This is the 948th real person story we told
My name is Shuangyi
(My sister and I are on the streets of Chiang Mai, Thailand)
On August 3, 1990, my twin sister and I were born in Hohhot, Inner Mongolia. My sister and I have a very good relationship. We have been almost inseparable from childhood to adulthood. She is the most important one in my life.
Our family is Hui tribe , and we believe in Islam . My father first opened a chain pharmacy, and later he started real estate development. My mother is an ordinary civil servant. I grew up in such a wealthy family and have always been worry-free in my life.
My twin sister and I have been together since childhood, playing together and going to school together. Their intimacy even exceeded our relationship with our parents. When we were 617 years old, we were admitted to the Flight Attendant Department of Inner Mongolia Normal University. Because we have dreamed of being a flight attendant since we were young, and we felt that it was very interesting to fly around the sky and contact people from all over the world.
But when parents found out, they strongly opposed it. They felt that being a flight attendant was dangerous, so they changed the flight attendant department we applied for to the Tourism Management Department. My sister and I were very angry, but we couldn't resist our parents. So we both decided to find an agent to study in Malaysia with our parents on our backs.
(I am in a cafe in Chiang Mai, Thailand)
All the procedures for studying abroad were handled by me and my sister. It was not until the last step was to sign the agreement that my parents knew about it. Because my sister and I were not 18 years old at that time, we had to sign with our parents.
They see that we sisters have decided and support us in studying abroad. At that time, we signed up for business administration. From childhood to adulthood, we saw that my father was developing smoothly in business, so we were also very interested in doing business.
chose to study in Malaysia, but there is actually another reason. Because Malaysia's state religion is Islam, we think that studying abroad will be more adaptable to diet and customs.
The university we are studying is a national university in Malaysia, and the president is the previous king Najib . We also met with Malaysia's first Prime Minister Mahathir. The locals saw the twin sisters in China for the first time, and they were very curious. There were always people who enthusiastically pulled me and my sister to take photos.
(My sister and I have been inseparable from childhood to adulthood)
There were also some unhappy things during our study abroad period. To our expectations, we were not very comfortable with Malaysia's diet and living habits. The food here is sweet, and even the mutton skewers are sweet, which is really hard to swallow.
The living habits of local people are even more bizarre. They don’t use chopsticks or knife and fork to eat, but they just grab and eat with their right hand. Of course, they washed their hands with disinfectant water before meals. But in our opinion, this kind of eating appearance is too indecent and unhygienic. But Malaysians are used to it and only use knife and fork at Western banquets or when dining in high-end restaurants.
The bathroom at the University of Malaysia is also very crazy, there is no toilet paper. They don’t use toilet paper after bowel movements, but rinse them directly with water. When we first saw this, it felt incredible. But this method is a habit for Malaysians and they never feel embarrassed.
The school dormitory area does not have hot water yet, and everyone is used to taking a bath with cold water. The girls also have cold water baths even during their menstruation. My sister and I couldn't accept it at all, so we moved outside and maintained the diet and living habits of our Chinese people.
(Isn’t I very beautiful in Pakistani clothes?)
After graduation, my sister and I originally wanted to continue to go to graduate school, but my dad, , mom hopes that we will return to China to take the civil service exam so that we can stay with them. Later, we worked hard to get ashore in the public examination and were assigned to the tax bureau.
But we sisters are born to be unwilling to be ordinary and like to challenge. By the age of 25, he had been working in the tax bureau for several years, so he decisively gave up his "iron rice bowl" and opened a restaurant. didn't expect to succeed in his first business. After five years of operation, we made about 1 million yuan even though we made money while spending.
After the sweetness of entrepreneurship, we both began to be "restless" again. After some discussion, I decided to go to Chiang Mai, Thailand to develop, study and start a business and make money.
We applied for a graduate student at Chiang Mai University , and then brought a large amount of funds to Thailand to open a Thai restaurant. I think about bringing the Thai food I learned back to Inner Mongolia in the future. Because there were still relatively few Thai restaurants in China at that time, we felt that there was a great future in developing Thai restaurants. When
opened, it was nervous and worried that no one would come, but I didn’t expect that the first day was full of guests. Only then did I realize that a chef and a side dish are not enough. Before we found the handyman, we sisters were washing vegetables and dishes. Although it is tired, there is motivation if there is hope.
(My sister and I are wearing traditional Thai women's clothing)
Every day in Thailand is fulfilling and busy. We go to buy groceries at five or six in the morning, and then go to class again in the morning. During noon and holidays, I will go to the restaurant to help.
