Life is like a dream, and in an instant, life is spent.
When we were young, we always hoped to work hard and become scientists, and become scientists, so as to change the whole world, and have a dream of staying famous for the eternal period;
In our youth, we retreated and dreamed of walking around the world with a sword;
pointed to the moon with the left hand and took the red line with the right hand, hoping to get a confidante and live a life of immortality that is not as good as the world's fireworks. This life is enough;
Until we found a partner with different views, we only passed a short period of freshness, and then there was a long period of running-in. Although the two people could not fully match their personalities, they could only seek common ground while reserving differences.
Life is full of firewood, rice, oil and salt, either running around for life, or quarreling for the food, clothing, housing and transportation of the elderly and children...
Life is like a top, repeating itself, as the age gets older and dreams gradually fade, what you think in your heart is just how to maintain the normal operation of the entire family. Therefore, a plain and fulfilling life is particularly important for middle-aged men.
Tagore wrote: "A person who reaches middle age will give up the illusory world and unrealistic desires, and always limit it to the scope of his own ability."
The following aspects are true portrayals of the psychology of middle-aged men.
01: There must be a stable career
Some people say: Middle-aged men are like a mountain, blocking all unstable factors outside the family.
As children grow up, parents grow older, and family expenses suddenly increase, so having a stable career is particularly important for a middle-aged man, which can soothe anxieties and insecurities of a middle-aged man.
It is said that there is no big goal in your heart, and a straw is bent down; if there is a big goal in your heart, Mount Tai will not be bent down!
Because there is no sense of responsibility, there is still room for choice, and because there is a "shield" in front of you, the man before marriage only wants to do the job he likes, and he will pat his butt and walk away casually;
And the middle-aged man is like the helmsman on the sailing of the sea, facing the strong wind and waves on the sea and the reefs under the water, and the ship will capsize if he accidentally.
Faced with the cruel competition in society, I worked hard to do the job I didn’t like, just for my family’s three meals a day; when facing the unreasonable accusations from my boss, I could only swallow my anger, just for my family’s food, clothing, housing and transportation...
Just as Mr. Lu Xun said: I pointed at the crowd with cold eyebrows and was willing to be a ox for the children.
Because middle-aged men's shoulders are for their family to rely on, but they do not have the shoulders they can really rely on, because they have no courage to act rashly for the rest of their lives.
In one of the few times, when facing the gradually aging self, instead of facing an unpredictable future, it is better to spend your limited time on your career and get a guarantee for your family.
"Thousands of roads at night, and selling tofu during the day" originally described a person who does not work hard. But on the contrary, it is very suitable to use it on hard-working middle-aged men.
People are heroes, money is courage, so for middle-aged men, money is courage in life and a kind of confidence in being a human being.
02: I hope there is an understanding wife behind me
Someone said: "Love at first sight is just a desire to see sex, and love over time is just a weighing the advantages and disadvantages of ".
Middle-aged men have long lost their youthful youth, and the couple no longer become kind. Facing their wives who are together day and night, their feelings gradually become as calm as water from passion.
As we grow older, middle-aged men have no time to deliberately establish feelings between husband and wife. They can only let things go. In addition to the double pressure of life and work, there is also a part of burnout. Therefore, as a wife, don’t force your husband to feel that strong feelings towards her when he is in love.
Have you noticed it?
In this life, most people have regretted their "want to speak but stop" in the future, while most of them have regretted their "open hearts" afterwards.
How many people are there between husband and wife who ignore each other's pain points when venting emotions; they make a big fuss when their tempers come up, and they focus on old accounts from the past.
When everything was settled, I suddenly realized that the relationship between the two was completely gone through repeated quarrels.
Carnegie said in "The Weakness of Human Nature": "There will never be a winner in the argument."
After all, the relationship between husband and wife has been itchy for seven years, which is the law of development of things. Therefore, middle-aged men will deal with women's emotional state, after all, they are willing but unable to do so.
They no longer expect the romantic love in love, but rather hope that the wife behind them can be understanding, stand alone in family life, and become a great help in their lives.
Glass King Cao Dewang once had a divorce with his original wife, but for his career, they stopped in time and finally chose to stay with their wife until old age.
Someone once interviewed him and asked if his marriage was happy?
He replied: "Happiness is not happy either. Happiness is because the wife is good to him. What is not happy is because the two people are difficult to communicate at the spiritual level."
Later he added: "I observed 100 couples, there is no perfection. Different families have different growth environments. There is no way to do it completely. I can only choose to seek common ground while reserving differences."
So while middle-aged men work hard on their careers, they also have to get a share of the relationship between their husband and wife in order to prevent a fire in the backyard. After all, middle-aged men do their careers for the happiness of the entire family, so it is particularly important to properly maintain the relationship between the two.
03: Yourself and your family’s health
Middle-aged men are the pillars of the family. Even if they are extremely tired, they can only choose to report good news but not bad news. The purpose is to prevent their family from worrying about their health.
Therefore, as a middle-aged man, he will do whatever he wants to use his health as his capital for his family's health and work overtime to earn more money in order to gain more health protection for his family.
As the saying goes: Keep the green mountains there, and don’t be afraid of burning firewood.
Therefore, middle-aged men should pay attention to their health in time when their bodies are declining.
" Book of Rites " says: "The father is firm, the brothers are harmonious, the husband and wife are harmonious, and the family is fat."
Therefore, as a middle-aged man's wife, you must be considerate of your husband, be a strong backing for your husband, be gentle and considerate, do not force him when encountering things, and pay attention to your husband's health at any time, so as to provide a harbor for the extremely tired husband to rest.
Only a family is together, regardless of right or wrong, win or lose, harmony is the most important thing. This is the best Feng Shui in the family.
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