Do you have this feeling? No matter how hard I work, I always feel that I am not good or worth it, and I feel very scarce inside.
For example, when I was in school, I tried my best to prove that I was very good by studying, and then in society, I used my work to prove that I was very good. In short, I wanted to prove in every aspect that I could. It’s like there’s a black hole in my heart. Even though I do it very well, I still feel that I’m not good enough. Even if I hear praise and praise from the outside world, I still can't feel my own goodness. It is impossible to fundamentally gain true self-worth and recognition.
Frustration comes uninvited
This is called a sense of valuelessness. We sometimes feel confused about it, and even troubled in life, not knowing what we really want.
In fact, behind our sense of value, it often comes from our deep desire for parents in childhood. They desire a parent who loves, understands themselves, has time to accompany them, or has the strength to encourage and support them.
The reason why people feel worthless often comes from the interaction between parents or early child raising children.
One is that children are too demanding, always criticize, criticize, and always pay attention to what children do not do well enough. For example, during the learning process, the child has tried his best to get 99 points, but the parents will say: Where did that point go?
Parents believe that doing this is an incentive for children and will not make their children proud. But this approach is wrong, and on the contrary it has caused deep harm to the child.
Because the child will think that no matter what I do, I will not meet the requirements of my parents. No matter how good you do, it is still worthless in the eyes of your parents and is never good enough. Children will feel deeply frustrated, powerless and worthless.
Another situation. It means that parents have long-term neglected or ignored their children. Because most parents have never learned how to be parents, they think that love for their children is to provide them with rich material things, so they try their best to make money outside, thinking that this is the safest home for their children.
But what children really need is that parents can see themselves, understand themselves, accompany themselves, be by their side, and give them sufficient safety and recognition.
We see that many families have rich material life, but their children have been growing up in loneliness. Because such children are never seen, understood, and respected by their parents. Therefore, children do not feel that they are important. In their world, they think that this world does not seem to need them. It doesn't matter whether they are here or not.
For a long time, children think that they are dispensable in this world, and a sense of value is born from it, and they have been growing up with their children for a long time.
Do you also feel that you have no value, or that you feel that you are not good, not worthy or not worth it in some aspects? Recalling when you first felt this way, was the shadow of your parents appearing.
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