Because of the good business, we expanded to three restaurants, adding chefs and waiters. At the same time, in addition to the restaurant business, they also do takeaway, which greatly expands the customer base and increases income. Therefore, when they are young, they earn 1 million yuan. After the development of
was smooth, we also opened a trading company, mainly engaged in food trade between Thailand, Malaysia and China.
At the end of 2019, we returned to China to celebrate our birthday to my father. At that time, the trading company also received several orders. Unexpectedly, the epidemic came, we were trapped in Hohhot, our career in Thailand was stranded, and the trading company's business also paid a lot of liquidated damages.
But parents think that money is not important, safety is the first priority. They think that the epidemic prevention and control abroad is particularly bad, so they let us stay at home. The study cannot be carried out, so I can only wait for online teaching.
Later, my sister and I regained our strength and opened another restaurant in Hohhot. We firmly believe that the setbacks of the past are just past tense, and our future life will be brilliant.
As Barza said, "The withering of a flower cannot desolate the whole spring, and a setback cannot desolate the whole life."
(I met a handsome Pakistani boy)
Because I have not finished my graduate students in Thailand, I need to learn in Thai online, so I downloaded an APP that can communicate with multiple foreign languages. Unexpectedly, I started my Internet fate and met a Pakistani boy.
At that time, he studied abroad at Shaanxi University of Traditional Chinese Medicine . After chatting with a few times, I thought he was a very gentleman boy and had a good impression of him. But it was only limited to this. It was not until some things that happened later that he gradually entered my heart.
I got sick that day. After he found out in his circle of friends, he took the train from Xi'an to Inner Mongolia and brought me medicines very considerately. I was warmed by him at that time, but I didn't expect that he was so affectionate to me.
He told me that from the online chat, he had determined that I was his lover in this life. Because no matter my appearance, personality, and temperament, I fit the image of the goddess in his heart. When I really saw him, I thought he was quite handsome, and they all believed in Islam, so they had many common languages when communicating.
(My husband and I are in Hohhot)
His name is Musab, and he is 5 years younger than me. His Arabic is very good, and my Arabic is only at the primary level, so he taught me Arabic and I taught him Chinese.
Musab was about to finish his studies when he met me and was about to return to China for an internship. But for me, he stayed in China for internship. After that, we contacted the two of us online for two or three months, and he also came to Hohhot twice. While getting along, I think he is a very careful and caring boy.
For example, in daily chat, he will remember my dietary preferences. When I went to Xi'an to meet him, I was surprised to find that the restaurant he had booked in advance was my favorite style, and he asked the waiter to prepare the small ingredients I liked.
If there is wind outside, he will help me put on my clothes, for fear that I will catch a cold.When I go shopping together, he will also help me carry my bag. After several contacts, I felt that he was not only talented but also had good character cultivation, so I accepted his pursuit.
(Pakistani husband is sunny, handsome, gentle and considerate)
At that time, I had never been to Pakistan, but I just learned in the news that Pakistan is generally poor. And he didn't tell me what his parents do, whether their family is poor or rich. But I don’t care much about material things because I have a superior family background and I don’t lack material things.
Moreover, my parents also said that looking for a partner should not look at his family conditions, but about his character and ability. So, later Musab and I reached the point of discussing marriage.
In June 2021, Musab graduated from studying abroad and returned to Pakistan in July. I went to Pakistan with my sister at the end of July. After that, I met his parents, brothers, sisters and sisters, and then I was surprised to find that he had a wealthy and huge family.
It was not until then that Musab told me about his parents. His father was first born in a peasant family and changed his destiny by studying hard. When he grew up, he joined the army and served as an air force commander.
His mother's family belongs to the landlord and is relatively rich. When he got married, his family gave him a generous dowry. Therefore, Musab's family is relatively rich and has a social status.
(My in-laws is a big family with a very social status)
After learning about this, I appreciated Musab again, but I didn't expect him to be so low-key. Moreover, his family is also very kind and simple, and treats me better than Musab, and I don’t let any housework do. My sister-in-law made cakes for me, and my mother-in-law also learned to make Chinese food for me. My parents-in-law also gave me a meeting gift of about 5,000 yuan in RMB.
In September, we began to prepare for engagement. Due to the epidemic, my parents were unable to attend the engagement ceremony in Pakistan, and could only discuss with their parents-in-law over the phone. My parents-in-law asked me to ask about Chinese marriage customs, and they wanted to marry me completely according to Chinese marriage customs.
Then, my mother-in-law took me and my sister to customize expensive wedding dresses and dresses, and also customized hardware and ten-carat ruby rings for me. At the same time, I also bought my sister and mother a seven-carat gem ring. I even gave me a bride price of 188,000 yuan in accordance with Chinese marriage customs.
