"Keep your distance" from others, safe!
"Keep a distance" with the child, happy!
not only feels relaxed,
children also
Why should I "keep a distance" from my children?
because of
1. I can’t help but "noise" him
. The kid was reading a picture book attentively, and grandma came over to feed an apple, and grandpa urged him to drink, and then I took a sweat towel for him...
kid When painting, Bao Dad sometimes couldn't help but talk: the house is not finished yet, it would be better to add a window here...
Are these scenes familiar?
Our seemingly natural "care"
may be destroying the child's concentration!
Playing is a child’s learning process
So, the editor of
suggests “more companionship, less interference”
he plays well
we don’t need to always “remind” and “correct”
2 I can't help but "make up his mind" for him
"brush your teeth first, then change your clothes after brushing, the toothpaste is squeezed for you."
"dark clothes are too heat-absorbing, wear this white one today. "Z3z
" If you don't eat anymore, the rice will be cold!" Are these lines of
familiar?
always makes decisions for the child
, he may become disincentive, or even more rebellious
try to trust
in non-principled things
give the child a "sense of control"
, for example, wear blue or white
z Brush your teeth or change clothes first
, let him have the final say
so you don’t need to urge four times, he will be very active
3. I always "broken" my heart
when the child runs and jumps, I chase after shouting "Slow down and be careful of wrestling"; when the
kid wants to grow watermelon seeds, I help him install the soil in the flowerpot; the
kid wants to build a house with building blocks, and I help him design the shape...
these behaviors, Do you have?
seems to always "help" the child
actually "blocks" the child from doing things
as soon as he sees him encountering difficulties
can't wait to tell him "you should do this"
over time, his free thinking space Without
, the ability to withstand setbacks is also poor.
Therefore, smart parents occasionally have to "play stupid"
let him solve the problem by himself
or even let the child "help you"
such as "mother is going to have lunch , Can you help me wash the rice?"
Of course, it is not for everyone to be the shopkeeper
"intimate parenting"≠1 24 hours a day around the child
keep a proper distance with the child
give him a little more free space
Be less nagging, less control, less planning
let him grow while ensuring safety!
