In life, many people like to squeeze their heads and squeeze into other people's circles. They always want to borrow other people's light, even if those circles are not suitable for them.
In fact, most people ignore one thing. After staying in a circle that is not suitable for them for a long time, not only will they not be able to grow up by themselves, but will instead form a kind of self-interference. I am a typical example.
In order to force yourself to adapt to those circles that are not suitable for you, it is a consumption for yourself.
Of course, some truths are correct, but not all principles are suitable for you, and insisting on being yourself is the most realistic.
very much agrees with Chen Guo Teacher once said this:
"Be your own sun, you don't need to borrow the light of others, be the protagonist of your life, and you don't need to go to anyone else's world to be a supporting role."
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Things that are not suitable for you are, are consumed by yourself.
I often dream of being isolated at night, or being excluded by my classmates in my class when I was a student, or being looked down upon by my colleagues at work.
often wakes up in such dreams, often a little sad.
Because I am introverted, I am not good at socializing, and have been more or less ridiculed by people around me in my life.
When I was a child, my sister often said to me: "I know how you can get married, it's like a dull gourd..."
Their original words are not clear, I only remember that every time they look at me, they look with a pity.
Sometimes I can’t stand it when they say it. If I hit them back, I will be called “a slut in the nest”.
In their eyes, I am not smooth enough and can’t handle things. I will suffer losses in the future.
It seems that in their eyes, people must be able to speak well, be more sleek in their lives, and live a better life in the future.
Or get close to those who have achieved some success and walk around with them more. According to their statement, we usually contact us more often and find someone to help us if you have any problems in the future.
I know what they said is correct to some extent, but I haven't become the person they say.
I often say whatever I think. I am not smooth in my life and work. I always go straight and don’t like to cling to relationships.
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Instead of trying to live as others expect, it is better to be yourself.
I remember when I was a child, I was often taught to play with my friends, and the elders at home also specifically instructed other children to play with me.
seems to be bad for not being sociable, and since then I have been afraid that I am not sociable.
is not afraid of anything in school, but is afraid of group cooperation learning, afraid that I can’t integrate into it, and afraid that others will exclude me. This kind of heart knot has been formed in the heart since then.
After entering society, I was indeed troubled by this personality. I tried to change and mustered up a lot of courage. I often persisted once or twice and returned to the same.
The process of fighting against yourself is quite painful and consumes your energy.
Later I gradually realized that instead of struggling to change yourself and become what others expect, it is better to use this time and energy to improve yourself.
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3 Try to be your own good, no need to borrow anyone's light.
Everyone has their own way of living, and there is no unified answer to life, and it does not mean that you must follow a certain path.
No matter how good others say it is, it may not be suitable for you. Of course, what suits you can learn from. If it is not suitable for you, you will just listen to it. How to do it according to your own ideas.
Don’t always listen to other people’s principles. Every step in your life must be completed by your own ability.
When people are in trouble, they often like to pin their hopes on others, hoping that there will be so-called "noble people" to help them.
But the reality is that I have no information in my stomach and no ability in my hands. No matter how many people I know, it is useless.
Besides, it’s a love for others to help you, so if you don’t help you, you don’t have to complain.
connections will only give you a chance, but you have to rely on your own real skills to seize the opportunity.
3 tides and ups and downs, after walking for so long, I gradually realized that the only reliable thing in life is yourself. It is of course good to be able to be in a group with
. If you really can't fit into other people's circles, then being alone is also a good choice.
If no one is with you, it is also a good habit to learn to listen to music alone and read and write words alone.
Work hard to settle down and be yourself well, without borrowing anyone’s light; I hope there is always strength behind us and become our own sun!
Be the protagonist of your own life, strive to be independent and beautiful. When our condition gets better and better, we will not be afraid of the voices of the outside world.
3 coded words. If you think the content is inspiring to you, I hope you can spend 0.1 second to like it. Yours will always be the driving force for my continuous output. Thank you!
Author: Mu Muxue, a self-media writer who focuses on personal growth and writing self-media information and is working hard to go to freedom. I hope that we will become better selves through hard work and live the life we like! The picture is from the Internet, please delete if infringes.
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