In fact, in Pakistan, the woman wants to give the man a dowry and bring the dowry to the man’s house. But my parents-in-law married me according to Chinese marriage customs, which was enough to reflect their respect for me and my parents.
(My sister and I were wearing Pakistani women's clothing)
My parents also prepared dowry and dowry for me according to Pakistani customs, but these were all to be kept in China. They gave me a dowry of 50 acres of farms and two houses in Guangdong and Hohhot, and a blanket of gold wire inlaid jewelry bought from Dubai , and also gave me a sum of cash.
The practices of both parents not only reflect respect for each other, but also reflect the equal strength of the family background of both parties. So while I thank my in-laws, I am even more grateful to my parents. They not only poured love into my marriage, but also made me more confident and dignified.
In October, we officially held the engagement ceremony and held the wedding in December. The Pakistan wedding is divided into three days. The first day is when parents of both parties hold parties for their children, the second day is to hold a wedding, and the third day is to return gifts.
(Entertainment scene between my husband and I)
My parents are in China, so we held the first day of the dance together.
Late at night, I came out in green dress to meet the guests. With the help of our sisters, we walked around our new home three times, saying that from today on, I will become a new member of this family.
Then, Musab and I sat on a sofa decorated with flowers to welcome the guests to come and send our best wishes. But there is a strange custom in Pakistani weddings. The bride must keep a sad face from beginning to end, and the heavier the sad face, the more respected it will be from people. Because the sad face is to show the bride's reluctance to her family.
Guests also took photos with us. Then everyone had a buffet together, and there was a money-spreading process in the middle, and the children were happily picking up money.
That night, the women and guests from the in-laws' family took turns dancing, from 6 pm to early morning the next day, and everyone was happy. Because "produces" at the wedding of Pakistani Tie, it is regarded as respect for the owner and blessings to the newlyweds, which will make the owner very happy.
(Ba Tie wedding, the bride and groom must have a serious expression)
The next day is the day for the wedding ceremony. I slowly walked out from behind the gauze tent, entered the ceremony venue, and then walked hand in hand with Musab towards a pumpkin cart pulled by a white horse.
Father-in-law prepared aerial photography and fireworks for us. Along the way, my elder brother and brother-in-law were spending money to the people who came to enjoy the joy.
The carriage slowly drove towards a castle-like wedding restaurant where there was a convoy of carriages greetings, and the beating drums and drums were very lively. There are also women in gorgeous costumes dancing to cheer up their atmosphere, which looks particularly charming against the backdrop of fireworks.
When we arrived at the wedding scene, the guests began to throw petals on our heads. Although Musab and I were full of happiness and joy, we still had to keep our faces tense and keep our solemn and serious. The guests also looked solemn, and this kind of marriage atmosphere is a world of difference from our China.
The third day of the wedding was the woman’s return gift, but my parents were in China, so our wedding was only held for two days.
(At the wedding, we were sitting in a pumpkin cart pulled by two white horses)
After the wedding, my sister returned to China and I lived in Pakistan for nearly a year. Every day I sleep and eat at home, and then wait for my husband to take me out to play after get off work.
Although my in-laws are very nice to me, I still feel that I am not very adaptable due to language communication barriers and being bored in doing nothing all day. Later, we finally waited until the Chinese embassy in Pakistan opened before we had a flight back to China.
After returning to Hohhot, I continued to run the restaurant business and a farm with 50 acres of land given to me by my father. The farms raise poultry and livestock such as cattle, sheep, chickens, and vegetables, which are to allow family members to eat natural and pollution-free green vegetables.
We also opened B&B , which also did camping, barbecue, etc., and then opened a food company, intending to promote the beef and mutton from the farm nationwide and even overseas.
(The guests at the wedding were throwing money behind us)
Musab originally planned to go to a famous hospital in Beijing in November this year, but I happened to be pregnant recently, so he stayed for the time being to help me deal with various things about the farm and food company.
My husband and I were able to get married with lovers. Although it comes from the wonderful Internet, it comes from the mutual attraction of the soul. I think love does not distinguish between national boundaries, the key lies in the relationship between the two parties. As the saying goes, is destined to meet , but you will not meet each other without fate.
At the same time, A happy marriage is not only based on love, but also a matching of knowledge and family background between the two parties is also a plus for a perfect marriage. My husband and I will cherish this hard-won fate, work hand in hand and spend the rest of our lives together!
also wishes all lovers in the world to get married and have a happy life.
[Oral: Double One]
[Editor: Chen Ping]
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