There is a hot topic on the Internet: "What is your biggest feeling under the epidemic?"
There is a praiseworthy answer: "The harder life is, the more tenacious you must be."
Instead of complaining about the unchangeable environment, it is better to try to change yourself.
Only by constantly practicing and improving oneself can one not be panicked when facing the test.
Still maintain confidence in life.
is like suffering is the foreshadowing of flowers blooming, winter is the prologue of spring, everything in the moment is to make you grow better.
Yes, I hope you can have the following 5 abilities.
01
The ability to persevere
There is a saying that goes:
"There has never been success overnight. Everyone must have a silent time.
is a day when they put in a lot of effort but cannot get results. We call it 'rooted'.
And this process of hard work is called 'persistence'."
In the days when they were blocked due to the epidemic, many people have tried new hobbies and skills to make a living.
For example: reading, exercising, writing, making videos, but not many can achieve results.
The reason is that most people lack the perseverance to persevere and the concentration to do something.
They often only have 3 minutes of popularity, 5 minutes of patience, and 7 minutes of perseverance.
Then make various attempts, but in the end it is nothing.
But if you can choose something you like and be good at and stick to it, maybe there will not be much change at the beginning, but as long as you have time, you will definitely gain.
is like the famous "lotus effect" in psychology:
It takes 30 days for lotus to bloom all over the pond, but the time from half of the pond to the entire pond is not 15 days, but the 29th day.
The seemingly inconspicuous day after day will eventually make you see the meaning of persistence on one day.
As the saying goes, "If you keep going, the rotten wood will not be broken; if you keep going, the metal and stone can be carved."
In fact, many things in life cannot be effective in the short term, and some people can persist because they know that
Only by persevering can you persist in everything, and only after persisting will you have an effect.
When you truly have the ability to persist in doing one thing, no matter what you do, I believe you will go further and get more than others.
02
The ability to allocate desires
Psychologist Freud once said:
"Humans are animals full of desires and driven by desires."
Because of this, when we are tired of desires, the first thing we think of is to let go of our desires to achieve a balance between our mindset and life.
However, even so, we will still be so entangled in some desires that it is difficult to make a choice.
At this time, we need to learn to allocate our desires well. For example:
Some people love fitness, but they also love food. In order to have a good figure, they need to put the desire to taste food second;
Some people love health, but they also love watching TV series. In order to maintain a regular desire to work and rest, they need to reduce or give up the desire to stay up late to watch TV series;
Some people love to buy things, but they also love the sense of security brought by savings. In order to save money, they need to give up the things that can be bought or not.
agrees very much with the sentence:
"Long-term self-discipline requires reasonable allocation of desires, rather than fighting with willpower."
You should know that if you are too tired, it will easily make people fall into a vicious cycle of self-blame and indulgence.
Learn to sort your desires and give up something that cannot be found.
Adjust some unimportant things and stick to some favorable things, and you can transform positive desires into energy for action.
When you have the ability to allocate your desires, you can better arrange your life and clearly know what you want.
03
The ability to give your own gifts
I like the writer Bi Shumin said:
"You don't always hope for a grand happiness, it's mostly just coming quietly."
Especially under the influence of the epidemic, in the face of pressure, we seem to have a weaker and weaker perception of happiness.
But in fact, in addition to the giving of family and friends and the impact of the external environment, happiness comes more from oneself.
And a person who often likes to give gifts can create small surprises for himself, discover small happiness in life, and of course, he can also gain more happiness.
On special festivals, on those memorable days, give yourself a gift to make yourself happier on this day;
When you encounter troubles and on less beautiful days, give yourself a gift to find a reason to be happy.
It can be a bouquet of flowers, a small object you like, a favorite book, an electronic product or a movie;
It can also be a reward for yourself, such as: "You are really great", "You are so persevering", "You have improved a little from the past"...
It can be a bit expensive, it can be very cheap, it can be very simple, it can be very sincere.
It can bring you a little joy and self-affirmation in a boring and trivial life, and this is its greatest value.
Don’t worry about whether it’s worth it at this moment, don’t worry about the current epidemic and pressure.
As long as you want, you can give yourself a gift at any time.
When you really have the ability to give yourself gifts, you will know how to love yourself more, and you will be happier and more confident.
04
Shameless ability
I heard a sentence before:
"You are embarrassed, and you are embarrassed, so why are you embarrassed to live? When you are embarrassed about this world, your growth will increase day by day." Although the chapter of
is a bit rough, it makes sense.
When we face other people's unreasonable requests, we do not want to refuse, but we are embarrassed to refuse;
When we face other people's offenses, we do not want to fight back, but we are embarrassed to tear our faces off;
When we face some opportunities, we do not want to work hard, but we are embarrassed to show it.
As the saying goes, “We have thick skin and eat thoroughly.”
Many times, it is because we value face too much and have too thin skin that we put ourselves in an embarrassing situation and tie ourselves up.
When you put your face down and have a strong heart that you can take and let go, you will no longer be afraid of others' evaluations of you, nor will you be afraid of falling behind others, but you will dare to make more attempts and live a more free and fulfilling life.
When you truly have the ability to be shameless, you will really grow up, and you will live more realistically and more confidently.
05
Ability to accept different opinions
Schopenhauer said: "The biggest prison in the world is the human mind consciousness."
Everyone likes to express ideas from the perspectives and positions they are used to, but everyone's vision and thinking are limited.
