My time travel
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1970s, Northeast Sichuan an ordinary rural courtyard, children in groups of three or three had rolling iron rings, dried tofu, and a few people jumping ropes while singing nursery rhymes...
The little girl was jumping ropes, with a round face, a big yarn flower tied on her long braids, and swinging on her back with the rhythm of jumping . Among the group of rural children with dusty faces and snot, and the clothing style and hairstyle are not visible, it is particularly eye-catching. The girl is like a cheerful bird, carefree and devoted.
At this time, a middle-aged woman with a well-proportioned figure under the eaves, smart and capable, and looks like a rural woman. She said one sentence:
You look like that, she looks like her mother! There is praise, dislike, envy, and unwillingness in the expression and tone... it is hard to describe!
The little girl's agile figure suddenly stopped, and her small but crystal clear eyes suddenly dimmed and flashed to the side in a cowardly manner.
I couldn't help but walk over gently, squatted down and picked her up, put it on my lap, with my face close to my face and my heart close to my heart. In this way, today's Sister Xuemei hugged herself tightly in her arms more than 40 years ago...
The woman who looks like a cadre has no children of her own. Xuemei has lived with her since she was a child. Every "mother" sounds from the heart and naturally. How could she know how to distinguish? The "mother" in her mouth is my biological mother, with a lively and cheerful personality and a childlike heart.
In her eyes, all my shortcomings are like my "that mother"; all my advantages, or the advantages of "that mother", will deeply stimulate and hurt her. While she sighed, "I don't like me", I am like her, stubborn, independent, and not showing weakness, and she feels unable to control her desire. Maybe what she wants is an obedient, obedient, obedient and pleasing thing. Compared with such expectations, I am obviously not: she also expects me to be proud!
walked right after leaving the yard, looked up and saw this girl: she went up the room with a group of friends to remove tiles, go down the river to catch fish, tear off grass, trees, burn beans, and burn loaches, and fight and kill to heaven and earth! The older brothers and sisters think she is a fool-loving little brat, the younger brothers and sisters can be unscrupulous because of her, and the elders are full of pampering and relieved their fatigue. This is what the big family I was born in 1,000 meters away from "that home".
Why doesn’t it grow crooked or broken in this way?
Thanks to my mother (to distinguish, indicate her adoptive mother) for strict discipline! My grandfather (the father of adoptive mother) always carried me around during his lifetime. Although I passed away when I was 3 years old, it has always been a monument in my heart. Grandma was a middle-aged widow, and later recruited two sons-in-law to support her. The children were working outside to make a living, and the family crops, livestock, and housework were almost all handled by grandma. I grew up on my grandmother's hands, back, and heels.
Grandma often tells stories about how she and her grandfather lived from the old society to the new China, and tells my mother's growth story. Although she loves, hates and helplessness, she always tells me to be good to my parents, it is not easy for them. Although my mother and grandma have various kinds of fights with her ( Sichuan dialect , quarrels, opponents), she has always taught me to admire her grandma. My parents always praise my grandparents' virtues and ask me to be filial.
A few days ago, my father's 76th birthday.Because I didn't go back on the same day when I went home today, I saw my declining parents and the self who was fiddled by fate!
The teacher pulled the crossing
November 28th to December 1st, the Huaxue team "highly serious, pragmatic, reliable and successful in the "Analects of Confucius" and " Yijing "" online course, the teacher went from Fuxi Bagua to Wenwang Bagua" to the Bagua of Kings. To Confucius study and explain the "Book of Changes", from Qin Shihuang unify the six kingdoms to Chu and Han quarrel ; from Liu Bang to establish the Han Dynasty to the end of the Han Dynasty, from the prosperous Tang Dynasty to the Anshi Rebellion; from the fall of the Ming Dynasty and the rise of the Qing Dynasty to the late Qing Dynasty, the historical humiliation of the late Qing Dynasty...
Teacher tells it carefully, which is to let us stand at the height of culture, take history as a mirror and ancient people as a mirror, and is it reliable to look at ourselves? How to improve?
Thanks for these experiences and education, which has taught me to read people's strengths and remember people's benefits, and has also taught me to observe and pay attention to others, and has learned to be a kind, responsible and reliable person. Subconsciously, I must have complaints, distrust and insecurity, so I must have done some unreliable things!
It seems that Xuemei is particularly good at acting in this regard: for decades, everyone praised the character of enthusiastic and cheerfulness and the person who hit it off at first sight. Actually, I am very cold. Maybe it is my childhood experience, but also related to the identity of party members and cadres. I will silently observe and investigate people and things until I confirm, and will not accept and follow up, such as the Huaxue team and the 007 platform.
may also make people feel that they cannot "seamlessly" link the team and the people around them, right? Once determined, Sister Xuemei is really responsible and dedicated, tolerant and tolerant; she is so heartless that she can't bear it and will be hard to resurrect if she is cold. Therefore, Sister Xuemei is inevitably cold and hot, and swaying.
Back to reality
Reflection: How to always maintain energy and firmly maintain the heart of Tao?
1. Are the people and things you face positive energy?
has determined firm binding, serious and pragmatic, and grow together. I am very lucky to have a connection with the Huaxue team and the 007 platform, which is a spiritual home that helps me learn and grow.
2. Just be grateful and don't complain.
You are always the seeker, not the giver. Just like the natural educational live broadcast room of Huaxue last night, everyone seamlessly linked it, and it was perfectly presented in less than two days after the online learning ended. Be trusted, encouraged and nourished, full of energy. Thank you for your parents' spare no effort to raise them, and don't complain about your current physical decay and your narrow-mindedness in not believing in everything.
3. Think from the other person's perspective and look at the problem from the other person's perspective.
In the previous live broadcast, Senior Guifeng said that only when the parents gave birth to their rural hometowns, they could they feel the meaning of being alive. Respect everyone's choices.
4. Communicate more. Can understand and speak.
Many people criticize women for making things, not saying anything, insisting on people guessing and making trouble for others; on the contrary, Brother Mo always asks me to guess and see his face. Haha, in recent years of volunteer study and discussion, I have found that there are many men and women who have shown this kind of presence! In fact, people only have characteristics and no shortcomings. If they figure it out, they will not be entangled or angry, and express positive demands.
Thank you for having you all the way
Am I too nagging, not as high as the Analects of Confucius and the Book of Changes? Sorry for you, my friends who have read this, and for the teacher’s earnest teachings? !
write what I think, do what I think, and express sincerely. It is not only a commemoration of yourself, but also sincerely linking you with the same frequency. Because I know that there are mothers who are "like mothers" in my circle of friends and children who are "like me". If you have to improve your height, it means: A gentleman strives for self-improvement and keeps on his own. , a gentleman carries things with virtue; if you have spare energy, you will learn literature, recommend yourself to others, benevolent and love others, and love your kindness!
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