In life, we all think preconceived about what a thing is like. It is also easy for us to put a label on others, whether this label is good or bad. But the problem is that we sometimes label others because we have seen a certain behavior or decision in his long life. We have not considered whether our actions are appropriate, let alone whether our actions will cause harm to others. It's just our preconceived judgment, which is extremely irresponsible.
That's all there is to it, preconceived thoughts will cause us to speak unscrupulously. Speaking words that are extremely hurtful, even we will not feel that we have any problems. We always use our life cognition and behavior habits to demand others. In fact, this is not a big problem. Together, two people create their own habits. The way of getting along is normal. Moreover, the way of getting along and the habits of behavior are created by two people, and they agree to the requirements, which is a better and more pleasant way to get along with each other.
But what we can do more easily is our unilateral request, not each other to create such a way. We did not really speak well, or to be considerate of each other when we speak, and make others sound more comfortable. These are big problems that we often face in our lives. Even when we hear something we don't like, we choose to face it in silence. As a result, our interpersonal relationships in life become worse and worse. Getting along with my lover and family is getting more and more unpleasant. You will cause us to fall apart from those we want to cherish.
has a friend, she said that his colleague introduced a new boyfriend. During her chat with me, she told me. Recently, something happened, my friend introduced me to a boyfriend. We tried to get along for a week, but I gave up.
She said that I feel too disgusting.Then when we asked him the reason, she said that the man was too picky. Then he told me to go out to eat, three to five hundred or something, he was quite willing to spend it. I said that it shouldn't be talk about picking!
Just such a little bit of communication, she said he was too saving. He also thinks it is the reason for the living habits of the South and the North. Finally, she said that once I went to eat at his house. I saw him using a very dirty rag to wipe the stove and cabinet. I thought it was too dirty and let him throw it away. But I saw a lot of flowers on it. I think those are big pants. I feel very sick. But he told me that it was a quilt. Then I saw him go to cut his long trousers and continue to wipe the table. He told me that I really couldn't accept it. Finally I left.
During the chat with my friend, I am not sure if what my friend said is true. But just based on the checkered pattern on the rag, it was concluded that they were big pants. This is a preconceived concept. They also try to communicate. But the man thinks my friend has a cleanliness addiction. But my friend can't accept it. Use big pants, make rags, wipe the stove and so on. In their communication, the man actually admitted that he did have such behavior. But such behavior is actually harmless to him personally. Just because a friend can't accept it, he decides to pick it up. I think he is very disgusting, this is a very unfair and irresponsible evaluation.
In my opinion, this is a very small thing if they want to go on. This kind of behavior can be changed only by realizing it. After all, old clothes and pants can be used to drag, wipe the floor, or even throw them away. After all, sometimes, if you can save a point, frugality is also worthless. It is just that certain behaviors will cause our visual or spiritual discomfort.
My friend also did something wrong when communicating. My friend pointed at the other person and said that other people's behavior was disgusting. We all know that when someone accuses us of a wrong behavior as soon as they speak, there must be a rebuttal in our hearts.Instead of accepting, everyone does. The man also preconceived that my friend has a habit of cleanliness.
I think if my friend is talking, consider how the other person feels. Say I saw that you seem to be using a certain part of your pants, wiping the stove and so on. This is really hard for me to accept. In the future, can I not use such a thing to wipe the stove? I believe that this way of communication will be better and easier for people to accept. When we speak well, I think the other person will also speak well.
In fact, many things are the epitome of life. We will face a lot of things that we can't be used to, it's just because of our own living habits and education, there is no way to recognize the behavior of others. But others have no obligation to do things according to our requirements or behavior. We can look forward to it, we can discuss with others, if we want to live with others. You can discuss it even if it is short-lived.
But we can't feel that we are standing on the moral high ground, that mine is right. Many of us make such mistakes. Even such mistakes, we always put them inadvertently. It often makes us and the people around us very unpleasant. So we should try to avoid preconceived notions. Learn to accept the differences of others in the world. Learn to change yourself first, not change others.
In fact, even in the family, we can easily fall into preconceived notions. We always feel that we are for the good of whom. He always commented on his disregard for his family. Always comment on family laziness. We always start to criticize and criticize others when we don't understand all the truth of the matter.
It is kind to want others to be better, but we should speak well. At least when speaking,You should try your best to consider the feelings of the other person. You have to express specific things. Some things cannot be perfect. Life is always in the process of mutual compromise between the two parties to reach an agreement. Don't be preconceived and speak badly.
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