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saw a hot search topic: "How humble will a child who grows up in a frustrating education environment be in his later life?"

In fact, all of us have experienced setbacks. The exams you fail, the work you can't complete, the bus you can't take, and many other trivial things are all setbacks.

But what if this environment became the norm? When there is only endless denial around you, what will happen to such a child?

1.Do they really care about you?

The most troublesome thing about returning home every year is probably the sudden appearance of relatives and friends with whom we have almost no contact on weekdays.

They will ask similar questions every time, and they seem to be concerned about your life, your work, your marriage and your children.

But in fact, most of them don't actually care about how you are doing, they are just looking for opportunities to show off.

In their eyes, the children of relatives and friends must not be as good as their own children. Relatives and friends must not be happier than themselves.

When we were young, our parents couldn't refuse these people's "concerned greetings" because of their reputation. But when we grow up, we really don't need to compromise.

Because, not all relatives can be regarded as your relatives. Most of them actually have no direct connection with your life.

Take a step back and ask, what kind of person is worthy of your care and attention? These people must be kind to your family or people who really move around frequently.

Those people don't care what job you find or how big a house you live in. They just hope that the children they have grown up with can have their own happiness.

2. They don’t feel it’s hurt.

Some netizens said that their aunt had given her a nickname since she was a child because her eyes were relatively small.

In the eyes of my aunt and other elders, this is an iconic nickname and a reasonable way to tease their children.

However, they never realized what impact this name would have on this child's past and present.

Even after the netizen grew up, she had repeatedly advised the elders in the family. She hated this kind of derogatory name.

There will still be elders in the family who subconsciously call this name, and they never think it is a wrong thing.

In fact, many people around us will face such a situation. Many people know that they are wrong, but they still do it.

They never care about how they feel and impact others, because they have never planted the concept of equality in their hearts.

Especially when faced with the children of relatives at home, they will always beautify the harm into a kind of 'pampering'.

3. They are not as bad as you say

A long time ago, there was a public welfare test project on the Internet: ‘Please brag to the first person you see after you go out today. The result of the '

experiment was that not only the volunteers who participated in the experiment felt very happy, but even the strangers who were praised seemed much happier.

Many times, the vast majority of people are not as bad as their parents, relatives or anyone around them think.

They just lack a window for display. In order to make a living, most people are not engaged in the work they like or yearn for.

Frustration education is a subtle education model that many people of our generation have experienced since childhood. We have been constantly denied.

‘Why can’t you take two more points? Look at the kid next door. How can he get perfect marks on every subject? You are still in the same class.’

We cannot deny that the result is indeed important, but the process of getting the result is actually more important than the result.

Since everyone exists, there must be a meaning for his existence. A little more encouragement won't make him bad, it might make him better.

4. You live your life, that's enough.

Not all people who say "I am doing it for your own good" are doing it for your own good. Some of them don't want you to have a good life.

Annoying relatives, estranged relationships, placement is okay. After all, no one in this world can be liked by everyone.

A person who lives for others may indeed become a role model in the eyes of a few people, but if he wants to satisfy more people, he will definitely destroy himself.

Don’t be the sure victim of frustration education. Even if the whole world doesn't approve of you, you must recognize yourself and love yourself.

and above, I wish you sweet dreams and good night.