Zhang Ailing said: In this bizarre world, no one can live a smooth life. We always find life difficult because we are too deeply involved with this world. The moment we come into this world, we are destined to have something that will fetter us for the rest of our lives. But with

Zhang Ailing said: In this bizarre world, no one can live a smooth life.

always find life difficult, that’s because we are too deeply involved with this world. The moment

came into the world, it was destined that something would fetter us for life.

But without these memories and bonds, what would be the meaning of our life?

People have been fighting against themselves all their lives, but some realities cannot escape the shackles of fate after all.

" Skins " by Cai Chongda . Based on his personal experience, the author uses short stories to tell the human feelings in the world and convey to us the problems in life that we have to face.

01 The birth, old age, sickness and death of relatives

Cai Chongda grew up in a fishing town in Fujian.

When he was young, his father, the mainstay of the family, suffered a stroke, resulting in paralysis of the left side of his body.

At the beginning, he fell down many times because he could not adapt to his body's lack of coordination, but his father remained optimistic. One is to comfort the family, and the other is to think that there is still hope for recovery.

Cai Chongda said:

The only audiencethe audience——Life has never been a very good viewer. It is like a harsh director, pointing fingers at us with each reality, and even adding a lot of drama, as if it wants to Help us find the corresponding status.

After a long time, whether it is the father or other family members, it is difficult to pretend to be self-deceptive and eventually return to the true attitude towards life.

My father also gave up struggling and stopped pretending to be strong.

may have seen through the impermanence of fate. When he spoke and acted, he began to care less about other people's opinions and let himself go as he pleased.

may be looking forward to the arrival of death in this way.

Several times, my father was on the verge of death, but fortunately he was rescued in time.

Gradually, he said: I seem to be a little reluctant to die.

It wasn’t until Cai Chongda worked that he saved a sum of money and planned to take his father to the United States for treatment.

But my cousin’s voice came over the phone: Your father passed away......

It is said that after death, the soul is still there. I don’t know if this is true, but for people in the real world, death means that everything ceases to exist.

Everyone will experience birth, old age, illness and death. We all have to go through the process of despair, pain, unwillingness to accept, self-paralysis and letting go.

This process can be very long or very short, and some people may even never get out of it in their lifetime.

Think about it from another angle. It is said that people are born in this world to suffer. They left, which meant that they had atoneed for their sins in this life and went to a happier and more relaxed place.

The dead are gone, but so are the living. How does

view life and death? Despite thousands of years of wisdom from our ancestors, there is no concrete answer. But I believe that time will pass away everything ...

02 The gap between ideal and reality

Hopu is Cai Chongda's college classmate, who is obsessed with pursuing ideals and living out himself.

When he was in college, Magnolia's unique appeal made him the most popular person in the school.

A group of people followed him and discussed the meaning of life and ideal pursuit with him. Magnolia officinalis gradually became addicted to it.

But empty talk about ideals can never withstand the impact of reality.

was about to graduate. The group of people who had discussed their ideals with him had to give up their so-called " dreams " in the face of the pressure of real life.

Cai Chongda bid farewell to Magnolia officinalis and rushed to a new life in Beijing. However, Magnolia officinalis continued to form a band and pursue " rationality want " .

Later, Houpu was expelled from school because of fighting and other reasons, and he tried to work in a bar but failed.

Cai Chongda said: Because of external setbacks, he became more and more involved in imagining dreams, and therefore, he became increasingly lost in getting along with the actual reality.

Cai Chongda tried to persuade Hopu to work with him in Beijing, but Hopu was unwilling to bow to reality and angrily refused.

Two years later, Cai Chongda received a call: Houpu committed suicide.

What killed him was the over-expanded ideal fantasy in his mind.

We all have ideals. Some people can see through what supports their ideals, while others build their ideals on the ruins of fantasy.

Cai Chongda said:

What can truly reach this world, what can truly reach your dreams, is not the fanaticism that throws you into imagination at all costs, but pragmatism, humility, and pitiful forbearance that even you yourself look down on.

Every day of working silently and enduring suffering, we build the castle of ideals bit by bit until it becomes solid. This takes time and effort.

The realization of ideals must be severely beaten by reality, and everything else is empty talk.

We always try to use our own way to resist the rules of this world. We make it do " rationalize want " . But in fact, some people have always lived by this rule.

03 The choice between hometown and distance

When Tsai Chongda was a child, he had two playmates —— a lonely boy and a boy from Hong Kong.

The lonely Ah Xiao was aloof and looked down on the small town where he grew up. He vowed that he would never engage in fishing like his parents.

Hong Kong Ah Xiao is a rich man who yearns for life in Hong Kong. He will stay in the small town for a while and will immigrate to Hong Kong in the future.

As soon as Hong Kong Ah Xiao appeared, he attracted a lot of attention. He looked down on other children, but he liked to play with Cai Chongda.

Because he didn't like the arrogant attitude of Hong Kong's young man towards others, Cai Chongda gradually began to alienate him.

I don’t know when it started, but the lonely little boy learned to please and became the new friend of the little boy in Hong Kong.

The lonely little boy became more and more indulgent, skipping classes, fighting, stealing money, and was expelled from school. Imitating a Hong Kong kid may give him the illusion that he is also a city dweller.

Finally, Hong Kong Ah Xiao was leaving for Hong Kong. He left his favorite game console and puzzles to Cai Chongda, and also gave him his Hong Kong address. From beginning to end, Hong Kong Ah Xing only has Cai Chongda as a friend in her heart.

After many years of going round and round, the lonely and lonely Axiao finally became a fisherman. He worked at sunrise and rested at sunset every day. He married a wife and gave birth to a son, and also bought land and built a house.

Hong Kong Ah Xiao didn’t seem to be going so smoothly. When Cai Chongda saw him again in Hong Kong, he learned.

A few years after Ah Xiao came to Hong Kong, his company closed down, his father committed suicide, and his family broke up. There was no one he could rely on in such a big city.

Hong Kong A novel: Maybe the small town that I once looked down upon is my home.

We have all been those people who are obsessed with the distance, and we have all yearned to be a " city person " , thinking that there is everything we want there.

Those glamorous " city people " also play humble roles in the city. Only in this way can you survive in this big city.

The gorgeous city looks beautiful on the surface, but the pain and darkness underneath are not reported.

The false veil of the city has confused batches of people, rushing in regardless of their own safety, hoping to settle down here.

The end of prosperity is just a sad and realistic life.

After experiencing the indifference of the city, people will discover that their hometown is their destination.

The cold reinforced concrete in the city is never as warm as the bricks and tiles in my hometown.

Every inch of land and every corner in my hometown has your story and theirs.

people should have a hometown in their hearts, because a place with a hometown is home.

Those who give up their hometown for the distance have also lost their roots.

04 Conclusion

Yu Guangzhong said: It is said that life is impermanent, but it is also the normal state of life.

Those things that you don’t want to happen or face, it will come sooner or later.

Thank you to everyone who appears in our lives. Their participation makes us who we are.

Life, old age, illness and death, ideal reality, and hometown far away, there is never a standard for how to choose, you have to find the answer yourself.

Cai Chongda said:

Perhaps life is like a questionnaire. If you don’t answer it, it will keep asking, and if you don’t answer this question, you will never see the next question.

We cannot plan everything, there will always be unexpected things that force us to make changes.

But these impermanences and unknowns are precisely the charm of life.

Even if life is destined to make us sad, we must act out our own script.