Text丨Tao Xiaojing
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There is a saying that goes well: "Low-quality friendships are not as good as high-quality solitude."
thinks so! Although being alone is lonely, it's better to flatter and cater to people who don't look down on you at all.
The most important thing in interactions between people is equality. If a person looks down on you from the beginning, then no matter how good you are, you will never get his sincere treatment.
This kind of unequal communication is a kind of harm to you. If you always stick to this communication, sooner or later even you will start to deny yourself.
Although you cannot ask everyone to look down on you, you have the right to choose to stay away from those who look down on you. This is your freedom and no one can interfere.
There is nothing sad about being looked down upon by others. What is really sad is that you know that others already look down on you, but you are still trying hard to change others' opinions of you.
You have to know that this kind of effort is just useless. Even if you try hard to get yourself to the highest point, it will only make them look kinder on the surface.
In the final analysis, it is your wise choice not to have close friendship with people who look down on you.
But the question is, how do you judge whether a person looks up to you or looks down on you?
In fact, a person's opinion of you will be expressed through some words and deeds. People who look down on you from the bottom of their hearts always say these things, so don’t get close to them.
"You don't understand even if I tell you"
When people get along with each other, the most basic thing is mutual respect. But some people always look arrogant, as if they are the only ones who know everything.
Especially when facing someone he despises, he will keep saying "you don't understand even if I tell you".
If you happen to have such a person around you, and he often says this to you, then you have to understand that he looks down on you from the bottom of his heart.
Although he is usually kind to you, he has never looked at you seriously. Even if you are nice to him, he will often block your mouth with this sentence.
He doesn't have the patience to explain to you, and he doesn't want to waste his time on you, so no matter what you ask, he will only say to you "you don't understand even if you tell me."
When you hear this, stop insisting, be sensible and stay away from the other person, and you will not be looked down upon all the time.
"You are so capable, just do it."
I believe many people have encountered such a person in the workplace. It is clearly his own task, but he always likes to delegate it to others.
He just pushed it to others, and he always said, "You are so capable, you can do it."
On the surface, this sentence seems to be praising people for their abilities, but in fact, this sentence contains all ridicule and no praise at all.
When a person opens and closes his mouth in front of you, he is actually hinting to you that he looks down on you at all.
People who push you to do work but still look down on you are not only not worthy of your close friendship, but should also be kept away from in time.
If you have ever been sincere to such a person, then I hope you can understand that the person who said this to you looks down on you at all, so stay away from him so that you will not be hurt.
"Don't hold on if you don't have money"
Many people like to look fat in front of their friends in order not to be looked down upon. But in fact, everyone knows who is rich and who is not among friends.
A person who really treats you as a true friend not only knows your financial situation, but also knows how much you care about face, so even if he knows that you are holding on, he will not point it out.
People who look down on you, even though they know you are good-looking, will still say to you in front of everyone: "Don't hold on if you don't have money."
At first glance, you will feel that he is thinking about you. , but if you taste it carefully, you will find that people who say this sentence openly and silently look down on you from the bottom of their hearts.
He didn't consider your feelings at all and just pointed out his financial difficulties. It shows that he doesn't really take you into his heart.
Such a person who doesn't know how to consider your feelings and looks down on you from the bottom of his heart is not worthy of your deep friendship. Even if you don't have any friends, don't rush to find trouble.
Xiaojing Emotional Station:
Whether a person looks down on you or not depends not on whether he has contact with you, but on his words and deeds when he comes in contact with you.
People who look down on you are happy to get along with you in order to highlight their sense of superiority. But in the process of getting along, he will not respect you or take into account your feelings.
Because of this, he would say many hurtful words intentionally or unintentionally, such as "You don't understand even if I tell you", "You are so capable, just do it", and "Don't force yourself if you don't have money" .
Once you hear these words, you have to understand that people who speak these words are looking down on you from the bottom of their hearts.
If you don’t want to be hurt, then stay away from people who look down on you, and stop asking for trouble.
If you don’t want to be looked down upon by others, then work hard to improve yourself and become better, and stop living in a muddle.
