Changsha Evening News, Changsha, September 7 (all-media reporter Yang Yunlong, correspondent Huang Rui Huang Meihua) Changsha kindergartens officially opened on the 6th, and the "parting drama" was staged at the entrance of the kindergarten these two days-the baby held his mom and dad. , Kicking and jumping, crying and not letting go... Faced with the separation anxiety of newly admitted children, what should parents do? Today, Hunan Provincial Maternity and Child Health Hospital child care experts advise parents.
Separation anxiety is an extremely anxious reaction that occurs when children are separated from their families, especially their mothers. It mostly occurs in early childhood and is common in children between 3 and 5 years old. Separation anxiety often goes through three stages. At first it manifests itself as resistance, crying, and rejection. The expression is extremely painful, unable to approach, or even crying all day, refusing to eat; then it manifests as helplessness, indifference, sadness, disappointment, and unloving. Talking and not interacting with others; in the end it seems to be "normal". The child uses a psychological defense mechanism to fight separation anxiety, and is indifferent to the separation of the parent. The parent thinks it is all right until the child has symptoms of physical discomfort (such as abdominal pain, headache) Just went to the hospital for treatment.
Facing the separation anxiety of children entering kindergarten, what should parents do? Head Nurse He Manfen of the Child Health Department of Hunan Maternity and Child Health Hospital said that parents should understand the reasons for their children's anxiety and adjust their children's work and rest. The root cause of children’s separation anxiety in kindergarten is the change of environment and living habits. Parents can use picture books or storytelling methods to share what will happen in kindergarten and what they will do from the children’s perspective, or take children to kindergarten to communicate with teachers , Feel the atmosphere and environment of the kindergarten.
Parents must also have skills when sending their children to kindergarten:
Avoid "fishing for three days and drying the net for two days". Compromise when a child makes trouble with his parents will make the child feel that as long as he cries, he may not have to go to kindergarten. When the parent sends his child to the kindergarten again, the child will get worse.
Avoid cheating. "I'm waiting for you outside." "I'll get you a toy." When parents find reasons to "run away" again and again, children will become more anxious, so when parents are present, they will be more sticky to their parents. When the child enters the kindergarten, parents must firmly say goodbye to the child and let the child accept the separation.
Avoid intimidation. "Cry again,I won't pick you up anymore! "Cry again, I will throw you away!" "Parents' mantras like this will only increase their children's fear of kindergarten.
Don't interrupt. Parents should not sneak to the door to watch their children. Some children have stabilized emotions, but they will cry when they find their parents are paying attention to him. , Stick to the parents.
Do not suggest. "Any children hit you? "Does the teacher kill you?" "Ask like this will only induce negative emotions in children. Parents should encourage children to express their feelings and accept their feelings.
Don't cry children, parents cry too. Parents cry when children cry, which will make children think that they don’t care about going to kindergarten. It is a very painful thing for them and their parents, and it will aggravate the child’s separation anxiety, which is not conducive to the child’s adaptation.
Faced with the child’s separation anxiety, parents should take positive measures. For example, bring toys that the child likes. , Use toys to dissolve children’s thoughts about their parents, and stabilize children’s emotions; more care, understanding, and caress for children. Parents should not reprimand children for separation anxiety. Parents should be patient with children and do some comfort Movements such as patting the child’s back, hugging, kissing and other physical contact, let the child know that his parents love him, this is only a temporary separation; cultivate the child’s self-care ability, so that the child gradually develops independent eating, dressing, hand washing, urination and defecation Get in touch with and communicate with other people more often, take your children to participate in group activities, let your children like to play and communicate with other children; parents should maintain a good attitude, parents should be patient when their children are experiencing separation anxiety , Don’t be impatient and angry, because the parent’s performance will affect the child’s mood.
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