The most wasted emotion in the world is hatred for relatives. It is connected by blood and fate, but it is alienated due to various reasons, and there are many people who have cut off their relationship. In fact, letting go of hatred is not only letting go of others, but also a fulfillment for oneself. When it is time to go, let go of prejudice and smile to eliminate grudges. It is better to leave regrets when it is irreversible.
Qu Ling wrote an electronic message to his younger brother Qu Ming before the operation, set up a password, sent it to his younger brother's email, and compiled a text message, setting it to send it regularly. If she can't wake up smoothly, let that letter convey her apology.
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It was already early morning, and Qu Ling stood on the balcony. The swaying mixed color bougainvillea is now hidden in the darkness, and the street lights emit a cold light.
She sniffed, turned around and returned to the study, and continued to write unfinished letters.
As I was writing, I couldn't help myself and fell on the table and started crying. For the knot that she and her brother had not been untied for many years, and for the unknown surgery.
Qu Ling's thoughts floated back to the past.
Qu Ling is 34 years old, her younger brother is 32 years old, and the two brothers are young, but they have not been in contact for 5 years.
Back then, 29-year-old Qu Ling was talking about marriage. My parents said that if you don’t give the money to the whole house of mahogany furniture, you will not be given.
Qu Ling didn't want her parents' dowry, but when her parents told her this, she still felt very uncomfortable. It's like telling her, "You're pouring water, we don't care about you."
Ordinary families may not have money to marry, but their families are different. My father has a fleet to receive project orders, a house, a car and a deposit. Although he is not rich, a dowry worth tens of thousands or tens of thousands of yuan is still a piece of cake.
or my mother said, "We have already looked at the house for your brother and planned to buy a house in full, otherwise he would be under too much pressure. If it were normal, we would prepare some money for you to take to your husband's house, and now there is a problem."
It turned out that my parents had already looked at the house for my brother in the provincial capital, with 8,000 yuan per square meter and 145 square meters of four bedrooms, four bathrooms and one living room, and the full amount was more than 1 million yuan.
Qu Ling was young and energetic, and she had not practiced to the point of being indifferent. She was furious when she heard this.
Her and her prospective husband's wedding room was emptied from their savings to make up for the down payment, and they also borrowed part of the renovation money from relatives and friends. She didn't ask her parents for help in this situation. She felt that this was her own business and she was not qualified to let her parents bear it.
Now, my parents would rather spend more than 1 million yuan to buy a house for my younger brother than give her the money to prepare a dowry.
"I always think of you, I buy a lot of clothes, shoes, tea, etc. Whenever you have something unpleasant, I call me and talk for an hour. No matter how tired I am, I will listen to it and comfort you and give you advice. But no matter how good I am, I am a daughter. You only love your younger brother because he is a son." Qu Ling's eyes were blurred in tears, and his speech was as fast as a bean, he said everything in his heart.
Mother explained as soon as possible, but to Qu Ling sounded pale and powerless.
A few days later, my brother called Qu Ling to ask about the specific wedding date so that he could take leave in advance to come back to attend the wedding.
Qu Ling said to the face, "I am not your sister, nor am I the daughter of my parents. I don't care about me, so why do you pretend to be in a deep sibling relationship? It really makes me disgusted."
"Sister, what's wrong with you? Why do you have a temper?" The younger brother on the other end of the phone looked innocent, which made Qu Ling even more angry.
"My parents paid more than 1 million yuan to buy a house for you. Can you say you know nothing? You know, and you still acted in front of me. Don't you think you are too much?"
"My parents did say they support me in buying a house, but they didn't talk about this level, I don't know."
But Qu Ling didn't want to listen, she just felt unbalanced. The matter of buying a house and dowry made Qu Ling deeply believe that as a daughter, she is just a dispensable one, and her parents and younger brothers are just strangers with only blood relationships.
Although Qu Ling's parents gave her a dowry of 160,000 yuan when she got married, she didn't take it. She felt angry and had been worried for many years.
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Later, my brother didn’t buy a house either, and my parents saved the money regularly. As time goes by, Qu Ling's relationship with her parents has improved, but it is always apart.
. Qu Ling and his younger brother are both in the provincial capital, with no communication, no phone number or information.
Year ago, Qu Ling suffered from rheumatoid arthritis. Because he took a lot of medicine every day, his stomach became worse and worse. As long as he was a little careless, he would definitely suffer from acute gastroenteritis and the pain was so painful.
One night, Qu Ling had acute gastroenteritis, her husband was on a business trip, and her 1-year-old daughter was sleeping. Qu Ling carried his daughter with all his strength, bent her waist, covered her stomach, moved step by step, and walked to the side of the road and took a taxi to the hospital.
Doctor said how can one be done? Call your relatives or friends to come over, at least help with the child.
