Author: Rufengjun
Xin Qiji said: "I sigh that life is not satisfactory, and it is eight or nine times the ten things are always there."
Most of the time in life, being satisfied is just a chance, and being disobeyed is the norm.
instead of getting angry and letting yourself fall into the whirlpool of emotions, it is better to let go of your emotions and be kind to yourself.
You should know that the most useless thing in this world is to be angry.
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angry, letting small things become big things
During the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a mulberry tree growing on the border between the Wu and Chu states.
One day, a woman from Chu and a woman from Wu and Wu wanted to pick mulberry leaves. The two argued and wrestled together.
As a result, the woman in Wu won, hugged a basket of mulberry leaves and went home proudly.
The woman in Chu lost, so she told her family about being beaten. The family was furious and picked up the hoe and beat the woman in Wu.
After hearing this, Doctor Wu was very angry and sent troops to occupy the border of Chu.
King Ping of Chu learned about this, slapped the table, led the imperial army to fight in person, and flattened the border of Wu.
Wu Wang Liao was not to be outdone and sent generals to attack Chu State.
originally just picked a few mulberry leaves, but because of the anger of both sides, it turned into a war between the two countries.
As the saying goes, "A small impatience will cause trouble."
People often lose their minds when they are angry.
originally endured things that could be calm for a while, but they became uncontrollable.
Really smart people understand that competing with emotions is competing with themselves.
instead of putting yourself in trouble, it is better to calm down and treat it calmly.
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angry, let good things turn bad things
The old saying goes well: "Boiling water cannot see the reflection clearly, and it cannot see the truth clearly."
When people are angry, they can easily confuse their thoughts and make extreme actions.
I heard a story:
There was a hard-working man who worked hard all his life, and finally owned a wooden house when he was old.
What upset him was that when did a few mice run in the room.
One night, he finally fell asleep, but was woken up by the squeaking sound of a mouse.
He was furious and picked up the wooden stick and kept beating it in the corner, but to no avail.
Finally, he raised the torch to burn the mouse and actually lit the new house.
blindly gets angry, not only will it not solve the problem in front of you, but it will also cause greater losses.
The more urgent the matter is, the more you should calm your mind and look at the overall situation.
Only when people live for a lifetime, they do not do emotional enslavement can they be their own masters.
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angry, making couples enemies
The ancients said: "The highest to the sun and the moon, the most closest to the miserable couple."
The brightest and brightest under the day is the sun and the moon, and the closest and most distant couple are the couple.
Because there is no distance, it is easier for couples to pick on each other and create rifts.
How many couples are there? Because they are angry, they are still close lovers in the past second, and the next second they become enemies in the past life.
It is particularly important to grasp a good scale in marriage.
male god Hu Shi married a country girl with a small footed Jiang Dongxiu as his wife.
Jiang Dongxiu has a tough personality and a very strong temper, but Hu Shi has been with her for the rest of her life and is particularly harmonious.
all this stems from Hu Shi never getting angry with his wife.
Poet Yan Shu once said: "It is better to cherish the person in front of you than to see the green mountains and thoughts are far away."
It is common for couples to bump into each other. No matter when, don't show off your temper.
even if you win right or wrong, you lose friendship.
To those who are close to you, give up three points in everything, happiness will accompany you for a lifetime.
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angry, turning relatives into passers-by
Maijia, who was named "the father of spy war literature", has experienced two heavy father-son love.
html When he was 49 years old, Mai's father slapped twice in the face because of a fight with his classmates, and blood flowed out.
From then on, he held a grudge in his heart and had not called him father for more than 20 years.
When his son was in middle school, he often had conflicts with his classmates and his grades dropped significantly.
Maijia slapped his son hard just like his father back then.
From then on, my son was alienated from him and could not enter his son's room for three years.
In the book "The Road of Few People Walk", there is a touching saying:
"A lifetime is really short, far from as long as we imagined. You might as well be better to those who love yourself."
The older you are, the better you understand, family affection is the last destination of life.
Relatives are the moat of our lives. Even if it is occasionally as cold as water, it is to protect us from harm.
Be more patient and understanding with your relatives, don’t let family affection become strangers, and don’t let filial piety become regrets.
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angry, causing Anshun to change the twists and turns
TV series " People in the World ", Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan rarely lived for a few days in Anshun, but received the bad news that their son Zhou Nan died in the United States.
In anger, Zhou Bingkun blew his anger on Luo Shibin, causing the latter to die seriously injured.
Zhou Bingkun was also subject to legal sanctions.
Since he was imprisoned, Zheng Juan has sold popsicles in summer and sweet potatoes in winter, and has struggled to support this home.
If Zhou Bingkun had not gotten angry at the beginning, there would not have been this prison disaster and would not have caused pain to his closest person.
Wang Yangming once said: "Only you can restrain yourself can you become yourself."
Life is full of all kinds of twists and turns. The more you do this, the more you should cherish the current peaceful days.
acts impulsively and acts recklessly, and hurts not only yourself, but also affects the closest people around you.
If you want to have a better life, you must first accept the joys and sorrows of life.
Use a normal mind to face gains and losses, and use a happy heart to smile at setbacks, and you will be safe and smooth.
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angry, make health become disease
" Dream of the Red Chamber ", Cao Xueqin has a preference for Lin Daiyu .
She is simple-minded and treats people frankly. She is both beautiful and talented. Except for Mrs. Wang , everyone likes her.
It’s a pity that she has been weak and sick since childhood. She should have been meddling in peace, but she is also a sentimental person who often sulks.
Zhou Ruijia gave her flowers until the end, and she was angry;
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No matter how Baoyu prefers her, she will be angry.
A fairy flower in the garden was finally depressed because she heard that Baoyu and Baochai got engaged.
Traditional Chinese medicine says: "All diseases come from Qi."
The most useless thing in the world is to get angry.
painter Chen Danqing said: "I almost never get angry because I don't think it's necessary. If there is any problem, solve it. Don't let other people's mistakes affect yourself."
Be a person, be a little confused, forget, be generous, and keep peace, and you can reap joy.
