To improve your emotional intelligence, start with a proper sense of proportion. 1. Don’t talk deeply when communicating. Many people know this. Sometimes they just can’t control their mouths, especially in crowded situations. If the relationship is not in place, some things shou

To improve your emotional intelligence, start with an appropriate sense of proportion.

1. Don’t talk deeply when communicating.

Many people know this. Sometimes they just can’t control their mouths, especially in crowded situations.

If the relationship is not in place, some words should not be spoken. To people you don't know well, don't talk nonsense or speak freely.

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There are some things that you should not speak out clearly. You should not speak out when you have seen through something. It is a point that people always mention when getting along with others. But this is indeed a detail worth paying attention to. Character is revealed in details, and it is very easy to see a person clearly in details.

does not mean that all your words should be like this, but that you should leave some space for the other party in some scenes that can easily embarrass the other party.

3. Do what you say.

Don't make promises easily, but you must do what you promise.

If you promise something to others, you must do it. If you promise, you must fulfill it to the maximum extent. In fact, it will be much easier to commit as little as possible.

Each friend has a different tolerance for broken promises. If you have a record of not fulfilling your promise once, you will not take your agreement seriously. If you have a record of not fulfilling your promise three times, you will no longer take your agreement seriously.

4. Don’t enhance the atmosphere by talking about friends who are not present.

When chatting with others, remember not to talk about the shortcomings of absent friends. Don’t take the initiative to bring this up. When the other person brings it up, change the topic.

This point also depends on personal understanding, but try not to develop this habit. It is no different from talking about others behind their backs. You still talk about other people's shortcomings. The person who is listening will also be thinking in his mind, would you have said the same thing about me when I was not present?

5. Don’t be late, don’t be late.

When you have an appointment with others, don't be late and arrive a few minutes early.

When you have important work, don’t postpone it and finish it as early as possible.

Cherish your own time, respect the time of others, and control yourself.

If this detail is not done well, it will be difficult for many people to trust you with important things.

6. Don’t fall off the chain easily.

This depends on the individual. Some friends will not care about it, but some friends will take it to heart.

I don’t know if friends have had similar experiences: when you and your friends agreed to meet at ten o’clock, and you asked the other party at ten o’clock: where are you, the other party said: just downstairs, will be there soon, and it turned out that it was ten o’clock Arrived at forty or fifty.

When you and a friend collaborate on something, ask if there are any questions in advance, and the other party will reply: No problem. But when the deadline is reached, half of the other party's work has not started yet, and the result is the result of staying up late. I experienced something similar with my roommate.

When you ask a friend to do something, the other party agrees, and there is no movement after a few days.

Similar things happened one after another, and the relationship was naturally no longer as close as before. Reliability is a state that many people look forward to in a relationship. Likewise, only when you are reliable can the other party trust you.

You have a reliable attitude towards others and things. In the long run, the attitude of the people you interact with will also be more reliable.

7. Reply to other people’s messages in a timely manner.

Be sure to reply when someone sends you a message, even if it is just to express it tactfully with emoticons or punctuation.

8. Know how to say no. The simpler, the better.

Learning to say no and having the courage to say no is the secret to ease in any situation and in any relationship. Don't say no to others. Life is hard, and it's not good if it's very hard. Reject other people's trivial matters, reject other people's unreasonable demands, and refuse to choose to do things that cause you distress just because of "face."

You will have extra time to study and enjoy life, and your life will be easier and more enjoyable.

Whether the way of rejection is simple or complicated depends on the individual. Sometimes the way of rejection and the more words of rejection are easier to burden yourself.

9. When you are full of negative emotions, don’t let others pay for your emotions.

Don't vent your anger to others easily, let alone let irrelevant people bear your emotions. You can talk matter-of-factly to people who are related to the matter, but don't let people who have nothing to do with the matter become the target of your anger.

are all adults, learn to put your emotions into silent mode.

You may not know how to behave, but you must know how to control your emotions. Deal with your emotions first, then deal with things.

grasp one principle: don’t easily pay for other people’s emotions, and don’t easily let others pay for your own emotions.

10. Don’t let others guess your emotions all the time.

Speak your thoughts bravely. It is faster and easier than others guessing your thoughts. There are some things that others will never understand if you don’t tell them.

In a relationship, don't always let others guess your thoughts. You must learn to express yourself, dare to express yourself, and say it when you need to say it.

You have to express your emotions, don't wait for the other person to understand, especially when it comes to feelings.

