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She has been here, she has gone
This world she has been here, this world she has no nostalgia, no happiness, no trace of things to let her recall, when she resolutely set foot on the high platform , I don’t know if she is timid and scared. When she jumped down, I don’t know what is worthy of nostalgia in her heart?
She has been in this world, she is gone!
The three-page suicide note of a 14-year-old girl that went viral on the Internet these days has made me cry! Can’t get out of her emotions for a long time, that weak girl, , ever asked for help? Have you ever talked about it?
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The heartfelt confession in the 3-page suicide note of a 14-year-old girl
▶About the results
"I am honored to meet you once in life. If there is an afterlife, we will not meet again ."
"You do not love me, but I am in the top ten, I am in the top 20 in the grade, I am the one who got the perfect score."
"The daughter in your mind is too good, I can't do it To"
"The beautiful elementary school in your mouth, the happy first year of the junior high school, I have survived all my life"
"The second year of the devil, there is nothing to be a pity"
It is my honor to meet my parents, but , If there is another life, we will not meet again, What kind of disappointment and despair is this?
Since when, We only care about the children’s grades, only the children’s ranking , we only care about whether the children give us "long faces", but we ignore what they desire in their hearts and ignore the children’s most hopes What is gained.
Parents don’t understand what their children are thinking,They thought that their children had no pressure, but they didn't expect the children to feel "killing their lives" deep in their hearts.
▶About beating and scolding:
"People are polite in front, but they bear the dirtiest abuse in your mouth"
"Slap on the face is the most painful, then the back of the hand. Arms, and finally thighs, it’s okay to hit the back"
"It hurts most when being pulled on the leg by a belt or wire, then the back, and finally the arms"
This is a girl with so delicate emotions, she Can perceive so many subtle things.
I really can't imagine the scene where parents pump a little girl with a belt or wire. It hurts to think about it. How big a sin is to use this extreme punishment.
▶About the insults:
"The most insulting thing is to let her stand outside the door in slippers to show everyone to the public."
" scolds the worst screams and insults every night If you are, you will be scolded or beaten before going to bed, and then you will have insomnia all night.”
How many parents treat their children as private property, assigns all the unsightly abuses to the children, trampling their self-esteem to the bottom?
A girl who has grown up to 14 years old, has no dignity at all, because she made a mistake, she was exposed to the public?
When parents lose their minds and just blindly want their children to be obedient, falls into the control of the primitive brain and just want to maintain their dignity,It is the child who loses naturally, and after the child is humiliated by his parents, will always be trapped in negative emotions .
How can a kid who always loses win the future?
From the perspective of the whole article, the girl has delicate emotions, clear logic, and very kind:
- take grandma over
- All the classes reported are over, no money is wasted
- li102li
- Please be kind to your brother and don't ruin him again
- The mat is trampled on, please wipe it clean.
With a sigh, the song is like crying!
Is such a good little girl a legendary "child of someone else's family"? Why is it so unbearable in the eyes of parents? Have received so many insults and beatings?
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When the disappointment accumulates more, it becomes despair
When a little disappointment accumulates into a big disappointment, and finally despair, she stops loving herself!
The book "Adolescent Self-harm Behavior" pointed out: psychopathological research found that the generation of adolescent self-harm behavior is more from the family than from the society.
When a child’s cognitive system is , his life and body are ranked in grades, recognized by his parents, and constantly rejected by his parents and people around him, will naturally rank his life and body in Behind .
Parents constantly use violence to punish their children, making them think that as long as they make mistakes, they should be physically punished.
Musician Wang Tao once said: When children grow up accustomed to violence, they will enjoy violence when they grow up .
I met Wenwen, a girl with very good financial conditions at home. Her mother is a business executive. She takes her to travel abroad every year. She has high-end clothing, food, housing and transportation. However, this girl is very unconfident, and her waist collapsed. Even girls younger than her can easily manipulate her.
It is reasonable to say that a little girl with a good family background will be like a little princess, and even a little arrogant, but in the actual daily life, she has been watching other people’s wink life, and once she encounters other people’s denial, she will start Negative, there is no independent opinion.
It wasn't until I saw her mother's request of her that I didn't understand the reason for this girl's lack of self-confidence.
Her mother is very strong and very strict with her. She often denies her and beats her, so she is not confident enough at all. And her father would slap his face directly when he didn't agree with him, and the girl didn't even care about it, thinking that he "should be hit".
There is a saying: children who have not been loved, how can they be able to love the world and others?
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What is true love?
There used to be a group on Douban, the group name is "Parents are the scourge".
This is a line from the young girl Jess in Nick Hornby's best-selling book Suicide Club.
The members of the group are all children. They confide in the emotional or physical injuries they have received from their parents. There are direct physical injuries, personal insults at intervals, quarrels between parents, and family coldness. Violence, or trying to control the child’s life, gender discrimination and other mental harm.
as parents,Is it shocking to see this group name?
Because in our cognition and in our childhood education, parents are right in our eyes as "parents of all under the world". However, it turns out that there are many children who think this way... ..
Don't his parents love him? Isn't every child held in the palm of his hand by his parents when he is born?
Why do we feel that we love our children very much, but our children disagree, and even think that "parents are a scourge"?
Because when the closest person can't give him backing and sense of security, when the closest person gives him only beating, scolding and humiliation, he can only retreat and escape, he can only choose to leave this, he doesn't want to Face the world again.
Every day before going to bed, please hug your child and tell him/her: no matter what you do, I will love you!
Parents are always the biggest harbor for their children. If this harbor is not warm, how can children face the world and fight for and win their lives?
Please give your children a most reliable and warm harbor!
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Concluding remarks
Share this passage with you, please parents to bookmark:
Every child is a seed of It's different. Some flowers are brilliant from the beginning, while others need a long wait. Don't watch other people's flowers bloom, and you will be anxious if your own flower is not moving.
Carefully take care of your own flower, watch him grow up slowly, and accompany him through the wind and rain. Isn’t this a kind of happiness?Even if your seed may not bloom in your life, you must firmly believe that it is because is a towering tree.
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