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There are many people in life who blindly believe that the most reliable relationship between people is blood relationship, especially between parents, children and brothers and sisters.
If you look closely, you will find that those who end up becoming enemies usually have a particularly good relationship before breaking up.
The relationship between people must have a sense of proportion. Without a sense of proportion, it is destined to slowly disappear in the long river of life.
Reality has always been complicated, and no one can break through reality and live like a dream.
Only by not being self-righteous can you stop life from becoming bad. Whether it is children or parents, you should understand that the so-called intimacy is not about controlling the other person and giving them crazy advice, but about expressing love at the right time.
Parents must be clear-headed. Everyone’s life path can only be done by themselves. Don’t try to influence the lives of their children, and don’t blindly think that their life philosophy is the truth.
The best state for 3 people in their old age is to turn a blind eye to things outside the window, especially not to do the following 4 things at their children's homes, so you will be better if you know it.
Intervene in the lives of children
In family life, the problem that cannot be avoided and solved is probably the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
From ancient times to the present, The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a difficult problem that makes every family feel.
Some people may express their questions, there is not only mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in a family, so why does this "the most difficult sutra" only happen between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The reason is also very simple. Usually, a marriage starts with the woman living in the man's home, which directly determines the composition of family members.
At the same time, the current social situation is that mothers care more about their children, so there is a situation where care is chaotic here.
When two generations live under the same roof, there will inevitably be differences in their thoughts. At this time, if the elders are confused and unable to hold back, they will interfere in their children's lives uncontrollably.
When conflicts become inevitable, a harmonious family will become a fantasy.
Interfere with the education of grandchildren
Educating the next generation is the responsibility of every parent and something that others cannot replace.
There are always some elders in life who have not had a deep understanding or are angry with their own personal emotions and insist on "educating" their children when they educate their children.
is to show off the opposite tune, and even to suppress others with their identity and forcefully protect their grandchildren.
Education of the next generation is a relatively important and relatively difficult thing in a family. Even without others' interference, it is impossible to guarantee that every preaching will take effect. If someone interferes next to you, discipline of children will become more difficult.
Parents should understand that their children are already adults, and how to educate the next generation has already made arrangements for them. If they interfere recklessly, they will not only not be able to help, but will also disrupt their children's plans.
When people get old, they have to learn to understand others and not to use their ignorance and selfishness to fight their children. This behavior is really stupid.
Comments on the relationship between husband and wife
As we all know, it is more hateful to pull a slut than to say bad things. At least it is obvious that you are disgusted when you say bad things, but it is bad when you are too stubborn.
As an elder, if you live in your children's home, do not easily comment on your children's marriage and relationship with your husband.
, especially children who have been married for a long time, have lived together for many years, and even their children have grown up. At this time, as an elderly person, commenting on the relationship between husband and wife behind their backs, it is undoubtedly a destruction.
There is a strange phenomenon in life, that is, when people are good, they will say in person, and when people are bad, they are always willing to keep the person involved in their backs.
does this because before opening it, you have already expected that the words you said may have bad consequences.
As an elder, you must be sober. Life is not just one side, and family affection should not be used to satisfy personal preferences and personal emotions.
People who are biased will also be prejudiced. Controlling one's mouth is the first choice for elders to be respected.
Send messages randomly to brush the presence
For a person, the most painful thing is to lose the presence.
For example, no one responds to his words, he is not seen when doing things, and even whether it appears in an environment is not taken seriously.
At this time, people usually want to satisfy their emotional needs and make a crazy sense of existence.
Some people can work more, do a very good job or bad job. In short, it is the purpose of attracting everyone's attention.
Some people have learned to pass messages, "play" the surveillance on their own, and record the every move of everyone around them.
Many elderly people live at their children's homes because they have nothing else to do and cannot control themselves wanting to show their presence, so they will become silly. Not only do they pass the message, they will also add fuel to the vehement to make the language more attractive and brighter.
As an elder, if your children want a harmonious family, it is necessary to control your mouth. Not passing messages will not cause trouble to your children, and you can also avoid being disliked.
Content source: Weichen [ID:weichenip] It is easy to meet the author by chance.
Author Profile: Weichen, freelance writer, writing tutor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
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