Some parents have reported such a problem.
He found that his children always read some happy, perfect positive story books. He will avoid any part of the picture book theme that involves sadness, sadness, and anger. Ask him why he didn't watch it? He didn't say it? Asking the child again, he started crying, and never stopped. Let yourself often worry about this problem. Why do children avoid picture books with negative emotions without telling the reasons?
Obviously, his child still doesn't know how to regulate his emotions. How do we face such a problem?
First of all, say what mood you are looking forward to.
We can practice saying what mood we are looking forward to with our children. For example, "Child, what kind of mood do you want? The more specific you say, the better." Let the child feel what the mood he wants, just like the child would say: "I look forward to getting delicious every morning when I get up. Breakfast, and then go to school happily.”
Again, we need to let our children know that whether emotions are good or bad, it is a reaction to our surrounding environment. These feelings are real and natural.
As mentioned earlier, children do not like to mention or face their own negative emotions, and even choose to avoid and avoid contact with storybooks that involve negative emotions.
We need to let children know that there are always positive and negative emotions in everyone's heart. This is true whether it is a father, mother, teacher, or other children, not only himself. And it is natural for us to accept the existence of negative emotions. And you can choose how long to keep these emotions and how long it affects you.
Human emotions are actually our reactions to the surrounding environment.For example, when your classmate sees you saying "Why did you come so late today", the reaction to our emotions is different. It may be anger or anger, or it may be joy and happiness. The point is how you understand and interpret this sentence.
When a child interprets this sentence like this, "It's up to you when I'm here late", "Why are you here to find fault with me, I hate it!" It is easy to arouse anger and anger. When the child thinks this way and feels this way in his heart, you will find that these angry or angry emotions may make the child unable to eat or sleep well, even after the exam tomorrow, there is no way to calmly read the book.
Of course, if the child interprets it like this, "I can't see that you still care about me, thank you", the child may smile from the heart, and this smile may also make the other person smile. We need to remind children to accept the emotions they have.
Emotions that we like and dislike are natural and part of ourselves. It feels real and natural. The difference is how long we are willing to let these emotions last and how long we affect ourselves.
Finally, we can take our children to understand emotions from picture books
In the present flourishing and prosperous picture book world, we can find out some of the needs of the picture book.
Just like the topic of children avoiding negative emotions mentioned in the article, we can still find a suitable reading atmosphere in a natural way and share the time of parent-child picture book reading with children.
The advantage of picture books is to let children learn about various emotions that may exist through other people's stories, and to maintain a psychologically appropriate safe distance through other people's stories. Let the children be willing to be in touch first, and then experience various positive and negative emotions from the picture book reading.Then it is transformed into emotional experience related to oneself, from which to find similar relationships with each other. This also allows children to know that it is natural to have such emotions, not only for themselves.
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