A corporate boss, chat with me. He said that sometimes, he felt lonely, surrounded by friends with stakeholders, no one to talk to, and was also afraid to show his vulnerability in front of his loved ones.
is always like this, life is a process of slowly understanding. Some people can stay with you for a long time, while others can only stay with you for a while, but she may not be able to understand you if you are by your side. Without being by your side, you gradually lose the desire to communicate.
So, I am getting used to it more and more, one person digests all struggles and confusion, and one person endures loneliness and loneliness.
people are over thirty years old, chewing the smell of loneliness alone
Before the age of thirty, I had a job, some colleagues and friends, but after the age of thirty, I quit my job and took care of my children at home, and had no job, and gradually became distant from my former friends and colleagues.
In recent years, I have been in a freelance state. The platform's operation and direction adjustments have always been based on my own decisions. There are no friends who can negotiate. They fight alone, slowly from a few fans to hundreds of thousands, and with their own courage, they have come to the present.
Occasionally, after finishing everything, I will take a walk by the lake alone. In fact, I have gradually realized something:
Everyone’s path is different, and there is nothing that can be completely referenced. Do your own thing well, and try bravely no matter what the result is.
In the past three years, from giving up submissions to becoming one's own platform, I stumbled all the way. I am still confused and struggling now, but I am more firm and persistent than before.
No friends, I share all the good and bad news in the article. Without colleagues, I learned to do several things by myself. Not only did I learn to write things, edit articles, shoot videos, but I also learned to talk during live broadcasts.
One person lives into a team.
During the lonely days, I did not become a waste and kept trying new things. The platform data is ups and downs, and fans can accept it calmly.
We don’t need to be others, nor do we need to copy other people’s life patterns. In your own field, trying to make new expansion is a kind of progress.
Loneliness is not about self-pity, but about gradually accepting the fact that there are no friends, and a person can live his own wonderful life.
When you are lonely, learn to talk to yourself
Loneliness is sometimes a feeling, and sometimes it is also a kind of healing for yourself. Everyone yearns for time to be lonely, but not everyone can accept this state of loneliness calmly.
External material satisfaction is actually short-lived and cannot solve the things deep in our hearts. When you slowly get lost in the material world and the desires in your heart slowly expand, it is difficult to truly calm down and talk to yourself.
Rene Liu said: Loneliness is born with you. It will not be lonely because you are alone, or because you are accompanied by others, so you will be perfect.
When you are alone, you can also feel full of loneliness; when you are two, you may not be able to eliminate loneliness.
Learning to talk to yourself is actually a lesson.
How can I get rid of my impetuous mood and truly communicate with my inner self?
First: Slow down the pace of life and have a period of meditation every day. When you feel anxious and confused, be aware of your inner emotions, enter the state of flow , stabilize your breathing, relax your body's senses, and return to the original feeling like a baby.
Second: You can choose a rhythmic exercise, walking, boxing exercises, etc. When we enter this state, we will feel the unity of body and mind, and let go of part of our inner anxiety.
Third: Continuously repeating perceptual practice will make you truly calm down.
loneliness is also another kind of perfection
Schopenhauer said:
is either lonely or vulgar.Just solo can make people outstanding, not sociable.
The essence of people is actually lonely. It is also a different feeling to be able to find one's own fun and calm one's own thoughts.
Good friends do not need sweet words; good lovers do not need to please. A truly comfortable relationship should be: we don’t speak, and it’s very beautiful to stand.
Recently read Chen Zhongshi 's prose "Crystal Tears", which contains two sentences:
There are some ways, and you can only walk alone.
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He was already forty years old when he created the novel " Bailuyuan ". At that time, he had no outstanding novel. Living in the countryside for four years. There were almost no friends coming and going. When it rained, the house leaked everywhere. He didn't even have a decent study. A chair and a square table were his little world.But there is a fire in my heart, and in the lonely years, I wrote a legend.
We have played almost all kinds of roles in our lives, but when we take off these cloaks and face ourselves, we are often at a loss.
When you truly learn to be with yourself and listen to your inner voice, you will have a new understanding of life.
