When people are old, true self-discipline starts from rejecting "internal friction"

Lao Tzu said: "The winner is powerful, and the self-winner is strong."

A person can beat others, not true success, but only prove that you are stronger and can beat yourself.

Why do some people become decadent once they quit the workplace, often because they can't find a rival and feel at a loss. The older people who live younger and younger, regard the leisurely life at home as a new beginning, ushering in the second spring of life.

has a good saying: "You control others, it is the nerve; control yourself is the spirit."

Therefore, when people are old, rejecting "internal friction" is due to self-discipline. Don't "defeat yourself." Own".

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rejects "internal friction" on the body.

There is a term called "over-maintenance".

Many elderly people are afraid that they will get old, eat health products hard, go to beauty treatments, and exercise all day long. In terms of health preservation, I care especially about it.

There are strict recipes for everything you eat for three meals a day, and your life is also very regular. Even if it is windy and rainy, it will not stop running.

However, excessive maintenance has accelerated the aging of the body.

The old saying goes: "The roots of a tree die first, and the legs of a man die first." Many elderly people, who do not believe in evil, are more fierce than young men when they run. As a result, kneecap does not adapt to it, or falls down, brings fractures, etc.

Of course, there are also elderly people who have nothing to do, go to the so-called lectures every day, and then configure their own recipes according to what the teacher said. As everyone knows, everyone's physique is different, and there are some things that their body cannot bear.

Smart people are moderately maintained,Then let it go and grow old. Instead of torturing my body, I live more vigorously. The daily diet and daily life are very simple.

02

Rejects mental "internal friction".

Famous minister Zeng Guofan wrote in his diary: "People are impetuous, hypocritical, and depressed because they have selfishness and get rid of excessive selfish desires in order to achieve the realm of "sincere", and then Stop mental internal friction and reconcile with yourself."

In the end of human life, what needs to be reconciled is not the contradiction between people, nor is it to let go of a certain thing, but to reconcile with the heart-relieve the soul Burden.

If you can’t get something, just give up and don’t think about it; if you can’t hold hands, just let it go. If you want to meet in the next life, do whatever you want; you can look at people and things that are not pleasing to your eyes. There is nothing embarrassing.

When you are sick, you will not be afraid. Instead, you will have a deep understanding of your disease and then prescribe the right medicine to relieve your pain. There must be a long-term plan to fight the illness.

Gorky once said: "The more you read, the stronger your spirit will be."

On the way to getting older, strengthen your study and read more books so that you can develop in sync with society. When you breathe fragrance, there will be light in your eyes and a special look on your face.

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Rejects "internal friction" in interpersonal relationships.

My sixth uncle, before he retired, worked as the office director of a local timber company.

One day, the retired general manager of the company invited him to dinner.

Uncle Six wants to go,I didn't want to go, but I went there later. When he got home, he was very angry: "Why should he be a waiter and pour water for all the old leaders?"

Aunt Six said, "You don't have to go."

Think about it. It really is that way. A person who retires is an ordinary person, no matter what official he used to be, that's the case, and he won't be one level higher than you.

Older people can't stand the social environment of "behind the horse". On the one hand, I am very tired, on the other hand, it is too shameless.

The elderly should take the initiative to stay away from the social scene and kick some inappropriate people out of their lives. For example, look down on your relatives, old bosses who point fingers at you, and friends who exchange interests.

It should be said that caring too much about the face of others is the most faceless thing.

In the TV series " Young Marshal", Zhang Zuolin said: "The rivers and lakes are not fighting and killing, the rivers and lakes are human relations."

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People are old and have no desires, so why bother to gather people. Three or five confidants are enough. On weekdays, one or two friends develop a hobby and enjoy themselves.

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rejects "internal friction" among family members.

"Home and everything are happy", don't understand this sentence.

Perhaps, many elderly people have been instilled into "children's enemies" by the chicken soup of "raising children without preventing old age".

In fact, no matter how bad the relationship between parents and children is, the blood relationship is inseparable. When the parents are old,If your children don't have the ability to support you, it's also happy to be able to make phone calls every other time.

Learn to have a good relationship with your children. Although the elderly may suffer financially, a good family atmosphere will make the elderly enjoy the benefits.

In addition, between husband and wife, find a suitable way to get along. Don't bump into each other because of the close distance.

is older and treats your lover better. This is what it deserves. It doesn't matter if you pay a lot and get nothing at all. After all, fertile water does not flow to outsiders.

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Concluding remarks.

Someone said: "A business that makes a profit without losing money is to invest in yourself."

How to invest in yourself? Only by rejecting internal friction and minimizing the loss will the effect of investment be more obvious.

There is a sentence in "Anti-Internal Friction": "Behind the various entanglements that we know but can't do, it is our own endless self-combat."

Many troubles seem to come from others, but in fact It emerged from myself.

If you don't know how to refuse, let your troubles breed and grow wildly, and your future life will be doomed to be in turmoil, and your fate will be choked up.

For the rest of your life, you have to understand what you are going to do and what you need, and then practice it step by step, respecting the natural law of aging, and not being controlled by others, you will not make yourself too tired.

In a good life, things come to conform, but the future is not welcome. At that time, it is not complicated, and it is neither in love nor in love.

May you meet a better version of yourself.

Everyone encourages each other.

Author: Commoner.

Pay attention to my words and walk into your heart.

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