In this rolling world of mortals, just like the classic line in "Yongzheng Dynasty": Some people rush to the examination room at starry night, while some people resign and return to their hometown. Everywhere you look, you see people working hard all day long to make a living, and you see people who are elegant and calm without worrying about food and clothing. So what exactly brings a person to his current state of life?
Here you may think of that extremely sad sentence: Everything is fate, and no one can control it at all. Ordinary people like us have a very limited understanding of destiny. But to be frank, in fact, after each of us has experienced layers of beatings in real life, we have to admit the fact that there is indeed something similar to fate in the dark. It has a pair of transparent hands, which controls our life status in various invisible ways, and determines the trajectory of our destiny to the unknown distance.
Perhaps, it is worth taking some time for each of us to avoid the bustling crowd and calm down to think about a core question related to our lives: How to view our own destiny?
Fatalism often leads to nihilism
If one day you meet a fairy-like fortune teller by chance, he will point out all the details of your past one by one, and then explain all the details one by one, accurate to the time, place and reason. Do you believe it or not?
I think the answer for most people should be the same. Yuan Xuehai, the protagonist of the book "Four Lessons from the Mortal World", met such a fortune teller Mr. Kong when he was young, and almost calculated his whole life. What is even more amazing is that in the next three years, Yuan Xuehai's life experience was exactly the same as what this miraculous Mr. Kong said, word for word!
The cause and effect and retribution of this past life are all clearly laid out in front of us, just like you and I already know the ending before the story begins. The script that has been written like this must be boring! It's no wonder that Yuan Xuehai also fell into the calculable "fate" at first, and was depressed all day long, only following Mr. Kong's words. If it were you, I'm afraid you would just lie down, lose interest in life, and have no fighting spirit, right? Perhaps late at night, a lingering thought will linger in your mind: this damn fate that cannot be escaped, what else can I do? Isn't everything I do in vain?
Can fate really be changed?
What is fate? It determines some innate things from the moment we are born, such as the time and place of birth, parents and everything our parents can give us; but it also has parts that can be changed the day after tomorrow, due to various changes in time, space and personal factors.
Can fate really be changed? It is like a deck of cards we hold since birth. Different card positions and different opponents all affect the way the cards are played and how good they are. "One fate, two luck and three feng shui", fate has always been ranked first since ancient times.
People are products of their environment. Meng's mother has moved three times since ancient times. In order to give the young Mencius a good education, Meng's mother worked tirelessly to find a high-quality educational environment for him. This in itself shows that the environment has a profound impact on people. A person's mental model , the development of temperament and habits, and the formation of ideology are all seeds planted in childhood.
The master of psychology Jung said a sentence that I can't forget for a long time, "A person's lifelong effort is to integrate the personality he has formed since childhood." When we cannot change or choose our parents, family of origin and era, we can at least change the small environment in which we live. This "small environment" includes inner personal cultivation and the outer surrounding world.
"The Four Lessons from the Mortal World" is a widely respected guide to changing one's destiny against the will of heaven. It tells us that if a person has deep spiritual cultivation, he can change his own destiny. But this is by no means easy. It requires sustained efforts that are unimaginable by ordinary people. It requires a person to have an extremely strong will to live - rigorous self-sustainment and continuous improvement like walking on a tightrope with two feet day after day.As Professor Liu Feng once said with insight: A true practitioner’s fate cannot be calculated.
Changing careers made me realize that people live and trees move and die
As a standard essayist in a small town, my past life experience made me realize that destiny can really be changed, if you are really willing to put in the corresponding efforts.
was born in a rural area since childhood. Like many readers, I was deeply influenced by my native family. Before entering college, I did not have a deep understanding of the hardships involved in my destiny. Because I was applying for the college entrance examination, I had no rational understanding of the rapidly changing society outside, or even a basic perceptual understanding, so I muddleheadedly chose a major that focused on manufacturing. In the college entrance examination application system, a seemingly easy check has profoundly changed my destiny for the next ten years.
When I entered college, I found that many students in my major were still maintaining the same routine as in high school: attending classes, answering questions, and studying for test scores. The most fatal thing is that I found that the employment opportunities in my major were very narrow, and the development prospects and income benefits were not very high. I once had the idea of changing my major. But at that time, I somehow fell into confusion. As I say to my friends now: I was lost in the school forest. At that time, I didn't know which major to switch to, so I spent my undergraduate career in a muddle, and failed the postgraduate entrance examination as a matter of course. Then I learned from the painful experience and chose a computer-related industry. I took the postgraduate entrance examination again and returned to my alma mater, devoting myself wholeheartedly to IT-related industries.
Now my income and salary can be said to be among the best among my classmates, and I have clear entrepreneurial ideas for the future. Now that I think back on my experiences in the past ten years, if I had still stuck to my original industry, I would have been like many others and had no idea what the direction of my life was. I dare not doubt the power of fate, but at least some key choices can be stopped in time, so that the trajectory of fate can have some favorable deviations instead of heading into the endless abyss.
The environment you live in is also part of your destiny.
In recent years, you must have heard this sentence: Self-discipline is freedom. If personal cultivation is self-discipline, then the environment is heteronomy. You will notice different environmental atmospheres and differences in their respective energy fields. For example, comparing an urban village full of mess with a community with an orderly rhythm of life reflects the difference in residents' awareness of public civilization and aesthetics. Another example is the university where the author has been studying for many years. At that time, many friends from other schools came over. As soon as they entered the door, they felt inexplicably at ease and just wanted to study.
Similarly, in a company that has excellent corporate culture and values, and is full of humanistic care for its employees, people will be positive when working, and the company will prosper accordingly. More importantly, if you follow the right company, you can live a healthy life and achieve financial freedom in just three to five years. Just like the previous Internet company and Tencent , the founder led a few people through the road from a little-known small company to a large group that dominated the industry. The first people who joined have been more than 20 years ago. These people all received shares as gifts when the company went public, and directly entered the upper class of society. Isn't this life?
It is undeniable that from the time of birth, things in a person's life have determined most of it. However, personal factors must not be ignored. If a person can develop an awakening consciousness at a young age and constantly break away from the influence of the environment, then he may choose the right direction to work hard and ultimately change his destiny.
People move living trees and dead trees, and we encourage you together!
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