Xiao Zhan said: When people reach a certain age, they have to recycle. When we were young, we went out a lot and cared about how everyone was feeling. In the end, we wronged ourselves and didn't say anything. Instead, we gained indifference and resentment. After middle age, I gradually understood that the most important thing in life is to please myself. Only dedication and enthusiasm can win the respect and sincerity of others. Living high is free and easy.
To be cool, you don’t have to be enthusiastic about everyone.
When we are young, we are full of energy, and it is a sense of righteousness to help others at critical moments. When people reach middle age, every family has sutras that are difficult to recite. At this time, if you spend your energy on others and overdraw yourself, others may not feel your kindness. Trying to please everyone is unrealistic and unnecessary.
If you compromise blindly, others will regard you as a soft persimmon; blind giving can often be exchanged for more confident demands. In the middle of life, cultivate your own acre of land. Do whatever you can, it’s love. If you can't do anything, you should also say no. The bottom line is not to favor anyone, and there is no principle to please anyone.
After middle age, you don’t need to invite too many people into your life. Instead of expecting disappointment, set a threshold for your enthusiasm. Be cold and carefully screen your circle. Leave warmth to those who deserve it and spend time on precious things. This is the wisest way to live the rest of your life.
After middle age: rude, cold, selfish.
Be calm and don't get to know anyone too quickly.
When dealing with others, talking and laughing, the most taboo thing is "too serious" communication. Especially for those people who have not known each other for a long time and have only a superficial friendship, there is no need to inquire into the details and reveal everything as soon as they come up. After all, you can never know too quickly whether a person is sincere or fake, and you can't be sure whether the person is hiding flowers or a sword behind his back.
When people are lonely and helpless, they hope to have a friend to talk to, but in this world, not everyone can feel the same way as you, and not all interactions are sincere and well-intentioned. " Cai Gentan " said, "When you meet someone, you can't throw all your words into my heart." If you don't understand someone very well, don't rush to tell others. Don’t be too quick to confide in others if you don’t know the truth. Leave some time to observe the other person and some distance to measure your feelings. It’s a long road, walk slowly, time will choose your true friends.
After middle age: rude, cold, selfish.
Be selfish, the best thing to do in the rest of your life is yourself.
At any time, only those who know how to please themselves can have the most beautiful life. So, don’t think too much, don’t stay up late, and learn to make yourself happy so that you won’t be too tired for the rest of your life. Writer Bi Shumin said that loving yourself well is simple common sense. Life is too short to waste time and wait. Instead of consuming yourself in various grievances, it is better to learn to please yourself. As the saying goes, "He who pleases others is the king of pleasing himself." You can only make a ferry boat if you paddle by yourself.
After middle age: rude, cold, selfish.
When people reach middle age, they must learn to close their hearts. You don’t have to work hard at relationships and you don’t have to invite everyone into your life. Don't please others, don't overextend yourself. When you adopt a superior attitude, you can feel the temperature of life.
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