Author: Binglang
In the past, I always naively thought that life was a meeting; now I finally believe that life is actually a separation.
After retirement, I have time to quietly reflect on the path I have walked, and be grateful from the heart that it has had a subtle influence on me in humanistic feelings and many uncertainties at the fork in my life. I have formed a new turning point in my life in the whirlpool of the times, and to every specific person I have guided and influenced in my growth. They seemed to come to me with the tasks and missions assigned by God, giving me teachings and guiding me, the "lost lamb", to avoid detours.
What is pattern? In fact, the books you have read, the road you have walked, and the people you have met all of them constitute your life pattern.
still remember? In the 1960s and 1970s, there were a group of old educated youth from Nanjing metropolis on the land of northern Jiangsu, which brought us novel life concepts and different cultures, and also brought gusts of breeze to the small ancient city of Qingjiangpu . I just left middle school and didn't know anything. I knew how to stick to them all day long, running with them, listening to them talk about world classics, listening to them sing Russian songs, "Song of Nanjing Educated Youth", etc., which had a great impact on my later "three views". At that time, I really envied and admired the elder brothers and sisters who could speak, sing and dance.
Senior Sister Qin is one of them. She is the third old educated youth in Nanjing. We entered the factory and worked as apprentices in the same workshop. Because she is lively, smart and beautiful by nature, she is chivalrous and generous, and is very eye-catching among our students. My contact with her is because she is the backbone of the propaganda team of the city and factory, and I am an activist of our workshop propaganda team and the Criticism team. She often comes to give us guidance. When we met, I respectfully respected "Senior Sister". Her beautiful eyes were flowing and tender. When she smiled, she was a pair of pure dimples and called me "Little Brother". Later she told me that among this group of students, she called everyone else "junior brother", but only called me "little brother". I asked why? She said that you were the youngest and the youngest among the "boys ( Nanjing dialect boys)" in which a group of students entered the factory. In addition, you were thin and weak, and you were very quiet and well-behaved like my little brother next door! In 1973, she was transferred back to Nanjing to a central enterprise, and of course she was the first to be transferred back to Nanjing among these educated youth. In the same year, I was also arranged by the organization to leave Qingjiangpu and study in other places for three years. Since then, I have gone my separate ways with Senior Sister Qin and have no news.
It was the mid-1990s after more than 20 years. At a Nanjing educated youth gathering that I had worked in Huai, I met again. I received an invitation to that event organized by Brother Wen and Sister Ying. Of course, I also wanted to see the old brothers and sisters more than 20 years ago and the spiritual outlook of the old educated youth after the baptism of the reform tide.
I met Senior Sister Qin among the many people who were unfamiliar with their words and deeds. I suddenly felt the feeling of "a duckweed leaves return to the sea, where will we meet in life?" At this time, she was still "glorious" like she was back then. The different years of training have made her more wise, mature and transparent with "clear things in the world". She is still so kind and caring about me, and she is still so chivalrous and heroic in her words, and she is still the old sister who is full of spiritual energy and artistic cells, which makes me respect and admire from the bottom of my heart.
can't help but admire this group of "old three" who have experienced the ups and downs and downs through the vast world, even in the turbulent reform of the market economy of , the pattern and insights are still unique. In terms of age, they are in middle age when they are in a grand career and have a high career success. They are familiar with organizational activities and knowledge and decision-making skills. What I admire is Brother Wen and his wife. My brother jumped from a leadership position that is eye-catching in the system. In the tide of "VC" technology entrepreneurship, my sister-in-law actually turned from a state-owned enterprise unit to enter the system and became the leader of professional and technical positions in the agency.
Attending these old educated youth gatherings clearly felt that one of the characteristics was that after the Great Revolution, they did not care about empty talk and never involved sensitive topics of political discussion. They also had the spirit of hard work and never giving up, hard work and hard work, diligence and pragmatism that they had in those years, and were better at analyzing and studying the current market economy's weather standards and trends with the rich experience and practical knowledge accumulated over the years.
