Silence can make people learn to think deeply
The standard for a person's maturity may be to learn to shut up and learn to remain silent. In the past, when I encountered a little grievance, I wanted to cry and tell others how uncomfortable I was. Tell others, Later, in the eyes of others, the lack became a negative complaint. When I was in college, I was often ostracized by girls. They looked at me as if they wanted to see a joke. My peers thought I was a weird person and were not willing to make friends with me. And I gradually didn’t want to speak because of their alienation. , so I told my classmates in high school and junior high school about my grievances, and the words they told me were, you think too much, don’t tell me this in the future, I am very annoyed, you complain every day, who doesn’t Tired, you are tired. Yes, at first I felt very uncomfortable when I heard these words. I was thinking, is this my former friend? Why was it that when I was feeling the most uncomfortable and in need of comfort, he was getting further and further away from me? In my heart, there was only resentment and grievance, so I gradually stopped speaking and became silent.
The greatest maturity for an adult is to learn to shut up
Once upon a time, I would argue endlessly over trivial matters, only to find out later that it was completely meaningless. When I was in my rebellious period, I often went against my mother. She asked me to go east but I went west. I wanted to try to change her view of me, and I wanted to try to persuade her. Later I realized that I was being sentimental and there was nothing I could do to change her. , and she repeatedly insisted that her idea was right, what can I say? I tried hard to convince her to accept my idea, but in fact, she didn't, but what I got was endless quarrels. After thinking about it later, it didn't matter, I just gave up. Isn't that what adults are like? Why try to convince her? Maybe what she thinks is right is right? Even if I really convince her, what good will it do to me? Does it satisfy your own vanity or your desire to conquer?
Silence is the cornerstone of self-preservation
Later I understood that trying to change other people's ideas is the stupidest behavior, because of what? Even if he does listen, will he be grateful to you? People are the most complicated living beings, because you never know what kind of person this person is. Even if you treat her sincerely, will she definitely be grateful to you? Even if you treat her with all your heart, will she definitely approve it? There's no way to know, and what's the use of talking too much? If someone slanders you and abuses you, what's the point in criticizing them in the end? Perhaps the greatest maturity of an adult is not to give random advice to others and to persuade others. Silence is the greatest maturity of a person!