11. Try not to deny other people’s likes.

The habit of not belittling others is the most basic quality. When someone tells you something they like, don't deny it.

Like is a general term that can be refined to include books that others like, historical figures that others like, idols that others like, music that others like, food that others like, sports that others like, etc.

Don't interfere, belittle or ridicule when it doesn't involve issues of principle. It does not reflect your nobility, but it can reflect your quality.

12. Don’t laugh at other people’s efforts.

This one is as important as the previous one. You can encourage others' efforts, you can be silent, you can also help, but don't laugh at them, let alone say in front of many people: Your efforts are in vain.

13. Try to keep it a secret.

Don't tell your secrets easily. If your secrets are revealed, they will easily become the talk of others.

If others take the initiative to tell you other people's secrets, you must also have a certain awareness and action of keeping secrets. Don't show off, just pretend you don't know when you hear it. This is also a kind of "shut up".

14. Friends of friends are not your friends.

Meeting a friend of a friend by chance is fate, and we must learn to cherish it.

For example, if you haven't borrowed a few dollars yet, you ask the other party to borrow money. Grasp one principle: if you borrow money from a friend or acquaintance you have known for less than a year, you will quickly reduce your friendship.

For example, if you are not familiar with each other, you can comment on the other person's life and work style at will. Know people but don't judge people. You shouldn't ask for leave at will in your friends' lives, let alone friends of friends across a river.

In fact, this is also a sense of proportion.

Many of the above suggestions can be linked to the sense of propriety. Cultivating your own sense of propriety starts with speaking and doing things.

believes that as long as you have a tolerant, open-minded, cheerful and positive heart, you can face everyone calmly, and your interpersonal relationships will be able to get along well and have a tacit understanding - understand and respect others, and strive to be yourself!

The above is today’s sharing. If you find it useful, remember to wave your little hands and give it a like.

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Don't vent your anger to others easily, let alone let irrelevant people bear your emotions. You can talk matter-of-factly to people who are related to the matter, but don't let people who have nothing to do with the matter become the target of your anger.

are all adults, learn to put your emotions into silent mode.

You may not know how to behave, but you must know how to control your emotions. Deal with your emotions first, then deal with things.

grasp one principle: don’t easily pay for other people’s emotions, and don’t easily let others pay for your own emotions.

10. Don’t let others guess your emotions all the time.

Speak your thoughts bravely. It is faster and easier than others guessing your thoughts. There are some things that others will never understand if you don’t tell them.

In a relationship, don't always let others guess your thoughts. You must learn to express yourself, dare to express yourself, and say it when you need to say it.

You have to express your emotions, don't wait for the other person to understand, especially when it comes to feelings.

11. Try not to deny other people’s likes.

The habit of not belittling others is the most basic quality. When someone tells you something they like, don't deny it.

Like is a general term that can be refined to include books that others like, historical figures that others like, idols that others like, music that others like, food that others like, sports that others like, etc.

Don't interfere, belittle or ridicule when it doesn't involve issues of principle. It does not reflect your nobility, but it can reflect your quality.

12. Don’t laugh at other people’s efforts.

This one is as important as the previous one. You can encourage others' efforts, you can be silent, you can also help, but don't laugh at them, let alone say in front of many people: Your efforts are in vain.

13. Try to keep it a secret.

Don't tell your secrets easily. If your secrets are revealed, they will easily become the talk of others.

If others take the initiative to tell you other people's secrets, you must also have a certain awareness and action of keeping secrets. Don't show off, just pretend you don't know when you hear it. This is also a kind of "shut up".

14. Friends of friends are not your friends.

Meeting a friend of a friend by chance is fate, and we must learn to cherish it.

For example, if you haven't borrowed a few dollars yet, you ask the other party to borrow money. Grasp one principle: if you borrow money from a friend or acquaintance you have known for less than a year, you will quickly reduce your friendship.

For example, if you are not familiar with each other, you can comment on the other person's life and work style at will. Know people but don't judge people. You shouldn't ask for leave at will in your friends' lives, let alone friends of friends across a river.

In fact, this is also a sense of proportion.

Many of the above suggestions can be linked to the sense of propriety. Cultivating your own sense of propriety starts with speaking and doing things.

believes that as long as you have a tolerant, open-minded, cheerful and positive heart, you can face everyone calmly, and your interpersonal relationships will be able to get along well and have a tacit understanding - understand and respect others, and strive to be yourself!

The above is today’s sharing. If you find it useful, remember to wave your little hands and give it a like.

#True Knowledge New Coordinates#