1I am Aunt Tao, 67 years old this year, and my wife died of illness a few years ago. I have two sons and one daughter, both of whom are very filial. The eldest son is in business and has good conditions; the second son is the vice president of the unit with an annual salary of on

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I am Aunt Tao, 67 years old this year, and my wife died of illness a few years ago.

I have two sons and one daughter, both of whom are very filial. The eldest son is in business and has good conditions; the second son is the vice president of the unit with an annual salary of one million; the younger daughter is a teacher, and her in-laws' family is in business and has good financial conditions.

My own pension is more than 5,000 yuan a month, and with the money my children respect, my life is very comfortable. In the past few years, I traveled abroad all year round and enjoyed life.

The reason why I do this is also inspired by my wife.

My wife is 9 years older than me and is the eldest among his brothers and sisters. She is willing to endure hardships and is a good person. When he was 69 years old, his wife had lung cancer and he had not yet enjoyed his life.

At that time, everyone discussed it for him to treat him. We also had savings in our hands. My wife also had a sister and two brothers, both of whom were doing well. They also said that they would pay to help their wife treat her illness together, and her wife agreed.

After only a few months of tossing, my wife still passed away.

My wife died in the hospital and she was skinny and bone-skinned. A month before my death, my wife told me that it would be better to stop curing if I knew it and use the last time to spend more time with us.

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During the time I took care of my wife, I also saw a lot of life and death scenes. People, nothing can be better if you don’t get sick. Once you get sick, especially if you are seriously ill, your family is in a very good condition. If it is not good, it is really hard to describe it.

The key is that in many cases, spending money cannot save lives, it is just a few more days of lingering, and life has no quality at all.

So, I made a decision at that time, if one day, I would also do the same and would not treat it. In the last days, you must live well.

Fate is so magical. Last month, I felt very uncomfortable and went to the hospital for examination. gastric cancer , middle and late stages.

Before, I only thought it was stomachache , and I didn't care. Because I was having a hard time when I was young, my stomach has always been bad.

didn't expect that, and found out that this was the result. After picking up the results, I saw that my son and daughter were not in good expressions, so I asked them if I had no treatment. They quickly denied it, which made me even more convinced.

I said: Mom is also a person who has experienced life and death, so don’t lie to me.

When the little daughter heard this, she couldn't hold back and tears came out. Later, the eldest son said: Mom, it is indeed a bad disease. But it doesn't matter. We immediately asked someone to inquire which hospital is good and we will go to treat the disease. Money, you don't have to worry about it.

The second son and daughter also nodded.

Under my forced question, they told me the truth. Fortunately, after so much experience, I am not young anymore, so I am prepared. I said, I want to hear the opinions of experts.

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The next day, under the arrangement of my son, we changed to a better hospital, which is also a first-class hospital in China.

is just an expert suggestion, we should be treated conservatively. Because of this disease, once a person of my age suffers from it, it will be difficult to get better due to his own immunity. Even if the operation is done, it depends on the postoperative condition. If it is good, you will live for two or three years, but it is not easy to say...

After listening, the children also plan to find relatives and friends to contact foreign experts to see if they can go abroad for treatment.

The son also said that even if it costs millions, he would treat me.

I said, son, no need. Mom has lived enough in this life, and it’s time to go with your dad. I have been to the places I should go to in the past few years; I have taken me to eat all the delicious foods I should eat; I have also worn the good clothes...

Because your conditions are pretty good, my mother has lived a pretty good life in the past few years. There are no regrets now, and I don’t want to make trouble anymore. I know you are all in good condition and are willing to spend a lot of money to treat me.

But, think about the way your father died, he suffered and spent money, and it was so painful for people... So let's listen to the doctor.

When my daughter heard this, she burst into tears and said: Mom, we want you to spend more years with us.Our dad is no longer here. If you are no longer here, we will become children without fathers and mothers...

The second son nodded and said: Mom, we have all the conditions now. If you want to be filial to you, don’t be afraid of spending money. We have already agreed that each of our families will pay 1 million to help you treat your illness.

The eldest son also quickly took over the words and said: Mom, I have done a good business over the years. If 3 million is not enough, I will pay the remaining money...

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I looked at the three children in front of me and said: It's not a matter of money. I know that you have good conditions and are willing to respect me. To be honest, I'm not afraid of death, but I don't want to be like your dad. What's more, if you spend so much money, you will suffer, so why bother?

I think I have lived a solid life in this life... You are willing to spend money to treat me, and my mom is very happy. But if you live a few more years and live without quality, you have to go to the hospital all day long, and it’s boring to waste...

Life and death are life, the time I can spend with you is limited, and you still have your own children. So, we all want to open it...

After I finished speaking, they all cried.

In the next few days, the children also mobilized their spouse's brothers and sisters, as well as my two sisters, to persuade me. I told them what I thought, and they are all 60 years old and can understand them.

Finally, I chose conservative treatment.

I want to take advantage of the final stage to see the sea. My children will accompany me to Hainan during the National Day holiday.

Next, we plan to go to Yunnan together, while I can still walk around now.

I want to leave more happy memories with the children in the last stage of my life, instead of lying on the hospital bed all day and having tubes all over my body, it feels even more powerless.

I know that my children actually don’t fully understand me, but fortunately, they respect my choice.

If you are me, would you choose conservative treatment or have surgery?

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Fish said:

death is a problem that all of us cannot escape.

Some time ago, I attended two funerals of my relatives, and an elder died of lung cancer. It was already late when I discovered it, and people were gone four months later.

The final stage of the elders are conservatively treated.

Half a month before his death, I went to see him. He was in good condition, very calm, and could still joke with my parents.

I understand that the elders had already faced reality calmly at that time.

In his final stage, the children also fulfilled his wishes and came back more often with him and chatted with him. Everyone kept this wonderful time.

instead of running endlessly in the hospital, everyone was desperate. The key is that the money was spent, and the same result was still the same. Finally, there may be disputes between brothers and sisters over this, after all, not every family has the same conditions.

Of course, you should listen to the doctor more and then make the most advantageous choice based on the doctor's advice.

What do you think? If you were Aunt Tao, what would you choose? Can you accept Aunt Tao’s choice?