The first topic after meeting was of course from Qingjiangpu's "eating". They didn't have much impression of dishes, because they really didn't have the financial strength to taste the "big dishes" in Huai'an in that era, but they were impressed by the big meat buns in Huai'u's morning and evening, and the pork stewed yellow sprouts in winter. They said that they still have a fragrance when they savor them now! If you talk about what is the best food in the cafeteria? Surprisingly, it was actually commented as "patient meal", because only by relying on the "notes" in the medical room can I eat the canteen's patient meal. If you ask what this patient's rice is? Hehe, in fact, it was just the noodles with rotten vegetables and a single egg slurry, but at that time it was definitely the best delicacy in the world. They said that the deepest memory of happiness is shopping on Sundays. The small shops in Qingjiangpu East and West Streets were very fun one by one. We played all the way and ate the roasted potatoes sold on the streets of Qingjiangpu and the green radish that were good at the stalls. As for the spicy soup and crystal pack , we had to eat until our stomachs were round before we could come back. At that time, they spoke Nanjing-sounding Qingjiangpu dialect as if no one was around the way, which attracted surprise gazes and kind-hearted laughter from passers-by. Brother Xiang actually used Nanjing Baiju to speak up the rumor they made back then, such as the big monsters in Qingjiangpu, such as windy and rainy week after week, green radish sold as fruits...
Three glasses of wine, someone suggested that Senior Sister Qin dance the popular propaganda team "specialize" " Laundry Dance " and "Window Flower Dance". Amid the "quacking" sounds of everyone's hands, Senior Sister Qin rolled up her sleeves and performed generously. The dance moves are still so sequel to the point, and the waist is soft and free. How could this be the "old educated youth"? It is clearly a group of happy and carefree "youth teenagers"!
Senior Sister Qin was facing the stage of retirement or about to retire that year. She told me that due to work needs, she was sent to the forefront of reform and opening up to travel to Guangdong for several years. Although she suffered a lot, she saved some money. You have worked as a reporter and worked in a large agency. I want to hear your opinions and help me come up with ideas to see what investments I can do? I heard her talk about her experience in working hard in the south over the years, and I admired her courage and courage, and knew that she had actually had an idea in her heart. I pretended to be profound and thought for a while and said, "Great Perspectives" cannot be said. The current general tone of reform and opening up has been set, and the next step of development will be unexpectedly rapid. The biggest feature of the city of Nanjing is that there are many colleges and universities and many military agencies, and it faces an increase in new population every year. In addition, the city has developed rapidly, and there are many influxes in other places such as northern Jiangsu and Anhui. A large number of people need to move and live in peace, so housing problems will be prominent. Don’t look at the promotion of housing everywhere now, it is because people’s pockets of money are still shrunken! As people's living standards improve, a large number of people will have an urgent need to buy new houses or improve their living conditions every year...
Senior Sister Qin listened and thought intently, quickly understood what I was going to say, and then asked, are you asking me to invest in real estate? Then I definitely lack funds, and I don’t have the ability to get a loan. I said, you can invest in some good school district housing in the city. For example, those who enjoy welfare housing distribution will inevitably take "second-hand housing" to improve their living conditions. These second-hand housing are of good quality and location, but the size of the apartment is not the same, but because of the low price and selling points, they will definitely be popular in the future. I took out a copy of the evening newspaper of the day from my carry-on bag, and there was a full page of the "second-hand house" information. I remember that at that time, each of the small "second-hand houses" in the area of Xinjiekou to Gulou was only 50,000 to 60,000 yuan.
Senior Sister Qin couldn't help but nodded and said to me happily, "Brother, I really have to look at you if I haven't seen you for so many years!" To be honest, I planned to use this little money to open a small restaurant to have fun, but when you say that I have to modify the plan and play it big!
It turns out that Senior Sister Qin has already had a specific investment plan. When I heard that she wanted to open a restaurant, she expressed her firm opposition. First, she did not have the experience and experience in catering. Second, the catering industry is facing the society and has very high requirements for service and food hygiene. Third, as the saying goes, it is difficult to adjust the taste of this dish. Just talk about whether the taste of this dish is high-end or popular local cuisine style. I said, once you screw it up, the annual storefront rent will drag you down! If it is not done well, it will be even worse if you get involved in the lawsuit for food poisoning !
