The child’s aunt has been teaching in elementary school for more than 20 years. After retirement early, she set up a nursing class. Sometimes I take time to help her take care of it.
On Sunday, I met a somewhat strange parent there.
and the parents agreed to meet at the custody class at 4 pm. At three o'clock, my sister-in-law and I were opening the door when we went to the tutoring class. The parents hurriedly brought the child with us and said as soon as we met, "I'm looking forward to you!" We welcomed the child's mother into the classroom, and the mother was filled with anxiety. The child is quiet and quiet, not talkative. Under his long eyelashes, his dark and dark eyes always secretly look at you and then lower his eyelids.
Mom said that because of moving, the child was about to be promoted to the third grade, so she transferred him to this more famous elementary school. It's almost a semester now, but the grades are getting worse day by day. The teacher called her all day long, but she really didn't know what to do. I heard that the teacher here is good, so I came to ask for advice. Although he is a little anxious, he is a very good at talking mother.
My aunt comforted her not to worry, let’s talk to the child first.
asked a few regular questions, and the child spoke a little hesitantly and hesitated. In the new environment, this is also normal.
My sister-in-law took the child to another room and asked the child to make two small scrolls. It took not long, twenty minutes. I was chatting with the child's mother here, intending to understand the child's situation in all aspects.
After seeing the child walk away, my mother quietly asked me: "Do you think there is something wrong with my child?" "What?" I was a little surprised and puzzled. The mother paused, but said clearly: "Do you think there is something wrong with my child?"
It was the first time I heard a mother ask such a question from her mouth after decades of teaching! As a mother, you should know the most whether your child has any problems. I think no matter whether the child has any problems or not, the mother must have any problems, so I asked a few more questions.
Mom said, "I really have nothing to do with my teacher. My child used to be fine, but he was timid and slow to do things. But it was only three months since I arrived at this school. The teacher called me more than ten times, and was called to the school several times by the teacher.
At first, the teacher was very polite when he called, which means that the child did not like to answer questions and sometimes he did not do his homework in class. When I got home, I asked the child why he didn’t answer the teacher’s questions? Why not do your homework?
The child said: The teacher is mad at me, I don’t like her.
Just arrived at a new school and it is normal for the new teachers to be unadapted. The child is slow to do things, and I know that in the past, I had to keep urging me to do my homework. So he comforted the child and said: Are there many children in this school class? If a teacher wants to manage many children, he will inevitably be anxious; if you listen carefully to the teacher and answer questions actively, you should do your homework faster if your mother is not in front of you. The child nodded silently.
But the situation not only did not improve but it became worse and worse. The teacher became more impatient when he spoke on the phone. On several occasions, the phone time even exceeded an hour! And some words made me very sad:
How did the child’s previous teacher teach? The foundation is too poor!
Your child always doesn’t cooperate with the teacher and doesn’t even say anything!
How did you take care of your children? You are a failed mom!
I have never seen it before, but failed the math test in elementary school!
Have you parents taken your children to see a doctor? Your children are abnormal! All these words, I'm going crazy!
"Teacher, do you think my child has problems?" The young mother asked me again, "In addition to the math teacher, the head teacher asked me to come to school to face it last time. I also said this."
felt the helplessness of this young mother, and I was also filled with sadness and anger. What is sad is that many parents do not have the right method to educate their children and do not know it, and do not take time to study; what is angry is that many teachers are becoming increasingly impatient and have turned the service guide into the uncle! But it is no wonder that for the sake of the children, many parents are particularly tolerant in front of the teacher and hold the teacher high; they are not angry in private and demoted the teacher to death.
I continued to ask: What did the head teacher ask you to go to school last time?
That time I rushed to the school and saw the child standing dejectedly beside a tree on the side of the teaching building. I quickly ran to the child, asked the child about the situation, and called the class teacher. The child said, mom, I want to go home.
At this time, the head teacher also came out and heard the child's words and said to me: "Take your child back quickly and find him a good school. We really can't teach him." He also said, "Today, the math teacher asked me to tell me that your child did not listen to the class, and he ran out of the classroom. The teacher asked him to go back to the classroom. He hugged the tree tightly and said that he would not go back to the classroom to listen to the class. You can't take the child, so how can we teach?!"
I really didn't know what to do at that time and had to take the child home, but how could the child not go to school? Later, I did my child's work and made a statement to the teacher, and the child finally returned to school.
Teacher, you said, I have done my best. Every day when I get home from get off work, I will accompany my child to study no matter how tired I am, urge him to do his homework as soon as possible and teach him to listen to the teacher; but I think the more anxious I am, the slower the child is! Later, I couldn’t even write very simple questions, and I felt really stupid! Is there really a problem with my child? This is the fourth time she has said this today.
I sighed and changed the topic and said, "What about the child's father?" Mom said that the child's father works in another place and is very busy, and comes back once or twice a month.
Seeing my sister-in-law walking out with the papers, the mother asked anxiously: Please help us, take the child around! It doesn’t matter if you spend some money, I really don’t know what to do! Someone said that you are taking care of your children here.
The child’s aunt said: It’s okay to take care of the child, but I also have requirements.
Mom said you just mention it.
The child's aunt said first, the fee is normal, but you must have sex for one year at a time, and you will leave early without refund;
Second, except for holidays, I will rest at noon every day, do my homework and receive tutoring after school, and pick it up before 8 pm.
Third, we go to school on Monday, and I want to communicate with the teacher as the child’s aunt, and you will accompany you.
The last and most important thing is: I have two books on children’s education here, you can take them back and read them. In the future, you must be patient and whisper when talking to your children at home; after the child’s father returns home. You two should try to spend as much time with your children.
The child's mother repeatedly agreed. After the two agreed to go to school on Monday, they took the child away with great gratitude.
After she left, I told my sister-in-law, "Point 2, 4, I understand, what kind of understanding do you have in your request for point 1, 3?"
The child’s aunt said that first of all, there was a problem with the child’s family education: the father is always not around, he is less influenced by his father, the child is timid and cowardly, the child has a small range of life, rarely goes out to play, and has few contacts with outsiders, so he is more dependent and difficult to adapt to the environment.
3, the mother is impatient and likes to talk, and with a new environment, the teachers and classmates are relatively unfamiliar, which makes the children extremely unconfident
In addition, there are problems with the education of the school and teachers. Nowadays, many schools only evaluate teachers based on the only indicator of student performance. The famous schools also have a relatively large class capacity. Teachers' education management of 50 students are prone to impatient and lack patience, and some teachers are not responsible.
Then why do you have to have sex for one year at a time? This is not the case for other children.
The child’s aunt said that educating children is a long-term thing and can’t be effective in one day, so I have to charge a one-year fee. The purpose is to let her not be too anxious. Only when she patiently accompany the child and cooperates with me to help the child can the child change. I have seen too many parents who are fickle and do not understand education but do not have patience or concentration, so they charge for this; of course, if they have to leave, I cannot refuse to refund.
Yes, compared to the era when we grew up, the growth environment of children has become more complicated now. If parents cannot keep up with the times and do not learn theories about education, how can children be well educated?
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