In life, we all have an illusion: happiness is always someone else’s, but only worries belong to ourselves. So, we feel the so-called troubles day by day and look for the happiness that is around us day by day.
There is a joke on the Internet:
"As a middle-aged person, he feels like he is living in a "Journey to the West", Wukong's pressure, Bajie 's belly, Laosha 's baldness, Tang Monk's nagging, 9981 difficulties must be lost, the key is that he is getting closer and closer to the West."
Just one sentence reveals the "standard configuration" of middle-aged people:
On the back is the pressure of life; on the head is the baldness of worry; on the body is the beer belly that is neglected to manage; on the mouth is the meaningless nagging.
is full of frustration and helplessness.
But from another perspective, pressure is the motivation to take the brigade, baldness is the motivation to grit the teeth, and nagging is the care that is needed.
"Things change with the mind, and the environment is born from the mind", everything is only in what you think.
As Qian Zhongshu said:
"Take a bath, look at a flower, eat a meal. If you feel happy, it is not entirely because the bath is clean, the flowers are blooming well, or the dishes are in your taste, mainly because you have no worries in your heart."
I think that when people reach middle age, it is not entirely troubles, anxiety and pain, but also happiness.
Parents are happy
people are middle-aged, and more and more people are participating in our lives.
Colleagues in the office, teachers in children’s school, shopping guides in convenience stores downstairs, etc. They correspond to the labels of “work, children, life”, which forced us to wear social masks to deal with them.
But parents are the most reassuring existence, allowing us to return to the innocent heart and baby form.
is hungry, and a yelling "Mom, I want to eat the dumplings you made" is exchanged for a delicious meal;
is tired, and a yelling "Dad, I can't hold on anymore", and a yelling "I'll support you" is exchanged for a heroic promise of "Go home, I'll support you."
Eat the food in your mouth and hear the pampering in your ears. It is a placebo for middle-aged people after being injured in the jungle world.
Parents are here and the backing is here. We have the strength to fight back all the sufferings in the world.
Actor Hu Ge's mother has been tortured by cancer for nearly 30 years, but she always smiled and told Hu Ge:
"It's okay, you study hard, it's the best reward to your mother."
This positive and optimistic attitude gave Hu Ge a profound impact, and gave him full of strength to survive the serious car accident in August 2006.
Later, my mother passed away, and Hu Ge posted a photo of his mother holding him tightly in his arms when he was a child, with the caption "Dedicated to a lady from afar."
The mother and son who used to smile happily in the photo now have no mother again in the yin and yang worlds.
The rest of my life will be in silence and my faith will be shaken, and my mother will no longer comfort and enlighten me;
The rest of my life will be in the dark night, and the road will be far away, and when the wind and rain will no longer be with me or hold an umbrella.
is so painful.
Writer Bi Shumin In "Filial piety is priceless " said:
"Parents are there, life still has a place to come. When parents go, life is only left to return."
For middle-aged people, when parents are alive, we have a place of spirit and a source of strength, which is a great happiness.
Health is happiness
Hailang said:
"Men after middle age often feel lonely because when he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who have to rely on him, but there is no one he can rely on."
Life is in middle age, with white hair on top and drooping children on the bottom, and a lover who is equally tired in the middle.
In order to become their support, we can only manage our own bodies and take good care of our health.
In terms of diet, you should combine meat and vegetables, and drink more hot water and not overeat. In terms of action, you should stay up late less, sleep well, and exercise; in terms of emotions, you should be more grateful and complain less, have a smaller temper, and have a louder laugh.
It is our blessing to have a healthy body. Only by cherishing it and using it well can we be responsible for ourselves, our family and society.
Some time ago, a 36-year-old Huawei engineer died suddenly in Kenya , leaving behind no work income and having his wife with two children alone, which is very heartbreaking.
I also have a friend around me, and my life ended at the age of 35.
He was originally the second-in-command of the unit, but in order to take a step forward, he kept taking projects and traveling on business trips in various cities. He often stayed up until dawn for a piece of data.
Later, he was promoted, but fell in the office and never got up again.
When he was dealing with his funeral after death, his parents who were white-haired and gave him black-haired were so sad that it was beyond comfort.
Philosopher Schopenhauer said:
"The biggest mistake humans make is to exchange health for other external things."
Health equals 1, everything after it is 0.
