No winter is colder than this one. It's not just the body that's cold, it's also the emotions.
Some emotions are destined not to be shared with others, and can only be healed by oneself.
Just like pain cannot be replaced by others, you can only rely on your own resistance to experience the skin-cutting feeling.
Emotions like this are the superposition of certain moods, getting deeper and deeper, just like a well. Every time I look down, I feel particularly powerless.
At times like this, you must tell yourself to stay away from that well and try every means to adjust your state. Otherwise, it will be very easy to fall into it. Once your feet are muddy, it will be easy to sink deeper and deeper.
Negative emotions are a reality that everyone may face. If you want to truly let go, you can only heal quickly by finding the reason for your emotions.
Some time ago, I felt that I had fallen into this kind of emotion. I couldn’t explain why. I just felt that I was not interested in anything and was unhappy in whatever I did.
I want to chat with my friends, but once the words come out of my mouth, I don’t know how to express them. When asked by his friend, he could not tell the story of Zichou Yinmao. In the end, I had no choice but to say, forget it, I'll just digest it myself.
In fact, everyone may encounter such a situation. It is obvious that the emotions are very depressed, but they are speechless at the moment of exit. It's not a secret, it's just a mixture of emotions, and you can't find the very beginning.
You can only slowly dismantle it by yourself, follow the emotional context, find every knotted place bit by bit, and patiently open it up bit by bit.
No one really understands you, only you understand the origin of those unfounded emotions.
In the process of self-reflection, I gradually understood the reason for my depression. In fact, it was the anxiety of the sudden increase in epidemic infections after the relaxation of the epidemic.
My brother was infected first and had a severe cough. During those days, my sister-in-law kept running to various pharmacies to buy medicines. She heard that many pharmacies had no medicines and many medicines were unavailable, which made her panic.
Influenced by them, I also started buying medicine to prepare for my family members who were about to come back from other places, but I got infected inexplicably. I originally wanted to wait for my family members to come back and hide safely, but I ended up waiting for them with the virus . I felt guilty.
When the whole family was infected, the child's symptoms were more severe. First, the fever lasted for a long time, and then the cough became prolonged. I was worried when I saw him having a fever, and I felt distressed when I heard him cough. This feeling was really confusing and full of mixed emotions.
Emotions have been wrapped up, accumulated, and fermented by this constant pressure. While taking good care of your family, you don’t dare to look forward to the future. Smiling on the outside, but feeling scared and helpless inside.
When more and more people fall into this dilemma, I also hear that many people have such emotions. While enlightening others, I also realize that if I want to truly get out of negative emotions, I can only rely on myself.
I started listening to books, and listened to Liang Xiaosheng's "Rings of the Year". It describes a group of children who grew up together, later became educated youth together, and returned to the city together. They have different lives. When they are living well, they seldom disturb each other, but when everyone encounters difficulties, they must reach out to help each other, just like brothers and sisters whose blood is thicker than water, supporting each other and never leaving. I was moved by the warmth of humanity, and slowly became full of hope for life.
I started video chatting with my mother every day, listening to her talk about the past and how difficult her life was when she was a child, because there were many people in the family but little food, and they never had enough to eat.I heard her say that her mother had tuberculosis. She coughed and vomited blood all day and night, but her family could do nothing. They had no money to buy medicine, so they could only watch her suffer until the oil ran out.
Listening to my mother’s difficult childhood days, and then looking at our current life, no matter how many times it is, it is many times better than theirs. What obstacles can we not overcome?
Only when we compare with our parents’ generation can we understand the happiness of abundant material things. Only when we compare with the sufferings of others can we realize that the difficulties we encounter are simply not worth mentioning.
Many negative emotions are caused by the accumulation of anxiety just because they are too concentrated on their own feelings.
At this time, we should broaden our horizons and see how others have survived the same crisis, see how strong others are in difficult situations, and see how the sunshine is shining into reality little by little.
At this time, we should open our minds, accept the fact that it is not perfect, and then find ways to overcome it bit by bit and get better.
To understand the words and deeds of others who are somewhat resistant in our hearts, everyone has their own principles and reasons for doing things, and it is impossible to completely conform to our will. Tolerating others is also letting go of ourselves.
When you find that your mood is getting lower and lower, don’t let it go and don’t resist in silence. Instead, try to find the reasons behind it, actively look for solutions, get out of the emotional shadow as soon as possible, and expand the sunshine area in your heart.
There is never complete preparation in life. As long as you have a fearless heart and believe that there will be a road before the car reaches the mountain, and the boat will naturally go straight to when it reaches the bridge, then all difficulties will become our experience after overcoming them, and all the uneasiness will become a smiling face after the clouds clear and the mist clears.
Don’t be a prisoner of negative emotions, but bravely try to overcome them.
No matter how cold the winter is, it is just the prologue of spring. No matter how difficult the years are, they will eventually pass in life.
I hope everyone can be the master of their own emotions, live a trivial life, but still be passionately devoted.
text: love me love
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