Yan Zi said: "There is nothing better than the new clothes, and no one is better than the old."
Clothes need new clothes, and friends need old ones. Good friends, it’s like a glass of wine. After aging for a long time, it’s sweeter.
In ancient times, I wrote letters to friends from afar and it took several days or even a month to receive them.
Now, you can contact friends by moving your fingers. Open your circle of friends and you can see the life of your friends.
Please give me a like, I will leave you a message, and keep your friendship. Relatives, classmates, colleagues, and even old lovers all regard themselves as friends.
I don’t know when it started, but the circle of friends became deserted, and a large number of familiar friends disappeared.
It’s time to tear off the hypocritical social network and tell me the truth about the circle of friends.
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The more you post, the less others can see it.
posted on Moments in the morning and posted their morning. Scented sesame paste and fried dough sticks. Some people say, "This living standard is really good."
will look at the circle of friends every once in a while and count the number of likes. I feel warm in my heart. If the number of likes is not large, then post another Moments so that those who miss the first Moments will like the second one.
This is me many years ago. , or in other words, this is me who just got used to using WeChat.
When there are more people on WeChat, some people discover business opportunities. Therefore, micro-businesses flocked to their friends circle. They are all old acquaintances, and because of their affection, they have to buy something.
After the products from my house were sold out, I asked my neighbors what they had at home. But WeChat Business will not tell you that "this is from the neighbor's house", but insist on saying that "my relatives and mother have worked hard to do it."
There is a proverb that says: "Since I was fooled by Tangerine, I have never liked to sell Tangerine ."
people will wake up, sooner or later.
When we find that the people around us are " killing old customers ", we will naturally block the people who do micro-businesses. Next, those who sent dozens of messages a day were also blocked.
Someone simply closed his circle of friends and since then he "quit the world".
sets the Moments circle to be visible to three days, and there are many people. In disguise, people who have not read their circle of friends within three days are no longer friends.
The ancients said: "I haven't come to my house for three years, and I don't get married."
We say: "I don't contact for three days, and I become unfamiliar with me."
The fast-paced life allows us to minimize our intake of information. Therefore, the more people posted on WeChat Moments, the more people will be disliked and will not receive a "response".
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People who care too much about their circle of friends are very tired.
Zhu Xi said: "Friends, those who combine righteousness."
Those who can be called friends are people with some similar characteristics. For example, relatives are because of the same bloodline; classmates are people who study together; colleagues do things together.
We think that similar people will have common topics together, just like discussing topics together when reading. But reality will disappoint you. Adults live very tired, making money is the most important thing, and there is no spirit to pay attention to "emotional interaction".
classmate Xiao Jin said this.
He set his Moments to be visible for three days, and he didn't send any messages for more than half a year. With the idea of "not afraid of being slanted by the shadow", he opened his circle of friends and posted a picture of himself having a picnic.
I thought that friends from the past would like to like it, or drive over and get together.
Two hours later, he didn't see a like, and he felt really disappointed at that moment. He simply deleted the picture.
There are always some people’s circle of friends that have become dispensable. It's like the forest is so deserted that no mosquito is left.
When a person shows his life situation, he is really tired.
In addition, you care a lot about the Moments posted by others and are worried about what you missed. You will also be very tired and spend a lot of time in useless social networking.
When people meet, few people say things like "I liked a certain update of yours".It’s all a small matter of “a shaking hand”, who still remembers it?
The saddest thing is that you show off your wounds but you don’t get comfort. On the contrary, some people say, "This is too artificial." If you show off your achievements, some people say "It's too show-off." No matter how you do it, you won't be liked by others.
"The law of caring" tells us that the more you care about, the more you will lose something.
Excessive sensitivity will create a lot of suspicion. It is like a needle. If you stare at it repeatedly, it will become a "thorn in the eye". If you put it aside, it will be easy.
03
After disappearing into the circle of friends, I understand that "not many people care about it".
Ask yourself, after you have been away from your circle of friends for a few months, who will take the initiative to contact you and inquire about your news? Maybe there isn't one person.
Maybe you will receive some tentative messages. The other party confirms that your WeChat is still using it? If it is useless, delete it.
Maybe someone has deleted you, but you just haven't found it. When you need to contact each other, you are no longer friends, and the scene is very awkward.
Spring and Autumn , King of Yue Goujian was defeated by King of Wu Fuchai . In order to turn over, he endured the humiliation and worked as a slave in Wu , and then slept on firewood and tasted gall for many years.
Goujian , which fell to the trough, established a small circle with Fan Li and Wenzhong. Fan Li accompanied Goujian to Wu Kingdom, and Wen Zhong cleaned up the endgame of Yue Kingdom .
When Goujian rose again, Fan Li fled. He realized that "the rabbit died and the dog cooked, and the birds were kept in the bow", and Wen Zhong was killed because the contribution was too great, which may affect Goujian's position.
A few years later, Goujian held a banquet and invited all civil and military officials to gather.
Minister Yu said with emotion: "Without Wentian , Fan Li, Yue Kingdom has fewer talents."
Goujian was silent for a while and continued to drink - what people care about is location, not friends.
How many people are there? After using their friends, they disappear into the vast crowd, like Goujian? It turns out that no circle is eternal, it is just a temporary shack.
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novel "Stepwolf" writes: "All this is just like the radio that has just developed today. It can only make people escape from themselves and their own purposes, and make people surrounded by increasingly dense networks woven by entertainment and hard work."
network gives you convenience and also keeps you in the Internet. It is better to be more straightforward and make friends directly without having too much information to worry about yourself.
Whether the circle of friends has disappeared, we can’t control it. As long as we manage the people around us, make money together, drink together, and get together.
The poet said: "Choose friends is like pursuing gold, and you can't get any treasure."
It turns out that if some circles are lost, they will realize that they are worthless.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
Follow my text and enter your heart.
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