My brother got married and I donated 20,000 yuan in private money, but my mother-in-law scolded me for eating her rice but with kangaroo pockets.

Foreword

Ms. Yan is an accountant, with a serious salary of more than 5,000 yuan per month. However, Ms. Yan will help some small companies in private, and can also earn some pocket money every month. Ms. Yan herself Save it up and treat it as your own private money.

Ms. Yan's younger brother got married. Ms. Yan and his wife followed the ceremony. Ms. Yan also sponsored her brother 20,000 yuan. This 20,000 yuan was Ms. Yan's private money.

After the mother-in-law knew about it, Ms. Yan, who was accusing Sang Shuhuai, had kangaroo pockets while eating her rice.

1

Ms. Yan and her husband’s wedding room was jointly purchased by the two, with a down payment of 400,000. The husband paid 350,000 and Ms. Yan paid 50,000. At first, Ms. Yan didn't plan to pay the 50,000 yuan, but her mother-in-law said that if Ms. Yan couldn't tell her, her name could not be added to the house. The mother-in-law's meaning is very clear, their family can be big heads, but Ms. Yan must have a will.

All the furniture used in the decoration of the house was also made by the husband. A young man who has worked in society for several years will naturally not have so much money. To put it bluntly, it is actually the property of the parents-in-law.

The mortgage for the house is paid by Mrs. Yan and his wife. It is 6000 yuan per month. The husband’s salary is not high. The fixed salary is 8000 per month. The couple manages their own wages separately. The husband goes to the bank where the mortgage is deducted every month. The card was marked with 5000 yuan and Ms. Yan marked with 1000 yuan. The couple also set up a joint account for living expenses. The husband marked it with 1500 yuan each month and Ms. Yan marked 3000 yuan.

The remaining wages of each other are treated as pocket money.

2

My husband’s pocket money is moonlight, and sometimes it’s not enough. I have to ask Ms. Yan to give me something. Ms. Yan is an accountant and is very good at money management. In addition, Ms. Yan will take in some private work every month and help some small companies to do accounts, and she can earn thousands of yuan a month. These Ms. Qian Yan except for some individuals The expenses are basically saved.

Ms. Yan is a very filial daughter,She saves these private money so that one day her parents can use it when they need it.

Both parents-in-laws and mother-in-laws have pensions, so they don't worry about the old age. Ms. Yan's two children are brought up by the parents-in-law. Most of the pensions of the parents-in-law are also affixed to the two grandchildren.

Ms. Yan's marriage is relatively easy compared to other people. She also thanked her parents-in-law for their dedication and was very respectful to her parents-in-law. Almost every weekend, Ms. Yan will follow her husband to the parents-in-law’s house for dinner and to the parents-in-law’s house. Ms. Yan not only cooks the food, but also cleans the house.

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The relationship between Ms. Yan and her mother-in-law has always been very good, and her mother-in-law has never said anything that makes Ms. Yan uncomfortable. However, just last week, the mother-in-law accused Sang Huai and scolded Ms. Yan. She has a kangaroo pocket when she eats her rice.

The reason is that Ms. Yan’s younger brother got married. Ms. Yan’s husband and wife gave a gift of 5,000 yuan. This money is known to everyone. However, Ms. Yan gave her brother 20,000 yuan in private. This money is Ms. Yan’s private house. The money was secretly given, but Ms. Yan's brother had a weak mouth, and he even showed off so that Ms. Yan's husband would know.

The husband was very upset at the time, thinking that Ms. Yan did this too hurt the relationship between the husband and wife. Ms. Yan explained it for a long time before she let her husband down a bit. However, Ms. Yan did not expect that the husband would tell her parents-in-law about this matter. , Then, the mother-in-law deliberately pointed at Sang and cursed Huai while eating.

Ms. Yan knows that her mother-in-law said this to herself. The mother-in-law thinks that Ms. Yan has a kangaroo pocket to support her family.

Conclusion

In marriage, should a woman have private money? The daughter is different from the son. The daughter grew up in her natal family, but when she grows up, she goes to her husband’s house to help and build her husband’s house.

Can a married daughter support her natal family? It is estimated that any married daughter wants to help her when her natal family needs it. However, there must be a degree in helping. Don't let yourself become the demon of helping the brother, the demon of helping the brother, after all, your own little home is the place where a woman will live in her life.

Ms. Yan's 20,000 yuan made her mother-in-law think that Ms. Yan was eating her husband's rice but had a kangaroo pocket to support her family. Did Ms. Yan make a mistake? In the case that the husband and wife have paid 5,000 yuan for the gift, does Ms. Yan’s private 20,000 yuan violate the trust between the husband and wife?

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