In modern society, young people have a lot of pressure to live, they have to raise a car, they have to raise a house, and they have to deal with all kinds of education expenses for their children, so everyone is too busy like a spinning top and dare not stop easily. Women are anxious to return to the workplace after they have children, so they need to be raised by the elderly. Young people go out to make money, and a certain amount of alimony is given to the elderly every month. Some people will give their children to their grandparents, and some people will choose to take their children to their grandparents.
One of my classmates, Xiaoqing, got married after graduating from high school. She is very close to her natal family. She returns to her natal family almost every day. We are very envious of her. But suddenly for a while he didn't go back to his mother's house very much. Later, at a class reunion, we asked her why.
Xiaoqing said that once I went to my family’s house, my brother’s children were also taken by my parents. It’s good to have a few children together, but when children are young, there will always be some quarrels, sometimes Fight for some toys or something.
Once, it was clear that my child was not wrong. It was my brother's child who wanted to snatch her things, but my parents favored my brother's child and asked my child to give the toy to his brother's child. The partiality of my parents made me feel uncomfortable, and felt that he treated me and my children as outsiders.
Many elderly people have this situation. When grandchildren and grandchildren are put together, they will feel that grandchildren are closer, while grandchildren are outsiders and not so close.
Young people also have many ways to support the elderly. Xiaohua, a classmate of
, said that it is normal for the elderly to love their grandchildren. After all, the daughter’s children are grandsons and follow other people’s surnames. For the elderly, she feels that the grandson is not her own family, but the inheritance of her own grandson. My own blood, so I feel more intimate. The same goes for
. In fact, the old man has another purpose. The old man will feel that his grandson can be filial to himself in the future because he belongs to his own family, and even if the daughter’s child is brought up by himself, he will also be filial to himself. His grandparents are generally not responsible for filial piety to grandpa and grandma. Z1z
classmate Xiaolin said that women are actually very sad. After you get married, you will be like guests in your natal house, and in your in-law’s house, like outsiders, they don’t treat you as a family at all. For the elderly, grandchildren and grandchildren are treated differently. Especially in rural areas, their thinking is very traditional, and they feel that their grandson belongs to their own family and their grandson belongs to someone else's. In the future, filial piety also waits for their grandson to come. Filial piety, do not expect grandson to honor.
This is not only a practice of many elderly people, but also a practice supported by many young people. This means that when these young people are old, they will treat their grandchildren differently from their grandchildren.
In fact, many elderly people are able to help their daughters with children only because they love their daughters, not their grandchildren.
On the contrary, although some old people do not love their daughter-in-law, he loves his grandson very much. Generally speaking, the inter-generational relationship means that the old people love their grandson. If they love their grandson, they treat the baby as a baby bump.
In the eyes of the elderly, what is the difference between grandson and grandson?
First of all, they feel that their grandchildren are more close to them. In the concept of the elderly, they will love their grandsons more, because grandsons are the continuation of their own incense and the inheritance of surnames. Although their grandsons are also flowing with their own daughter’s blood, they are also their own grandsons. For the elderly, they will be more tolerant, caring and loving to their grandchildren.
Second, they are willing to take their grandchildren
There are many elderly people who help their sons and daughters-in-law and grandchildren, willingly, even if their sons and daughters-in-law treat themselves badly, they will feel that they are obliged to take their grandchildren because the grandson is their own. For the elderly, helping their daughters with their grandchildren feels like they are helping others with their children. Because my grandson believes in other people's surnames, although he has a certain blood relationship with him, he is not close to his grandson after all, so some elderly people will agree on the surface to help their daughters bring their grandsons, but the actual heart is not willing.
This is why there are some places where sons-in-laws and daughters let father-in-law and mother-in-law take care of their children, which will cost their parents hard and the elderly will also accept it. Will subsidize them.
third, help with grandsonI love my daughter
. For the grandparents of the child, helping with the grandchildren is completely loving their grandson. If the grandma and grandfather help with the grandson, it is entirely because of the mother who loves the child, that is, his daughter, not I really love that grandson.
If the daughter has no one to help with the child in her in-laws, and the daughter has to work and earn money and cannot take care of the child, then the parents will choose to help their daughter take care of the child because of their love and ease their pain.
Conclusion
In fact, whether it is grandparents with grandchildren, or grandparents with grandchildren, old people are a love. As young people, we should be grateful, knowing that it is not their duty for the elderly to take care of children. They come to help you take care of the children just because they want to reduce your burden.
They were originally retired, they were old, and their health was not so good. They should have spent their old age peacefully. When they were free, they would do Tai Chi, dance square dances, and then travel with old sisters and brothers. Live their old age well. But they choose to help us with the children, just to reduce our burden. We must be grateful for their contributions and consider their hard work. In fact, bringing children is a very tiring job. Young people will understand if they participate in it, that kind of hard work is not something ordinary people can bear.
Young people, besides, feel hard, the elderly are not very physically strong, they also work hard to help us with our children, we should really thank them.
