After years of thinking, I share with you the three underlying cognitions of my life. With these three aspects of understanding, you will find that every day can be happy, free and happy. The principle is that many of the life can actually be considered as additional rewards.
01, the first cognition: a person is essentially a lonely individual.
Most people cannot feel loneliness because they are always among the crowd; there are also a few people who occasionally feel deep or shallow loneliness in life adversity. Let’s think deeper that people are actually lonely in nature, even if there are people around them. Especially for great men, their lonely feeling may never be able to understand, and it feels like walking alone in a deep dark tunnel.
From birth to death, admitting that a person is always a lonely individual is not a bad thing.
First of all, this is a kind of psychological preparation, that is, from the beginning, we accept that we will always be on the road alone, accept that we will always lose our close relatives and beloved, accept that we will always have someone facing the thorns of life, so when that moment really appears, we will not panic. This is actually just us returning to the essence of being lonely individuals.
Secondly, it is to realize that people are always a lonely individual. On this basis, you know that we have actually gotten a lot. Look, when we have family, love, and friendship, aren’t these all extra rewards! We live on a lonely planet in the universe. We are a lonely individual in the crowd, but there are always various emotions around us.
If this is the case, our survival scope has actually been expanded, both one person, one family, and one group of people. Some people cannot be alone, some people cannot be sociable. Of course, everyone has their own way, but their survival scope has been greatly reduced. We should be able to practice, and enjoy the fun of one person when we are alone, because people are lonely; some people can also enjoy the joy of one person when we are alone, because some lonely individuals can always create brilliant sparks when they are together.
02, the second cognition: In the end, people can only be responsible for themselves.
In life, are there many people who express such a meaning blatant or insincerely? You must be responsible for me. When you need others to be responsible for yourself, you lose your initiative. We are ultimately responsible for ourselves, which is the first priority; of course we sometimes need to be responsible for others, or others are responsible for us, but this is always second and should not be taken for granted.
What is responsible for yourself? From the moment we left our original family, we clearly understood that we should be responsible for our health, finances, emotions, etc., and the time we are responsible for the rest of our lives. We should help ourselves in time, and any help from others at any time is just the icing on the cake.
I have a deep understanding of this, mainly derived from the Chinese concept of family. Chinese people pay special attention to the concept of family. It seems natural for parents to be responsible for each other between children and husband and wife. But often things go against your wishes, because the party who needs to be responsible will have times when they cannot or are unwilling. It is impossible to be unable to catch it, and it is unwilling to be unwilling to be reluctant. Such cases are everywhere in Chinese families. In the final analysis, many people lack an important deep understanding in their minds, that is, people can only be responsible for themselves in the end. For example, if we have children, if we have the awareness of our children in the future to support ourselves in the future, we may be very sad in our old age. Those who don’t understand, think about it!
Always remember that people can only be responsible for themselves in the end, which seems cruel; but if we face this cruelty head-on, it will be of great benefit to ourselves, which can greatly expand our living space.We can not underestimate ourselves in the face of the most ordinary and ordinary life; we can not underestimate ourselves in the face of the richest and most luxurious life. On the premise of being responsible for oneself, others cannot tolerate it, and others cannot do anything. In fact, the reality is often much better, because each of us can rely on something and always enjoy the time others are responsible for themselves. Isn’t this an additional reward!
03, the third cognition: people can find a meaning from meaninglessness.
If you have read books related to big history, you will understand that human history is just a moment in the long river of time in the universe; think about the lifespan of an individual, the longest is only a hundred years. Compared with infinite time, what is this? It just passes by and then it will turn into smoke and dust. How powerless this is! When thinking about life in infinite space and infinite time, life is really meaningless.
But when we take back our thoughts, the decades of life need to pass day by day, and every day has to pass second by second. No one can wait from life to death. They have to do something and find something. This is probably the meaning of life. What we are trying to find is a certain purpose, a certain value and a certain mission! Isn’t this the meaning of a short life? We have completely subjective initiative to find this to do this and use this as the fulcrum of life so that we will not feel pain for the nothingness of life! It can also be said that finding a meaning from a meaningless life is an additional reward.
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