Only when we have health can we work hard, create wealth, and then take our families to enjoy life.
has 1, and the 0 after the end can be increased infinitely;
When a person reaches middle age, the more he is burdened and responsible, the more he should pay attention to the maintenance and maintenance of the body "machine".
Family and beauty are happiness
The so-called "middle-aged people" refer to a group of people aged 30-45, spending more and more, saving less and less, physically worse and more and more stressed.
From this perspective, middle-aged people are so tired that they need a harmonious family to serve as a harbor for nutrient replenishment.
Just like in the movie " Big Nei Spy Lingling Fa ", even if the "Zero Ling Fa" played by Stephen Chow is unsuccessful, and misunderstood, the wife played by Carina Lau is always caring and accepting and gentle.
Her words "Are you hungry? I'll cook a bowl of noodles for you to eat, okay?" can always make people resurrect in full blood.
In daily life, when we finish our day's work and return home exhausted, if what comes to us is warm lights, gentle lovers, well-behaved children, and steaming food, this is a great happiness.
At this time, we leave all the loss and frustration of our self-esteem, or the spirit of giving guidance to the country.
Close the door, the harbor of home is our entire world.
Before middle age, people thought that driving a luxury car and living in a green house was happiness, or that everyone supported it and socializing every night was happiness, but after half of their life, when they looked back, they would find that everything outside was a cloud.
In this life, having a beautiful home is the true happiness.
Even the writer Mo Yan who won the first Nobel Prize in China, thinks so.
He said on many occasions that his greatest success is not how many famous works he wrote, nor does he win the Nobel Prize in Literature , but that he has a happy and fulfilling family.
American writer Dresses "Carry Sister " wrote:
"The harmonious family air is a kind of flower in the world. Nothing is gentler than it, nothing is more beautiful than it, nothing is more suitable to cultivate the nature of a family to be strong and upright."
When people reach middle age, they have families that support each other, want to support each other, and love each other, and have the warmest sanctuary.
It is happiness to have friends with you
Long Yingtai said in " Dear Andre ":
"Life is actually like a road from a wide plain into a forest.
On the plain, the companions can walk together, happily pushing forward and supporting each other; once they enter the forest, the grass and thorns block the road, the situation changes, and everyone concentrates on their own path and finds their own direction.
The group emotions of pushing, pushing, singing and having fun together, the carefree and suspicious colleagues only have in their youth in their lives.
is due to the distance, different views, or different encounters. The older you grow, the fewer friends you have.
When I was young, the sun was scorching, the mountains were full of flowers, and my friendship was not distinguished. When I was middle-aged, most of the dust returned to the dust, and the soil returned to the soil. When the wind blew, it dissipated and I forgot.
is like Lu Xun and Runtu , Zhang Ailing and Yanying .
So, when you reach middle age, if you have friends who treat each other sincerely, you will be happy.
The same views, similar interests, similar temperaments, come and go, or drink, watch flowers and moon, or put your heart on your heart and complain. It is a beautiful scenery that isolates the noisy and bustle of the world.
is like Boya and Ziqi, looking for a path in spring and snow, High mountains and flowing water meets a soulmate ; also like Bao Shuya and Guan Zhong , mutual understanding, trust and fulfillment are mutually interpreting the eternal realm of friendship.
American novelist Christine Hannah tells a friendship story that lasts a lifetime in the novel "Firefly Alley".
Talley and Katie, since they were 14 years old and in their 40s, after experiencing jealousy, anger, hurt, hatred, and finally reconciled, and followed each other through the short and long road of life.
The story of "one who knows each other, you will be friends for a lifetime" is something that many middle-aged people with vicissitudes of heart are eager to experience.
Happiness of middle-aged people, in life
What I understand as "happiness" is not immortality, not a big fish and meat, not power, but the achievement of every small wish.
When life is halfway, parents are at peace, health, family is harmonious, and two or three close friends are perfect.
has achieved this perfection. Even if the belly is gradually bulging and the hairline slowly moves back, we can do our best to deal with life.
Long Yingtai said:
"In the vicissitudes of middle-aged people, there is always a kind of silent pain."
I want to say that even if middle-aged people have "pain", they still maintain their yearning for happiness.
Finally, I wish the world a peaceful and peaceful life.
Happiness is not elsewhere, but around you, in your own feelings, in your epiphany of life.
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