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Opening sentence:
In this world, it is not easy for anyone to live.
We always desire to be kind to others, but in the cruel world of competition, there will always be people gnawing everywhere like wild animals, and some people slaughter like lambs.
Therefore, when people live, they must find their own good position and way of living.
There will always be suffering and joy, sorrow and joy, gratitude and grudges. All of them are a choice. When you don’t know how to excuse yourself, you will always live in dire straits, unable to find the goal to live, and be confused and unaware of it.
Destiny is fair to everyone.
No matter whether you are from a wealthy or poor family, your IQ or your appearance... If you are a weak person yourself, no one can save you. Therefore, although we are not "princes" or "princesses", we must cultivate the spirit of sheltering ourselves from the wind and rain.
The stepping stone for happiness has always been just one sentence, that is: You must be strong yourself.
Of course, life is very realistic and "strong". It doesn't necessarily mean that you are rich and noble, living in a high-rise villa, picking up and dropping off with you when you go out for a luxury car, but that you can find these two things: a calm state of mind and the lifestyle you want to live.
In this way, your life will be more and more comfortable.
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Find "the lifestyle you like"
people have been in this life, to be honest, it seems to be very long, but in fact it only takes more than 30,000 days.
people's maturity is not distinguished by age, but from your behavior.
Of course, it does not mean how smooth your words are, how high your emotional intelligence is, and how low-key your work is. These are "maturity", but that everything you do is for yourself, not for others to see.
If you want to live happily, the key is to find the lifestyle you like.
is like, someone is unhappy with you, you wear a short skirt, he can't stand it, you put on heavy makeup, he thinks you are showing off, you have a boyfriend, he thinks that person is not very good... Then, he will spread your rumors behind your back and make you trip. In short, you must change it according to his requirements to be considered obedient.
Then, in order to calm his mind, you put on trousers, went to work without makeup, and broke up with your boyfriend. In the end, your life was completely disrupted, and you seemed to have become a wooden man.
People must find their own style in their lives. Never live in other people's eyes. You must be clear: others are not you, and your life decision can only be decided by yourself.
I still remember that I once saw a news that a foreigner quit his job as a civil servant and did not fear the hard work to deliver food. Many people were in the comment section and said: People are living their own life, free and easy and natural.
is indeed the case.
In life, we always find that there are always people who give up their growth because of other people's words and allow others to "I'm doing your good" to be freely placed in their lives, wasting their great years.
is like, a woman has not gotten married after she was thirty years old. After a few words, she quickly found someone with the same conditions to marry, but after marriage, various conflicts arose; it is like, she obviously likes to study history, but her parents long to be a dentist, so she obeys the arrangements of her family, but she is not happy at all after work... If you live like this, it is not the life you want, but the "you" in the mouth of others.
So, don’t live like some celebrities and insist on setting yourself a “personal design”. You will find that the more fake the person, the harder the person becomes to become famous; on the contrary, the more real the person, the more people like and love it.
Be more sober, we can do nothing and be mediocre for a lifetime, but at least we can work hard for the future we choose.
People live for a lifetime, and love and hate are clearly a kind of personality, and ambiguity is also a choice.
We do not interfere with others, but we can completely get rid of others' "expectations", find the way we like, and live our lives.
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Find the "quiet mood" you want
especially like the word "quiet".
Because if a person is calm, he will be at ease and his life will be safe.
The environment we live in, without time, there will be storms and troubles, and the years will be like a killing knife. The more you live, the more you lose your honesty and anxiety.
So, if you work in a person and work, you will mostly not have a bad mood and will easily adjust yourself.
people live for a lifetime, and no one will be favored by time. Only by being the most calm selves can we usher in the gentleness and elegance of the years.
Let me give you an example and tell you a lesson of my past mental journey.
I used to be a very serious person. When I occasionally write articles, I will be angry because of others' "taking the truth" and I will also be angry because others say a few ugly words in the comments.
But once when I was having dinner with a friend, I talked about this with him, and he told me a past story, which changed my mood.
He said that a few months ago, their supervisor asked to write a paper. He competed with another person. If it goes well, whoever was selected and who joined the project team, he chose the project and went through many twists and turns to find a lot of supporting materials. However, once, he went to the library to check the information and forgot to bring the computer, so he entrusted someone to help him take it. Unfortunately, the man handed over his computer to another boy.
Coincidentally, his computer was not turned off that day. He had the habit of locking files. The information in it was read by the boy, and the boy knew him and his competitors. So, in the end, his topic was not only stolen, but the man also rushed to apply some of his materials to his own topic.
had no choice. At that time, there was only two months left before the instructor asked. He could no longer immerse himself in his anger, so he could only rush back to the computer and find a new research direction from it.
Fortunately, the tutor treated him differently, and finally gave him the quota.
Friend said: "Actually, my paper was not well written. Time was too hasty, and many experimental results have not been released yet. But if I had been entangled with him at that time, I probably wouldn't even write this article. Fortunately, our tutor gave me the quota in the end.
Although that boy and I were in the same laboratory, they turned against each other because of this matter. But I am glad that our tutor also learned about this matter later. What the tutor values most is character. So, remember a sentence, "fighting with the evil dragon will only drag you into the abyss. Don't care too much about those who want to take shortcuts and those who are plaguing the trouble behind them. They are not worthy of your attention. Everything has its cause and effect."
I suddenly understood what my friend meant. This may be what we usually say, don’t bother with “bad people and bad things” when you encounter “bad people and bad things”, as this will only waste your time.
Because they are well aware of your psychology, the more angry you get and entangled with them, the happier they are and the stronger the pleasure will be.
When you try to give some face to some people, others will only think that you are weak and can be bullied.
After all, if you don’t want any face, why would he still care about the face you mentioned? They only have interests in their eyes.
So, when your mind changes, you will have a calm and peaceful mind. When you look at their words and deeds, you will feel that these are just clowns.
Turn your back when you should turn your back when you should turn your back when you should turn your back when you should turn your back when you should. There is no need to keep your face... The point is, don’t let others affect your current mood.
people in this life, only we are ourselves who deserve our attention; only we can make us fall in love with it.
Don't bother with some bad people and bad things, they are not worth it.
Live calmly and be calmer, and you will find that when you look at the people around you, you will have a brand new look: Whether it is hypocrisy on the outside, sincerity on the inside, or unforgivable on the mouth, but your heart is very hot... it will make you see through it at a glance.
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Conclusion:
people have been through storms and storms in their lives, and no one can escape.
There will be cold eyes and ridicule in the real society, but there will be warmth and sweetness.
So, no matter how difficult it is to live, when you survive and turn around and you will find that it is not a problem. The key is that you can find your calm state of mind and find the life you want.
Don't live in the eyes of others. Those who really care about you will only respect you. If you want to "dress and angry horses, and hold a sword to the world, he will give you a smile, stand behind you, and support you.
And those so-called "spectators" are mostly laughing at him, but you still laughing at him, and they will not take you in the eyes of you.
So, life is for yourself, and the abundance of your soul is also created by yourself.
laugh whenever you want, cry whenever you want, say whenever you want, scold whenever you want, don’t let “living itself” become your burden.
Life is long, you must remember: in this life, your skin only serves your own soul.
Author, calm fox
picture, Internet
May you find your deep affection in my words, in my ordinary years, with deep affection! Thank you for your attention!
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