying attention to scientifically raising children in parenting. However, for the stubborn elderly people, they often feel that their experience is more convincing. They should not give their children randomly to eat, and they are not allowed to do whatever they do. As a result, the children's development in all aspects cannot keep up and eventually lag behind others, thus affecting the cultivation of children's self-confidence and personality development.

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What should I do if there is a conflict in parenting in the intergenerational education?

I believe that many parents, when grandparents help take care of their children, will lead to family conflicts with each other due to different parenting concepts. Even if some parents choose to endure due to the helplessness of the moment, they will inevitably explode over time. So what should parents do to avoid these contradictions?

First of all, as juniors, parents must learn to respect the elderly. Even if there is something wrong with the elderly raising children, they must not scold the elderly in person or contradict the elderly. Instead, they must learn to communicate with the elderly calmly and explain to the elderly clearly what harm they do to their children. This will be very easy for the elderly who help take care of their children. In addition, while communicating with the elderly, parents should also communicate with their children in a timely manner. Remember that parents should be the main force in parenting. If they find that their children have bad habits and problems, try to correct and guide their children by themselves.

Secondly, parents should take the elderly out to see the world more often, so that they can get in touch with new things, thereby subtly changing their thoughts and making them more willing to accept new ideas.

Finally, before parents ask the elderly to take care of their children, it is best to let the elderly come to the house to adapt in advance, and then communicate and adjust in time, and make a parenting agreement. In this way, when conflicts arise later, there will be rules to follow and the problem will be easier to solve.

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Conclusion

For children, the best parenting comes from their parents, but in reality, there are always all kinds of helplessness. When our conditions are not enough to take care of our children, letting the elderly take care of their children is undoubtedly the best choice. So as a parent, what you need to do is respect, be grateful to the elderly, and learn to communicate calmly with the elderly. In addition, when you are busy, parents should also spend more time with the elderly and children and take them out more to make the relationship between their families stronger.