Question:
Why does the more respect others, the more disrespect others, the more you disrespect you, the more you treat others as human beings, the less others treat you as human beings?
Answer:
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In the final analysis, it is actually a human problem
The "people" here refers to both the other party and the "you" among the parties involved
There is such a person in life, he is very strong and has a strong desire to control himself. Strong, perverted self-confidence, not afraid of conflict with others
They will habitually instinctively control other people's thoughts, emotions, and behaviors (such as by scolding, belittlement, and morally kidnapping of other people's other parties), so that others can act according to their own wishes
The reason why they treat others like this is, first, to benefit themselves and make profits; second, because doing this is a need for them. When he successfully exerts influence on others, he will feel a kind of power to strengthen his self-affirmation, and the personal influence and superiority derived from it will in turn make him feel good and even encourage him (you can think about the parents who have successfully controlled their children, successfully PUA leaders of their subordinates, and successfully control the face of his partner's lover)
In life, since there are such strong and strong desire to control, there are naturally those who are weaker in their personalities. It is difficult to refuse others, dare not conflict with others, and then easily influenced or even controlled by others.
Two strong and strong people working, socializing, or falling in love, often have conflicts, fierce conflicts, and blame each other because neither of them obeys each other;
However, a strong and strong desire for control is a person with a weak personality, afraid to conflict with others, afraid to reject others, and afraid to disappoint the other party.People with strong and strong desire for control are prone to PUA, disrespect, bullying, mental control, moral kidnapping... People with weak personalities
Facing a strong and strong desire for control, if you are a weak person, easily influenced by others, or even controlled, you try to exchange the other party's same treatment for you by respecting the other party, being kind to the other party, and reasoning with the other party. The result of the matter is often not only not to make you do what you want, but the other party may become more aggressive to you because of this reason: You use this behavior (to show goodwill to the other party), in the eyes of strong and selfish people, you are actually showing weakness to him (not strong). Those who are kind to you will not feel this way; those who are also kind to you are not strong or selfish)
strong and have a strong desire to control will find that you are a weak person, and they will naturally easily become more powerful, disrespectful, or even bad to you (for this reason, you may find that those who disrespect you and are strong to you may look completely different to other people who are not weak)
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face a strong and have a strong desire to control, you either keep a distance from the other party (for example, if you don't like it, you put it Abandon a bad lover), escape from the other party (for example, some people choose to escape from the bad original family); if you have to interact with the other party, you can try to improve your attitude towards the other party, and to toughen your attitude towards the other party (for example, you can treat the other party in a similar manner by rejecting the other party, not cooperating with the other party, so as to express your attitude and position to the other party)
Once the other party finds that it is not easy for you and cannot bully, control, and PUA you, he will naturally turn to other people, or change his attitude towards you
If you say that you cannot live without the other party, you If you can't be tough on the other party, you dare not refuse or disobey the other party...
um..... A strong and highly controlled person, he will not bully you, PUA, he will kidnap you immorally...
Similarly, the problems of both parties in the parties themselves, and the bad results caused by:
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But in this way of getting along, the frequency is more and the degree is deeper, the other party's gratitude and satisfaction will become lower and lower, because the other party's appetite and needs will treat her like this because of a weak man, thus becoming bigger and bigger
A weak man, if he likes a woman with bad morals, green tea, strong personality and selfishness, even if the weak man is good to the other party and gives more, even if he feels wronged, he will just kneel down and lick the other party....
Not only will the other party not treat him like this because of a weak man, but will be treated the same way, the other party will easily become more likely to change. This is even worse for weak men.
Of course, similar things include
For example, after some girls found that their boyfriend cheated, they immediately forgave the other party
Girls easily forgive and compromise the scumbag, which may make the scumbag more easily and unscrupulously cheating
so in the final analysis, it is actually a human problem
hope to inspire everyone
love Sir
2022-12-12
