Life is just a few years old, and sometimes, just a few casual words are enough to make us cry.
Because, it is full of thoughts, caring and missing.
Time passed by, my parents dyed their hair instantly, and the years deepened their wrinkles. They grow older and become softer from strong.
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In life, we may have encountered such moments:
When I was traveling with my father, my father heard others talking and wanting to speak, but was afraid that he would embarrass the child by saying the wrong thing, so he kept silent;
When I went shopping with my mother, my mother didn't dare to ask anything new, for fear that it would seem uneducated to ask the child and lose face...
Think about it, why were we not afraid of saying the wrong thing and doing the wrong thing when we were young? It's because parents are tolerant.
But now, on the other hand, parents should act carefully at our faces, worried that they will drag us down.
Someone said, "The sign of parents getting old is that they start to listen to us, and everything is left to us."
When parents say the words "I am embarrassed for you, right?"
Not only is their disconfidence in themselves, but it also sounds the alarm for us.
Don’t let your parents feel useless, because 30 years ago, they were our heroes.
02
Last night, my best friend called me and cried loudly.
I comforted her and asked her what happened. She told me in a crying voice: "I must have hurt my mother before, so she became so polite."
Sometimes, my mother said, "It's okay, you're busy." In fact, she was just embarrassed to speak to you.
When care is bored, when help is misunderstood, and when parents are too often, they don’t know how to get along with us, and they become sensitive and cautious.
They try to find some of their own gaps in our world, carefully "disturbing" them, for fear of causing trouble and causing children to be disgusted.
Think about it, why did we ask questions to our parents over and over again when we were young, and we didn’t feel guilty if we bothered them again and again. But now, why can’t parents bother us like this?
The reason is that as children, we cannot give parents a sense of security.
Many times, we treat our parents with impatientness, and then our parents become cautious and timid in their impatientness again and again.
Think about how parents treated us when they were young, and multiply them ten times or even a hundred times to treat them so that they will no longer be afraid of disturbing us and let them know that children will always have time for them.
03
Many times, in the parents' concept, one's home is the child's home, and the child's home is just the child's home. Therefore, when the children are not around, they almost always look forward to their children coming back.
Mother, who is hundreds of kilometers away, struggles to dial out many times, but always hangs up in a hurry after saying a few words. Many years later, as children, we understand the heavy thoughts behind this.
The sentence "Are you really not coming back? " makes them so sad because they don't know when the next time you come back.
The decades of changes have allowed us to exchange roles. For parents, the loneliness and unnecessity are like a pain that pierces the heart. Although they don’t say it, they have never been removed.
So, no matter how busy we are, how many things and relationships we have to deal with, remember to leave some time for our parents. Never let your parents become left-behind elderly people, nor let the lively home become a cold and empty nest.
You should know that there is no way to get those lost companions back.
We all luckily thought that the future was long, but the years were pressing step by step, and no one could resist aging, and no one could outperform time.
Please remember that in the limited time, give your parents the most down-to-earth and sincere company, cherish it well, and leave no regrets.
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Whenever you are, your parents will always be the one who takes us the most. Therefore, they will care whether they have disturbed you, but they are always thinking about you.
Time passes, and no one has the ability to press the pause button.
What we can do is to accompany more and to be less alienated; understand more and complain less; express more love and embrace them more.
May the years be gentle and leave time for us to wait.
