sees a question like this in QU: How to improve yourself when you are alone in ?
Some people say reading and fitness, some people say dress up well, some people say they do a good job of rest, and my answer is to live the way they like, that's all.
What is alone?
Writer Wang Xiaobo once said: "When people are young, they feel that there are people everywhere, and other people's affairs are yours. After middle age, they feel that there is nothing in the world except family."
In fact, being alone is the exclusive time for middle-aged people. This time belongs to you and is arranged by yourself.
Being alone is your exclusive time. Living well in the way you like is to improve yourself.
01. How to improve yourself when you are alone?
I am in my twenties and hate loneliness. I like to gather and go shopping with friends on weekends. At that time, there were many entertainment activities at night, such as karaoke, go to bars, and have midnight snacks. I was afraid that I would feel bored when I was free, and I wasting my time.
I am in my thirties and like to be alone and enjoy the time alone. When you are alone, you can organize your things, clean your room, make a meal of your favorite food, watch a movie alone, and occasionally have a cup of tea and a book for the whole afternoon. This feeling is very good.
time alone means not being too anxious or slow, letting time slow down, doing what you like, and enjoying the happiness of being alone.
When you like to be alone and get used to doing what you like, you will find that your thoughts and abilities will be improved unknowingly, including your temperament, confidence and calmness exuding from the inside out, exclusive to your inner beauty, this is to improve yourself when you are alone.
It can be seen that when you are alone, you don’t have to force yourself to read, study, and check in like someone, arrange all the time to make yourself busy, and then you start to get rid of it when you are alone, and you don’t end up meeting your expectations. You will hate being alone, and you will even hate yourself.
So please make your own decisions when you are alone, follow your inner choices, learn to be with yourself, and enjoy your alone time.
02. Alone - Living in the way you like
Mr. Yang Jiang wrote in "A New Year's Eve": "We had longed for the waves of destiny so much, but in the end we realized that the most graceful scenery in life is actually the calmness and calmness of the heart. We had so much anticipated the recognition of the outside world, but in the end we realized that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others."
The most graceful scenery in life is the calmness and calmness of the heart. We should understand that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. Time alone belongs to you, and has nothing to do with others.
What can we do when we are alone
There are many spiritual sentences on the Internet that constantly encourage everyone. They say that middle-aged people must learn to be alone, constantly learn and improve themselves when they are alone, and make themselves more and more outstanding. So everyone followed them to get up at 6 o'clock, read, write, run, and exercise, and gave up after persisting for a while, so you would say this is "poisonous" chicken soup.
But have you ever thought about it, do you really like these? When doing these things, do you feel that it brings you happiness?
So before talking about improving yourself, you should ask yourself, what can we do when we are alone?
Everyone is unique in this world, they have what they like to do, and they all have their own dreams.
For example, when I first started, I didn't know what I could do? Don't know what I can do? So I learned from others, learned to draw and write, learned to do handicrafts, sew cross stitches, cook food, etc. In the end, I found that I was not good at these things and didn't like them much.
I am constantly trying some things I can do, and finally I found that I like to read. I like to share some interesting things in life, write what I see and think into paragraphs, and then share them on the platform.During the sharing process, I met many friends with the same hobbies. In my spare time, I chatted with a few friends and shared their recent reading insights. Later, I gradually began to gain something, and I grew up and improved myself without realizing it.
This is the improvement you get when you are alone. As long as you want, you can!
I know an old lady who is in her eighties. Everyone thinks that elderly people in their 80s should take a walk, practice Tai Chi, and do what the elderly should do. But this grandma doesn't like these things. She likes to go online and shop online. She also shows herself a nursing home and finally moved to a nursing home. When this grandmother was in her seventies, her wife passed away. Before her wife passed away, her main job was to take care of her.
Later, my wife passed away, and grandma's children asked grandma to move in with them, but grandma didn't want to. During her time alone, grandma learned to surf the Internet. She wore reading glasses and typing on the keyboard. When she didn't understand, she called her grandson to ask about her. Later, grandma finally learned to surf the Internet. She would buy some gadgets for herself, she would chat with others on the computer, and she would watch the news and TV. Later, my grandmother was inconvenient to move, so she found a nursing home for herself online and finally moved to the nursing home to live in.
In a nursing home, she is a "fashionable" grandmother. She often helps elderly people in nursing homes to shop online. She teaches elderly people of the same age to video calls with their family on their mobile phones. The originally boring old age life has become rich and interesting.
80-year-old grandma finds what she likes to do while being alone and lives in the way she likes to support her.
So when we are alone, we should first think about what we can do? What do we like to do? Living the way you like, getting ahead unknowingly, being alone is that simple.
at the end:
Make yourself comfortable is the most important thing: "Real growth is no longer necessary to have an external sense of identity. It doesn't matter at all if others think about you. You don't have to maintain a good relationship with everyone, or even care about other people's lives, or want to be disturbed. You will gradually understand that the sense of identity you once pursued is a shackle on your soul. Freedom and comfort are more valuable, even if you are alone."
Finally, middle-aged people don't have much time alone. Do what you like to do and live according to your own lifestyle. If you are comfortable and happy, you will love life and work more. This is your improvement, that's all!