Senior Sister Qin said, I have considered all the things you are worried about, and they have responded and prevented measures. However, your words really inspired me to buy my own storefront house when I open a hotel, so as not to become a landlord in the future.
Later, practice verified Senior Sister Qin's wise decision-making. In those years, the society was prevalent in food and drink. The hotel had a lot of customers every day and business was booming. Senior Sister Qin retired and lived a fulfilling life in her busy life, and her economic income also entered a well-off and prosperous place ahead of schedule. She was the first to get rich. At the same time, as time goes by, it also confirms my prediction of the development of the situation. The prices of urban real estate continue to soar like a rocket, and the price of Senior Sister Qin's storefront has increased several times.
As the saying goes, "Someone breaks into your life just to teach you a lesson." I have to admire these educated youth brothers and sisters. Their book knowledge was very solid in that era and was more widely read than we read. This first determines the depth of their thinking; the path they walked, the spirit of going to the countryside and working hard and hard determines the width of their vision; their knowledge and pattern of looking at problems also determines the height of their realm. Taiwanese writer Lin Qingxuan wrote a Zen poem like this: egrets stand in snow, fools look at the egrets, smart look at the snow, and wise see white. It means that an egret stands in the snow, the fool only sees the egret, the wise man sees the snow, and the wise man sees the wider space.
Time entered the early 21st century. Every time I saw the hot and hot senior sister Qin, she was always in a hurry. That time she asked me to sit down and asked me seriously, do you have any plans to buy a house or change a house? I said I had a welfare housing assigned by the unit, but I didn’t consider borrowing money to buy a house. She said that now, commercial housing in Nanjing is two or three thousand yuan per square meter, and this price is definitely a low price point, so you have to buy a house to improve it. I said with a hint of disgrace. To be honest, I am not urgent about buying a house. First, I already have a house to live in; second, my child needs to spend a lot of money when he is in college; third, even if I borrow money to buy a house, how can I pay it back in the future? Senior Sister Qin told me in an unquestionable tone that now is the best time to buy a house. The sooner you start, the better. I will make the decision for you. You will go to choose a house this Sunday, and I will help you with other things. Then I chose a large suite with four bedrooms, two living rooms and two bathrooms on the bank of Crescent Lake in the east of the city. Sister Qin not only made up for me the down payment, but also helped me find a decoration team and paid the decoration fee.
It was about two or three months, and housing prices soared sharply. When I was secretly glad that I saved hundreds of thousands of dollars a few months earlier, I secretly admired Senior Sister Qin's unique vision and quick and decisive move.
"The Third Old" has rich life experience and extensive social knowledge, which can see the essence of the economic market through appearance. Senior Sister Qin's experience in traveling to the south broadened her thinking and broadened her horizons. As an elder sister, she often reminds me that you have a distinct personality and are quick-witted. You should go to the reporter to stand up for justice. This is your strength. It is really not suitable for development within the system. If someone asks you to do something and give you gifts or even money, you must not accept it. These people are actually harming you. Many people have learned a profound lesson for this! I was very moved by her kindness reminder. I told her not to think too complicatedly, because the agency I am staying at is the "Qingshui Yamen" without any position or power, so where can the people come from to give the glory? She felt relieved after hearing this.
At the beginning of this year, a group of our old friends who had worked in Lao Qingjiangpu gathered on the shore of Xuanwu Lake in Nanjing. Senior Sister Qin was accompanied by her brother-in-law Lao Xu. During the meal, she also drank some white wine and sang a song " Missing Comrades " with her brother-in-law, and then invited me to sing "Our Generation" with her. Most of the people sitting there were the third educated youth of the year. The sad musical melody echoed in the low altitude, which immediately made the atmosphere on the scene a little depressing. When I recalled it afterwards, all this seemed to be an "unlucky sign".
