Life is a lifetime, and the plants and trees are in autumn. If you are born as a human being, you shouldn't be asking for trouble. However, life itself is a practice, and the taste in this is like a person who knows the warmth and coldness of water.
If someone asks you if you are happy? What is your answer?
Liang Shiqiu said that the so-called happiness is to relieve pain, and without pain is happiness.
In the eyes of Mr., happiness is so simple. He will be grateful for every flower and plant he meets and will find satisfaction in a delicious meal. It is precisely "Good times, beautiful scenery, enjoyable things everywhere."
In life, it is rare to see people who are as transparent as a gentleman. Every day, people have long been used to being busy, especially when they are middle-aged, with old people and young people. The greatest happiness in life may be placed on them.
But I still want to say that when middle-aged people love their families, don’t forget to love themselves. I just hope that we can do these nine words for the rest of our life: no force, no tangle, no twist.
Don’t force yourself to do things you don’t like
Dazai Osamu In "Disqualification in the World ", the biggest misfortune in my life is that I will not refuse others.
In the eyes of many people, rejecting others is at risk of losing, so for everyone's good, they often choose to accept it happily. For example, the protagonist in the novel - Ye Zang.
Ye Zang was born in a wealthy family, but he was not happy at all. Most people will compromise to please others when they don’t like it.
He will put ten natto s into his mouth without being hungry; he will give up the book he wants and write down the name of the gift his father wants to give him; he is even in school because of his excellent grades. , I was afraid that everyone would isolate him, so I played clown to make them happy. After doing too many things like
, Ye Zang gradually became a person he hated. He also had a difficult journey on the road of love. He was unable to stay by his side. All the years accompanied him were pain and struggle. In the end, he became addicted to painkillers and was sent to a mental hospital by his family.
Ye Zang's life is a sad story, but he blindly pleased others and did not get what he wanted. So, people are kind, but they must have a bottom line. This is the best way to live, it is not difficult for you.
Don’t worry about the gains and losses in choices
A person’s life is composed of countless choices. When making a choice, it is not only a person's personality, but also his wisdom.
University professor Bridan raised an donkey and feeds it a bundle of hay every day. One day, the farmer who delivered the grass sent one more bundle, and two bundles of bundles were placed in front of the donkey. They are the same in terms of distance, mass and weight, but the donkey is confused and doesn't know how to choose, and finally starves to death by the grass.
After listening to this story, do you feel funny? This donkey is so stupid. In fact, humans can make such mistakes. There will always be stories of missing out on opportunities in comparison and falling into internal mental friction.
So people call this phenomenon of hesitation and worrying about gains and losses when making decisions " Briddan donkey effect ".
I remember the famous writer Tagore once said: If you cry because of the sun, then you will miss the stars.
Everything has two sides, so there is no absolute good or bad. Each choice is nothing more than the parties who are weighing the pros and cons and going to the right. But people are unwilling to accept these things and are always indecisive and ambiguous. The result of the matter is either a failure or a missed encounter.
So it is said well in "Golden Clothes". When the flowers are enough to be broken, you must just fold them, and don't wait for the flowers to fall and break the branches.
Don’t twist others
didn’t know you’ve met such a person? His biggest characteristic is that he loves to compete with others, and he is inevitably dogmatic and old-fashioned in terms of human relationships and worldly styles.
I have a cousin's wife. She and her cousin make dumplings at home. The two of them will do a battle because of the way to make dumplings. If a child writes a wrong question for his homework, she will be fined to write a paper.In the workplace, she would rather work overtime than take the most pieces.
The cousin's wife also likes to be stubborn. There are only right or wrong in her dictionary. You can say that she did it right. If it is wrong, you must say one, two or three.
To be honest, people who compete are all perfectionist mentality at work. She does not allow others to make mistakes, let alone make mistakes. But life is not perfect, and life is not about doing test papers. Once a person is too rational, the person who is dating her will definitely be very tired, and she will live even more tiring herself.
So, twisted people are trying to make things difficult for others. If you push yourself too far, you will also make the road narrower and narrower.
Summary
Life is long, there is no need to worry about the current choices, the rest of our life is short. I hope that in the next days, we will do more things we like, so that we can live up to our lives.
