If I say you are a pig, you may say "I am not a pig, you are a pig." If you don't want to argue with me when you are in a good mood, you may say "Yes, yes, yes, you are right, I am a pig." Why are you not angry and calm and calm inside? Because you know that in fact, you are not a pig and others have said 100% wrong things.
But if others say that you are a little ugly, your personality is not very good, your mind is a bit slow, it is difficult for people like you to succeed and wait for a series of negative comments, and it is difficult for you to be calm inside. You will be angry and want to prove that you are not what the other person said, and you will think about what the other person said. When you fail, it is easy to agree with the other person's words. I am such a person. I don't deserve a better person or a better life. I am just a loser.
After being belittled by others for a long time, you will experience a journey from self-confidence to self-doubt, from self-doubt to identification with the other person, until inferiority, and finally humility. How can our lives be ruined by those who belittle us? ?
① Stay away from friends who belittle you
Friends play an important role in our lives. They are also the support when we doubt ourselves or want to give up in doing things. We should not defame us when we already doubt ourselves, nor should it be the source of our inferiority.
size curve and Aya friendship are typical friendship-style PUAs, treating friends like nanny. The little curve also talked lightly in the show that instigated Aya to jump from the second floor. As a result, Aya didn't want to disappoint her friends, and she really jumped down and fell and got injured. They laughed loudly and thought it was fun. The Big Curve also said in the reality show "Aya, you are the least advanced among us." In an interview in 2019, Aya also said that she was really inferior when she was young, but in fact she also had a lot of fans, and everyone liked the real and simple her very much. Part of her extreme inferiority stems from the projection of people around her. The people around her have these friends who belittle her every day. Think about such a suffocating friendship, why do you use to keep it?
② Stay away from belittle your partner
The impact of a partner on a person far exceeds that of a friend. Everyone says that the appearance of a husband and wife is the most similar between husband and wife is not the appearance, but the three views that permeate each other. One person wants to influence another person’s three views. How do our three views be formed? It is when we experience some things or see some things, we have a certain view or reflect on it. The partner participates the most, so naturally the impact is the greatest.
Recently, the marriage of Zhang Jiani and Mai Chao has become a hot topic. Mai Chao actually made public in the show and said many of Zhang Jiani's shortcomings without thinking, and even attacked her appearance, saying that she was short and strong. There are so many advantages that you don’t look at or talk about, and you have to pick on shortcomings. If a woman is said by someone she likes, she will really be unconfident. The deeper the girl likes her, the more she will care about the other person’s words and the deeper she believes in the other person’s attack on her. stares at your own shortcomings every day, where is the source of confidence ?
If a person wants to really stick to his edge, he cannot find a partner who belittles himself. As a side note, is to devalue it, it is to dislike it, it is to not love it.
③ Beware of parents’ derogatoryness towards themselves
In today’s era, there are really many people who love and hate their parents. Parents give their lives and should be grateful unconditionally, but many people’s misfortunes in their lives are also given by their parents. It must be admitted that some people are indeed unworthy of being parents, and have been suffering from domestic violence, gambling and drinking, and even selling their children, etc., which makes their children have a "disabled" personality. Thanks to parents for giving life, but who should repay the misfortune of their children in their lives? The love, hate and affection between parents and their children is a confusing account, but if parents belittle them all year round, they should also be aware of it. Parents have too many influences on their children. If they find that it is a particularly bad influence, they should still stop the loss in time and do not let the rest of their lives belittle them.
Stay away from people who often belittle us is saving ourselves.
Only when I was born with me must be useful. If you decide to be brilliant, the mountains are unblocked and the sea is unblocked.
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