After the dinner, everyone went to the couple's garden for a walk and took photos. However, Senior Sister Qin said goodbye to everyone, saying that she was tired and pulled her brother-in-law Lao Xu and wanted to "take a step first". When I took her into the car, I told her that my sister has always cared about my housing renovation project. Recently, she is currently opening the window to blow the smell every day. She plans to move after the Spring Festival. She will ask her sister and brother-in-law to come to her house for a day and come to her house to "inspection and acceptance". She listened very seriously and asked me, did she do it as she asked at the time? Are you satisfied with the decoration effect? I told her that the decoration was completely based on what she said, which is safe, simple and convenient for the elderly. It is also what she often said, "The house decoration cannot be beautiful, and it must be practical, and it must be designed according to the living standards of the elderly." She smiled happily and agreed to go, and reminded me to prepare a deck of playing cards because I will come to play eggs at that time!
This is the characteristic of Senior Sister Qin: everything is thoughtful and appropriate, pursues the ultimate perfection of details, and is trustworthy and fulfilled. As long as she arranges what she promises, she must do 100%!
Life is impermanent and the world is unpredictable. The so-called life is really an unknown journey. This time, she "breaks up" the appointment with me for the first and last time. In the early morning of March 17, my brother-in-law Lao Xu called. After I answered, I asked him to stop before he could speak. Your phone number is definitely not good news. Last night, I was irritated and couldn't fall asleep. Tell me what's wrong with my sister? Lao Xu told me in a low and sad voice that your senior sister Qin had "taken first" after failed rescue at Dongda Hospital last night.
Sure enough, my words came true, which made me sigh and sigh "I am sad when I sit idle and sad. How many times has it been for a hundred years?" How sad!
Recalling the fact that a group of old friends were gathered at her house at the beginning of last year. I remember that she specifically discussed with me what the "dividend of reform and opening up" meant? Seeing her serious expression, I was secretly surprised. When did Senior Sister Qin start theoretical research? I casually quoted an official explanation: The so-called reform is a process from institutional balance to institutional imbalance and then to institutional balance. When a new system emerges during reform and opening up, it will transform potential benefits into real benefits, thus forming a "reform dividend." I said that there are five dividend periods after the reform and opening up. The essence of reform is institutional changes or institutional innovation. The reform dividend refers to the benefits brought by institutional changes or institutional innovation...
After listening to my answer, Senior Sister Qin's eyes shining. She said, we are undoubtedly the beneficiaries of this reform dividend. But I ask you, after you retire, you have considered improving the quality of life in the elderly. We are all children. Have you considered completing the final journey of life with respect and dignity? I was even more surprised when I heard this. Did she think of it? I said that a child is an objective reality, and no one can do anything about the end of a hero.She said, I have thought it through. Today I invite you to my house to see my " Senior Apartment " pattern. We will have difficulty in moving and cannot help ourselves in the future. Do you see that the decoration of this house requires a lot of homework from now on. Look, this whole space does not have a step, no transitional strip or waterproof strip, which is to prevent bumps and smooth traffic at home in the future. Look again, why the washbasin basin is an external type, just to facilitate washing your face in a wheelchair in the future. After she introduced this, I found that the height of all furniture countertops is designed for wheelchairs, and I also saw that there are beautiful and unique handrails everywhere where handrails can be installed at home... I really admire this place. She said, don’t think that the so-called future is far away. Just look back at the past few decades and the missing friends around you, and you will feel that the "future" is really close, almost tomorrow. The road of life is a story, every step is a story. From youth to middle age, it is a process of learning to compromise with oneself. Then from middle age to old age, it should be time to achieve great enlightenment!
Senior Sister Qin's "Awakening the World" from theory to practice made me feel ashamed and also reminded me to redesign and plan my old age life. I admire Senior Sister Qin for her love for life and cherish life. With a positive attitude, she can live out the quality and meaning of life in the face of changes in her destiny. There is really no reason why I don’t live every day well without quality.
She is actually the one who fulfilled my dream in my old age in my life.
Ask you when will you go? Don't linger when you come.
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Binglang (Zhang Bing), a retired civil servant from a provincial government in Huai'an.
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