In this world, there are destined to be many things we have not seen and opinions we have never heard of.
When we come into contact with different opinions from ourselves, don’t rush to argue about who is right and who is wrong, and don’t correct others with a sense of superiority of self-concern.
Learning to respect other people’s differences is a kind of cultivation;
Learning to accept different opinions is a kind of ability.
As the saying goes: "Opinions do not distinguish between good and bad, cognition determines high and low."
People will never see scenery higher than their own vision, nor will they ever develop views higher than their own knowledge.
So, when your opinion is different from others, it may be that others have too narrow vision, but it may be that your own perception is too low.
We humbly accept the correct views that are different from ourselves;
There is no need to argue and convince the wrong views that are different from ourselves. When you truly have the ability to accept different opinions and break through the limitations of cognition, you will see a wider scenery and a more exciting world. 06 A person has to walk many ways in his life, but there is only one way that you cannot refuse or escape, that is: the road to growth. very much agrees with the sentence: "The best noble person in life is to work hard to improve himself." And only by constantly growing can you better deal with the difficulties given to us by the epidemic and have the ability to break the deadlock. Night Listen to you these 5 abilities can help you better recognize yourself, balance your relationship with your external ones, no longer worry about gains and losses, no longer be afraid of difficulties, and no longer doubt yourself. As long as you are willing to break through, dare to act, and be good at persisting, you will eventually usher in a gorgeous butterfly transformation.
When you have the ability to allocate your desires, you can better arrange your life and clearly know what you want.
03
The ability to give your own gifts
I like the writer Bi Shumin said:
"You don't always hope for a grand happiness, it's mostly just coming quietly."
Especially under the influence of the epidemic, in the face of pressure, we seem to have a weaker and weaker perception of happiness.
But in fact, in addition to the giving of family and friends and the impact of the external environment, happiness comes more from oneself.
And a person who often likes to give gifts can create small surprises for himself, discover small happiness in life, and of course, he can also gain more happiness.
On special festivals, on those memorable days, give yourself a gift to make yourself happier on this day;
When you encounter troubles and on less beautiful days, give yourself a gift to find a reason to be happy.
It can be a bouquet of flowers, a small object you like, a favorite book, an electronic product or a movie;
It can also be a reward for yourself, such as: "You are really great", "You are so persevering", "You have improved a little from the past"...
It can be a bit expensive, it can be very cheap, it can be very simple, it can be very sincere.
It can bring you a little joy and self-affirmation in a boring and trivial life, and this is its greatest value.
Don’t worry about whether it’s worth it at this moment, don’t worry about the current epidemic and pressure.
As long as you want, you can give yourself a gift at any time.
When you really have the ability to give yourself gifts, you will know how to love yourself more, and you will be happier and more confident.
04
Shameless ability
I heard a sentence before:
"You are embarrassed, and you are embarrassed, so why are you embarrassed to live? When you are embarrassed about this world, your growth will increase day by day." Although the chapter of
is a bit rough, it makes sense.
When we face other people's unreasonable requests, we do not want to refuse, but we are embarrassed to refuse;
When we face other people's offenses, we do not want to fight back, but we are embarrassed to tear our faces off;
When we face some opportunities, we do not want to work hard, but we are embarrassed to show it.
As the saying goes, “We have thick skin and eat thoroughly.”
Many times, it is because we value face too much and have too thin skin that we put ourselves in an embarrassing situation and tie ourselves up.
When you put your face down and have a strong heart that you can take and let go, you will no longer be afraid of others' evaluations of you, nor will you be afraid of falling behind others, but you will dare to make more attempts and live a more free and fulfilling life.
When you truly have the ability to be shameless, you will really grow up, and you will live more realistically and more confidently.
05
Ability to accept different opinions
Schopenhauer said: "The biggest prison in the world is the human mind consciousness."
Everyone likes to express ideas from the perspectives and positions they are used to, but everyone's vision and thinking are limited.
In this world, there are destined to be many things we have not seen and opinions we have never heard of.
When we come into contact with different opinions from ourselves, don’t rush to argue about who is right and who is wrong, and don’t correct others with a sense of superiority of self-concern.
Learning to respect other people’s differences is a kind of cultivation;
Learning to accept different opinions is a kind of ability.
As the saying goes: "Opinions do not distinguish between good and bad, cognition determines high and low."
People will never see scenery higher than their own vision, nor will they ever develop views higher than their own knowledge.
So, when your opinion is different from others, it may be that others have too narrow vision, but it may be that your own perception is too low.
We humbly accept the correct views that are different from ourselves;
There is no need to argue and convince the wrong views that are different from ourselves. When you truly have the ability to accept different opinions and break through the limitations of cognition, you will see a wider scenery and a more exciting world. 06 A person has to walk many ways in his life, but there is only one way that you cannot refuse or escape, that is: the road to growth. very much agrees with the sentence: "The best noble person in life is to work hard to improve himself." And only by constantly growing can you better deal with the difficulties given to us by the epidemic and have the ability to break the deadlock. Night Listen to you these 5 abilities can help you better recognize yourself, balance your relationship with your external ones, no longer worry about gains and losses, no longer be afraid of difficulties, and no longer doubt yourself. As long as you are willing to break through, dare to act, and be good at persisting, you will eventually usher in a gorgeous butterfly transformation.
