Text/Chen Liuliu, Jiang Zuo Meiniang
There is a saying that goes:
"Talents who are incompetent pretend to be generous, while powerful people are justified and stingy."
deeply agrees.
Many times, the more people lack what they are, the more they care about, and the more they want to try their best to show their strength in this area.
Awesome people are busy doing their own things, and will not care too much about other people's evaluations, but will only focus on improving themselves.
People with fragility in their hearts are like trapped in the deep sea of other people's comments, carefully maintaining their beautiful image in the hearts of others.
So they are particularly generous and always try hard to show their excellence to the outside world.
Little do people know that people who are generous in these three aspects will only make their path narrower and narrower.
01. When you have no money, pretend to be rich and consume
The overall characteristics of exquisiteness and poverty: you don’t make much money, and you still pursue exquisiteness. In order to maintain a glamorous appearance, you overdraw money.
Neighbor Li Qian is a "sophisticated and poor" girl.
She was born in a rural town. Through hard work, she went to a company in Shenzhen after graduation.
Li Qian, who had just entered a big city, felt inferior. She was worried that her colleagues looked down on her, so she tried hard to build herself into the image of a rich girl.
Seeing the people around her wearing brand-name clothes, Li Qian also went to buy them. In order to match the clothes, she gritted her teeth and bought expensive bags and shoes.
After working for half a year, she saw someone from her colleagues who bought a car. In order to make her look good, she gritted her teeth and bought one.
However, she spent money to buy a branded piece of clothing and it costs more than 2,000 yuan for a bottle of high-end facial cream, and it costs five or six hundred yuan for a bottle of eye cream...
Now she has bought a car and has added a few thousand yuan in car loan every month.
As time goes by, the funding gap is getting bigger and bigger. Li Qian can only use Huabei and credit cards in turn, and break down the east wall to repair the west wall.
Once the monthly salary is obtained, Li Qian will pay 90% of the money to repay the credit card. After paying the rent, she had very little living expenses left, so she could only rely on instant noodles to spend it, and even the shampoo was filled with water and then used.
I have heard this sentence:
"The tiredness of life comes from survival and half comes from comparison."
Many people, in order to satisfy their vanity, constantly compare and think that others have, they must have.
doesn’t know that if you compare more, you will feel less happiness, and in the end you will only add to your own worries.
As Li Jiaqi said: "You live the life of the more money you have, and you live the way you have the kind of economic income you have. Using affordable things is not pitiful or embarrassing."
You should know that face is never built on the outside, but on the calmness and vanity of the heart.
In order to pretend to be rich, people who constantly overdraw money will only push themselves into the abyss of desire step by step, and will never be restored.
Only by letting go of your obsession with face can you gain true enrichment.
02. When you are unable to do it, you can help
There is an old Chinese saying: "If you don't have that Diamond , don't take on that porcelain job."
slapping a fat man in the face will not only make things difficult for yourself, but also harm others.
There is such a story in the book "Three Eloquences: Being able to praise, be humor, and be rejected".
Zhou Tang Hao is a person who is not very capable but loves to take on things. When he sees others have difficulties, he has to go up and help without considering whether he has enough abilities.
By the end of this year, all departments were very busy.
But at this time, colleagues from the Finance Department asked for leave due to illness, and the accounting work of the account was forced to be suspended.
Zhou Taohao learned that the financial department was short of people, so he put down his work and took the initiative to help with accounting.
In order to speed up work efficiency, he relied on his vague memory and used the "fast algorithm" he learned in college to settle the accounts.
In the end, he completed all the accounting tasks in less than a day.
However, the financial director found that the data could not be checked. After some investigation, he realized that the problem lies in Zhou Taohao's calculation method.
Finally, all the staff of the financial department worked overtime all night to reorganize the error, and avoided the loss of hundreds of thousands of yuan.
"Zuo Zhuan·The Eleventh Year of Yin Gong" says:
"Save virtue and do what you can."
If you are busy beyond your ability, don't show off and help.
spent a lot of effort and messed up things. Others will not appreciate your enthusiasm, but will only blame your incompetence.
There is an old saying that goes, "Going into the water to save people, the premise is that you can swim, otherwise you will even take advantage of yourself."
Do everything within your ability.
admits that his ability is limited, not admitting his conscience, but wisdom.
03. Pretend to be generous when you are wronged and forgive
self-media author Hu Yiyi's college roommate Mei Mei, who has been obedient and well-behaved since childhood, rarely worrying her parents.
On the contrary, his younger brother is very naughty, and his parents are almost all focused on her younger brother.
Parents often say this sentence: "Meimei, you are your sister, be sensible and give in to your younger brother."
The sensible Meimei listens very much to her parents. No matter big or small, she gives in to her younger brother unconditionally.
After she got married, her younger brother was not doing his job properly and caused trouble everywhere. Every time, she and her husband were all paying money and working hard to clean up the mess.
times, and my husband also complained a lot. In addition, the difference between parents' treatment, it accumulated in Meimei's heart. After years of grievances and depression, I burst out all of my heart.
She looked back on the past and said that it was because of herself, she compromised and forgiving again and again that her parents and younger brother hurt her even more severely.
As the Zen master said,
"If you give more opportunities, it will become natural; if you forgive more times, it will become very cheap; if you get too easy, it will never be cherished."
In life, we always forgive others for hurting ourselves because of our soft hearts.
Little do you know that as you are tolerant, the other party becomes less concerned, but instead thinks you are easy to bully and slander you even more unscrupulously.
You should know that the least cherished thing in this world is the bottomless compromise.
When you meet those who are trying harder, don’t be stingy with your sharpness.
Keep your own boundaries of retreat and turn your back when it is time to turn against you.
Because your heart is really expensive, it should be left to people who are worth it.
04. Mei Niang said that
likes a sentence in "What kind of life do you want to live":
"In this world, there are too many people pretending to be noble in the eyes of others. They care about themselves the most in the eyes of others, and unknowingly throw their true self behind their minds."
The most important practice for people to live for a lifetime is to live out their true self.
Instead of caring about the opinions of others, it is better to concentrate on your own world and be the best self.
Don’t take a heavy price to pretend to be generous and consume generously;
Don’t take a generous help in order to pretend to be capable, but it will be thankless in the end;
Don’t take a generous and forgive me for your efforts to make your efforts justified.
Life is short and life is impermanent. I hope you and I can live your own life, have the pride and courage to move forward, and be treated gentlely by the world.
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