Is the saying "A loving mother defeated her son" true? I felt a little confused when I heard this for the first time. What kind of kindness does the "mercy" of the loving mother mean? Some say it is to accommodate everything, while others say it is to be inconsistent with irrational tolerance.
If we can’t figure out the meaning of “mercy”, we will mistakenly think that this kind mother is a compliment. In fact, it is not the case that excessive “mercy” will give children an incorrect view and will harm the children to some extent. In my opinion, the saying that a loving mother is too bad is true. Let me tell you a story.
The characters in the story include two boys, the mother of two boys, the grandparents of two boys, and the boy's teacher and classmates.
The story is like this. The two boys are good friends who grew up together. One boy is Xiaohao and the other boy is Xiaoxin. They live next door and are good neighbors who come and go. They go home together whether they go to school or after school. They are inseparable friends in the class. They are about to graduate from elementary school, but the quarrel broke out at a certain moment.
I remember when we were in elementary school, the classmates in the class would take good friends to go to the toilet together, and Xiaohao was no exception. At that time, he was about to go to the toilet, so he asked the classmates in the class who wanted to go to the toilet together. His good friend Xiaoxin went with Xiaohao. It was fine to go to the toilet, but after he came back, both of them stopped talking.
learned that they were a little rubbing in the toilet, because Xiaoxin was more active and he tried to get Xiaohao's face. At first, Xiaohao thought it was nothing to get his face if he was a good friend. Xiaohao told Xiaoxin not to get his face. After saying this, Xiaoxin looked unhappy, and the two of them walked into the classroom without saying a word.
After a while, I was about to go to class. After class, Xiaohao and more than a dozen classmates were playing and chasing. Xiaoxin happened to be there. Xiaohao wanted to not ask Xiaoxin to play with it, it would be more fun to have more people.
They still went home together as usual. After returning home, Xiaoxin's mother came to the door. Seeing that Xiaoxin's eyes were a little swollen, she thought to ask Xiaohao what was going on.
Xiaohao said nothing happened. He played my face in the toilet. I told him not to do it again next time. This matter is a completely small matter. We will still play chasing together after school. We will go home together. We talked and laughed along the way. As for why Xiaoxin cried, I don’t know.
Xin's mother didn't say anything when she heard Xiao Hao say this, and just returned to her home. After returning home, Xiaoxin's mother asked Xiaoxin, why are you crying? Why are your eyes swollen? Are there any classmates in the class bullying you?
Xiaoxin said that Xiaohao brought more than a dozen classmates to siege me this afternoon, and I can't beat them by myself. After hearing what he said, Xiaoxin's mother immediately came to Xiaohao's house again. It happened that Xiaohao's mother was also at home. Xiaohao's mother thought to herself what was going on?
Xiaoxin's mother said that this afternoon your son brought a dozen classmates to besiege my son, and my son's eyes were swollen when he got home. Xiaohao's mother immediately asked her son if you did this. The son said, "No."
After saying that, Xiaoxin's mother went home, was there or not. Xiaohao's mother was worried, so she went to Xiaoxin's house to ask clearly. If it was really done by her son, then I would definitely have to talk about her son.
Xiaohao's mother was stopped by Xiaoxin's grandmother standing outside the door before she stepped into the door. Xiaoxin's grandmother was a little excited. She said loudly: "Your son bullies my grandson. You still have the face to come to our house. Why do we come to our neighbors? What did your son do to my grandson? You still have the face to argue."
Xiaohao's mother felt a little wronged. She came here just to ask the whole story of the matter. She said that if my son really bullies your grandson, I will apologize to your family here.
Grandma Xiaoxin looked at her with a cold face and ignored her for a moment. In desperation, Xiaohao's mother could only call Xiaoxin's mother by calling, but Xiaoxin's mother did not answer the phone, which made the matter even more complicated.
The next day, Grandpa Xiaohao took Xiaohao to school. As soon as he entered the classroom, he saw that Xiaoxin was already inside. At this time, Grandpa Xiaohao asked Xiaoxin, how did Xiaohao bully you. At that time, all the classmates were on the scene, including the teacher. In the face of Grandpa Xiaohao's questioning, Xiaoxin cried. He borrowed a phone call from the teacher to call his mother. When the mother heard the crying sound of her son on the other end of the phone, her emotions immediately came.
Xiaoxin's mother sent a message to Xiaohao's mother, and she angrily said a lot of voice calls, saying that your son bullied my son, I didn't say anything. This morning, your father-in-law went to school to scare my son. He cried all the way and said that he would not dare to go to school to attend classes. It's too much for you to do this.
Before the matter was figured out, Xiaoxin's mother first scolded Xiaohao's mother with her temper. Is this way of handling it too extreme? Even if she is right, her reckless way of handling her is not desirable, but what is the truth of the truth?
The matter has reached the point where surveillance is needed. The two parents came to the school and asked the school to retrieve surveillance and check it. The surveillance video showed that Xiaohao was chasing and fighting with more than a dozen classmates at that time, and the matter was not like what Xiaoxin said.
Then it seems that Shin-chung is lying. Who gave Shin-chung's courage to lie? It can be imagined that it was caused by his mother's excessive "kindness". She easily believed her son's words, deepening the complexity of things with emotion. What his son said is what he completely ignored the truth of things.
He not only told a lie, but also said that Grandpa Xiaohao went to school to scare him, and this was not a threat. Grandpa Xiaohao just asked Xiaohao how he bullied him. He might have felt that his lie was about to be seen through, so he quickly complained to his mother and said that he was intimidating him. In this way, his mother was completely kept in the dark by his words.
Of course, she loves her son and does not want her son to be bullied by others. If anyone dares to bully my son, I will fight with her. Do you think the way this new mother handles things is desirable?
In my opinion, this new mother's handling method is too extreme. She took the wrong approach before she figured out the truth of the matter. She first insulted Xiao Hao's mother, and then slandered Xiao Hao's grandfather to intimidate his son.
As a role model mother for a child, she actually deals with problems in such a uneasy way. In the eyes of the child, what you do is to protect and love him. In the eyes of others, you are harming him.
Which mother doesn’t love her children? If you try to accommodate your child's lies, then you can only leave it to the state to deal with it in the end. A child has the courage to lie. The support behind it comes from her relatives and the courage given to him by his mother. Is such a "kind" mother really good?
This involves an family education problem. A teenage child is full of lies. Who is the problem? This is a question worth thinking about.
I hope every mother can discipline her children in the right way, remember that spoiling will harm her children. Finally, I believe that the saying "A loving mother defeats her son" makes sense. What do you think about this?
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