Hongjie said that her leader’s husband was the principal of a school and unfortunately suffered a stroke for 7 years after more than ten years of retirement. She suffered a stroke and suffered a hardship. Her adopted daughter had a grandson and her family again, and she didn’t get close enough to help her. They were all the nieces of the leader pushing a wheelchair around the community yard. Later, after entering the intensive care unit, , the adopted daughter insisted on removing the oxygen tube, but did not want to rescue her. Last year, her leader's husband died of illness in such a miserable state.
Fangfei asked curiously: Is your leader giving real estate and other property to his niece, which has caused his adopted daughter to be jealous, so he doesn't care much about the elderly?
Sister Hong said that it’s not like this. If I really give my niece some property, I would think a little bit more. I just think the old man lives a very failed life and did not arrange his evening scene. The two of them have relatively good financial conditions. There are three large houses that have not been cashed out. One of them has a new house with the unit index, and the name of the adopted daughter and grandson is written. The leader wanted to decorate a few years ago and enjoy it in his later years, but the adopted daughter just didn't give the keys. He told outsiders that he was afraid that they would die in the new house and the house was not easy to sell.
Fangfei continued to ask curiously: Does her adopted daughter know she was adopted? Why did she adopt a child?
Sister Hong said that our unit knows that she is adopted, and she should know it herself. The two old men should be very good to her. At least my leader has never taken the initiative to tell outsiders that the adopted daughter is not right, at least he left all the property to her, although she did not fulfill her obligations to support and take care of her. They have no fertility and have adopted an abandoned baby born to hijack family planning in the countryside. This daughter is lucky. She is in such a good family in the city. She doesn’t have to worry about studying and working, and the unit is also arranged very well by her adoptive parents.
It can be heard that Sister Hong regrets the injustice for her leader and silently condemns her adopted daughter.
Fangfei asked Sister Hong, does your leader also know that you are the adopted daughter? She didn't tell you anything heartfelt?
Sister Hong said that of course she knew that I was in the same situation as her, so she was very close to and caring about me. I could see that she knew she had not lived well, and her adopted daughter and her husband were not good at being intimate or close to each other. She felt very uncomfortable and was not easy to talk to, so her heart was depressed, which led to both husbands and their husbands' death.
"If it were me, at least I would have to sell a house and turn it into cash to pay for care and nursing homes for recuperation. We should not suffer by guarding the house like this. The two of them couldn't even bear to invite a nanny. They were tired of each other and their niece, and they really couldn't make a living."
Fangfei said that they were a life case of the previous generation adopting children. The previous generation raised more, basically four or five, eight or nine or even ten, and only one child had few children. Therefore, the only child adopted was even more precious. They must be afraid of melting in their mouths, and they were afraid of flying in their palms, so they naturally developed a child's spoiled character. Give all your love to your only adopted daughter, but when you are old, you are still physically and mentally exhausted and have no support. This is the fate that your leader has not escaped.
Now, we are all only children. The happiness index of our generation is entirely determined by our thoughts and wisdom, and also by our happiness view .
Zhang Ailing once said:
The greatest happiness in life is to discover the person you love and love yourself deeply.
Love is not only an explanation to others, but also an explanation to oneself.
Whether to others or to yourself, love is actually a responsibility. Everyone is responsible for their love. In a sense, love is a kind of practice.
Just as a poem says:
"If you see me, or don't see me, I'm there, neither sad nor happy. If you think, or don't think of me, love is there, neither coming nor going. If you love, or don't love me, love is there, neither increasing nor decreasing. If you follow me, my hand is in your hand, never giving up. Come to my arms, or let me live in your heart, fall in love silently, and be happy in silence."
Fangfei feels that parents are the most selfless human beings in life, willing to contribute and sacrifice. Even if the loved ones do not love themselves so much, and even hate themselves, they have no regrets. They willingly give and contribute to their children, even if they are adopted, without reservation. This is a gene encoding that cannot be changed in our bones and blood!
touches the adopted son with one hand, and replaces all the emotions in the emotional world of adoptive fathers and mothers. Even if they are hurt, even if they are physically and mentally exhausted, they still stick to that kindness. This is the greatness of parents' love.
In fact, we will all grow old and eventually sleep together in the mountains and rivers. But we will live a good life well, learn to be more selfish, love ourselves a little, leave no regrets, and do not drag ourselves down and enjoy the health and happiness that life gives us. This is the best answer to life.
Friend, after reading this story, what kind of insights and alert do you have? Do you support Fangfei's views and remarks? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area, and we talk about a better life together!
[The text is original in Changde, Hunan, and the picture is taken from the primary school students who love photography at Yintan Photography Home in Shandong. Thank you for your dedication! ]
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