Qu Ling marked the address book and could not disturb his parents. The old man could not withstand the trouble. What should I do if he drove to the provincial capital? My husband is on a business trip from another province, so don’t even think about it. The only friend didn't know how to drive, and she was worried about coming around most of the city in the middle of the night.
Qu Ling bit her lip, endured the pain, hesitated for a long time, and called her brother. On the other end of the phone, my brother just asked which hospital he was and hung up the phone.
Qu Ling didn't expect it, but later his younger brother came. I learned about the condition with the doctor, confirmed whether I had paid the medical expenses, and hugged Qu Ling's daughter to coax her to sleep. I got home late at night and took a short break. I woke up early and cooked porridge and stir-fried light side dishes.
When Qu Ling woke up, his younger brother had already left. Qu Ling stood there for a long time, and the string that had been tense in his heart for many years was broken.
After many years, Qu Ling became a mother and became more calm. Why can I not contact my younger brother for so many years for money? Even if the parents prefer boys over girls, my younger brother did nothing wrong, but he silently endured her resentment.
But Qu Ling didn't have the use of actively opening the knot in her heart, she was awkward to compete with herself.
unexpectedly arrived. Not long after, Qu Ling went to the hospital for examination due to unbearable abdominal pain and found a uterine tumor. It is certain that the surgery is needed, but one thing is that Qu Ling is one layer of danger than the same patient.
Because Qu Ling has been eating and drinking immune preparations, the risk of anesthesia is greater. Before gynecological surgery, he consulted with anesthesia department , and the conclusion was to strengthen intraoperative monitoring and make emergency preparations.
Qu Ling asked himself, what if he can't wake up? What should I do if there is a real accident? The daughter entrusts her to her husband, and how can she and her brother resolve the knot in her heart?
Qu Ling, who had been thinking about it, decided to write a letter to her younger brother and write down her unspoken apology. After writing the letter, she set up a password, sent the letter to her younger brother's email, and compiled a text message that was sent regularly.
However, on the day of the operation, before Qu Ling entered the operating room, his younger brother suddenly came to the ward. Qu Ling cried in a daze.
"It's just a minor surgery, don't be afraid, I'll be there." My brother is concise and always like this.
Qu Ling looked at her husband and knew it in her heart.
Fortunately, the operation went smoothly, and the tumor was benign. Qu Ling, who woke up, forgot to cancel the text message sent regularly. She suddenly felt a little shy. She was too old and said sensational words. I wonder if my brother would laugh at her after reading it.
But no one mentioned this.
Now my younger brother occasionally asks her if she is in good health, and tells her to pay attention to rest, come to her house for dinner on holidays, and play with Qu Ling's daughter. On weekdays, I send grapefruit, avocado, durian, etc. to Qu Ling.
Qu Ling lamented that this was a blessing in disguise, and this is what the siblings should look like.
What Qu Ling didn't know was that the letter she wrote intermittently was seen by her husband and had already told her brother-in-law in advance.
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In fact, hating someone is a very tiring thing. There is a stone pressing on your shoulders and a shackle in your heart. No matter how happy things are, they will be reduced by half. In fact, it is just a competition with yourself. Especially when the other party is a relative whom he can’t give up, it will become even more tiring to carry hatred.
From the stories of Qu Ling and Qu Ming, we can understand two truths:
The road of life, parents accompany them halfway, brothers and sisters accompany them for the rest of their lives, brothers and sisters are still the precious feelings in this world, and they should be cherished when they have them. When I was young, I wanted to get more attention from my parents. After adulthood, they all work hard, and for their own lives, some brothers and sisters are gradually drifting away.
But no matter how many people and things are separated, at critical moments, the ones that are trustworthy and rely on are often the brothers and sisters. When we have something to do, only brothers and sisters will go there as soon as possible and give them all their help.
Teen and tongue often fight, and there will inevitably be conflicts between brothers and sisters. Just laugh off the small conflicts, communicate with big issues, negotiate and make agreements on big issues, and everyone abide by them. If you are all interested, your relationship will not be bad.
To take a step back, parents have the right to distribute their property, and even their children are not qualified to compete. Fairness is one of our basic demands in life in society. But in terms of family affection, it is difficult to solve everything with fairness, especially the parents' property.
Emotions are difficult to quantify, and it is difficult to achieve absolute fairness in the property dominated by emotions. For this unfairness, there are too many brothers and sisters who have broken up, and there are many people who have resentment and have broken off their relationship.
But they often fight to the end, and they may not be happy even if they get money and houses. It’s better to open up the pattern, after all, it’s not the result of my own struggle. My parents are willing to give it to me, and I’m lucky. If your parents make other arrangements, they will be calm. It’s the most realistic thing to rely on yourself.
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