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I used to be a very uncomfortable person. Whenever I see someone talking nonsense, I often can’t help but argue with them, and finally ruin my mood. .
Now I am smart, and you can say whatever you like, even if someone says "2+2=5", it doesn't matter to me. I take good care of myself and lead my life well is the most important thing.
Anyway Everyone has to pay for their cognition and behavior in the end. If a person breaks the law, he will naturally be punished by the law; if a person does something wrong, he will also be educated by real life.
As long as others do not cause actual damage or threats to me, what does his willingness to talk nonsense have to do with me? Why should I get angry about this?
Kant said that being angry is to punish oneself for others' mistakes. This is too right!
children are right and wrong, adults only look at the pros and cons. As long as a person's words and deeds do not affect my interests, there is no need for me to consume myself for this.
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Many of the troubles and pains in life do not come from outside, but from their own constant internal friction.
We keep recalling a certain painful experience in the early years, or the words and actions that someone once caused harm to ourselves. Those painful and embarrassing pasts keep repeating in our hearts, making our hearts suffer time and time again. harm.
Actually hurts us not those external things, but our own interpretation.
If we were walking on the road and heard a dog barking at ourselves for a while, no one would feel that we were deeply hurt afterwards. But those past experiences have been repeated inwardly because of my own interpretation.
is that we are unwilling to let go of ourselves, unwilling to let go of the past, unable to reconcile with ourselves, so we can only continue to consume ourselves and hurt ourselves.
Once you understand this, you will discover how stupid this behavior is!
Zeng Guofan has a very incisive saying: "Things come and go,The future is not welcome, the time is not mixed, and neither is in love.
Even if we don’t reach this realm for the time being, we can still use this sentence as our goal, continue to persuade ourselves, see through the weaknesses in human nature, and reconcile with ourselves.
_A process of constant reconciliation with yourself.
The more you can reconcile with yourself, the smoother your mood, the better you can manage yourself, and the better your life.
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When I want to understand this, there is a feeling that the clouds have disappeared, and the worries that have been entangled in my heart for many years have disappeared.
Happiness is the most important thing! Why do you want to do things that consume yourself?
This world does not need us to change. If everyone manages themselves well and leads their lives well, this The world is naturally beautiful.
The reason why someone wants to hurt others, I think the most fundamental reason is that he can’t manage himself well and cannot reconcile himself, so he has to find an outlet for his pain.
learn to reconcile with yourself,The pain will become less and less.
If life is a process of continuous self-cultivation, it should also be a process of continuously reducing one’s pain.
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