Things in the world are complicated and people's hearts are unpredictable.
This world is already bizarre. Some people, even if they are a drop of water, should repay them with a spring of water. Some people are not only ungrateful, but also add to the point of being hurt.
We always think that sincerity can be treated sincerely in the end, but countless facts tell us that sincerity is the easiest to betrayal, and true love is the easiest to betrayal.
The world is so big, it is not an exaggeration to meet anyone like this.
For ourselves, everyone in life has its inevitability of existence. We are nothing more than intervention. Whether a person is worthy of deep communication depends only on ourselves.
Not everyone is worth our efforts, not everyone is worth our sincerity.
When facing a person and thing that consumes oneself, we must know how to say "no".
01: Knowing how to say "no" can avoid a lot of trouble
" Ode to Joy " Guan Juer is a typical person who does not know how to refuse. There is a plot like this: because my colleague Michelle didn't want to work overtime, he handed over the latter part of the report to her to complete. Guan Juer, who had no opinion, agreed to her after Michelle's miserable words, and worked overtime alone until very late to complete.
Who knew that this report, which was driven out through overtime, caused certain losses to the company due to the error in the original data. Guan Juer, as the final signer, was severely criticized by the leader. Not only did he have to write a written review, but he also affected his return to regular work.
In this matter, Guan Juer caused so much trouble because she didn't know how to say "no". She was obviously not her job, but she was just kind-hearted to help, but in the end she became the person who was punished.
says that people are bullied by good people, and horses are ridden by good people.
Life is cruel, and there are people who bully the weak and fear the strong everywhere. If you don’t know how to say “no”, then you will be tempted to be exploited and easily get into trouble.
Knowing how to say "no" can often avoid a lot of trouble, making those who bully the weak and fear the strong dare not cause trouble for themselves easily, and you will have more time and energy to enrich yourself.
02: Knowing how to say "no" can make your sincerity more valuable
Take me as an example:
When I first came out to work, I was still a person who was particularly concerned about my classmates' love in the past. Even if I was really busy at work sometimes, I would not dare to neglect my former friends.
There is one of the friends who have a good relationship with her. Whenever she sends a message, even if I have something to do, she will reply as soon as possible. In order not to make her feel guilty, I always say that I am not busy.
, but that was not busy, and later it turned out to be the reason why she accused me.
Because I was so busy that I was so dizzy that I forgot to reply to the message. When I replied to the message the next day, she sneered, "I have never been busy before, just wait for me to find you if I have something to do, and you will be busy."
I was full of grievances at the time, and later I reflected on it. I was really blamed for this matter, and I blamed me for not knowing how to say "no" at the beginning, so that later I made the other party feel that my efforts and sincerity were particularly cheap.
When a person says that he loses his principles and bottom line in doing things, then the person's efforts will become particularly cheap, and the person's sincerity will become particularly worthless.
And one of a person’s principles and bottom lines is particularly important, that is, knowing how to love yourself, and knowing how to love yourself means knowing how to say “no”.
Knowing how to say "no" can make your sincerity more valuable.
03: Knowing how to say "no" can get better interpersonal relationships
Actor Liang Tian Once said this:
He once opened a restaurant in Beijing and spent more than 1 million yuan on decoration. The taste has always been good, but he only lost but not earned, and almost closed.
Liang Tianyi checked the accounts and found that many of his "friends" came to support him. Since they were supportive, they naturally could not charge money. However, those "friends" not only came to eat by themselves, but also brought their families and even called their friends to come together.
It really doesn’t cost much for a meal, but if everyone is like this, no matter how good the business is, it is impossible for them to really make money.
Later, Liang Tian listened to the advice of his good buddies and found a lobby manager who was responsible for collecting the accounts and refused to serve them for free. When those "friends" found that it was useless to mention Liang Tian's name, they did not come again.
Although Liang Tian has lost many friends because of this incident, he has also protected his own interests. What's more, those friends who only take advantage of him are not friends at all.
In any interpersonal relationship, people who know how to say "no" are more likely to gain the respect of the other party. If a person doesn't even give you the chance, you should understand that such a person is almost impossible to regard you as a friend.
Writer Sanmao once said:
"When a person asks, he has prepared two answers in his mind."
So, even if you reject the other party's request, the other party's will not really have no way out.
for the rest of his life, he knew how to say "no".
I am Aya, the writer of warm emotions. How lucky I can meet you in this life! Click to follow and let’s learn together!
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